The New Intimacy

Naked Reader Book Club Discussion: The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy and The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex (January 11, 7-11 EST)

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Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by Jul!a
My fingers are crossed for you
Thanks!
01/11/2011
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Ya we've had times where I was like OMG YES and then times where i know going into it that it ain't gonna happen. I would like to train my body to relax when I say too, I hate it when my mind is ready but my butt says HELL NO!
I've found that the anything-but-penetrati on approach to anal sex kind of keeps the body from tensing up. If I know I don't have to worry about pain of any kind, it makes it more fun and easier to relax. And sometimes that makes penetration a happy surprise (by request, of course).
01/11/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Sammi
Hi everyone!
Hey there Sammi! How goes it?
01/11/2011
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
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Originally posted by Illusional
She's having a blast right now, lol. Ring pops and tiaras.
Well, who wouldn't be having a great time with Ring Pops and Tiaras!
01/11/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
Oh, holy crap!

Yes... I've now got a new phobia! That's a very, very good reason to want to keep the fingers out of your butt.
If you use a nitril or non latex glove with a cotton ball over the tip of the finger it makes everything extremely nice. In a pinch a well lubricated condom and a cotton ball work as well.
01/11/2011
Contributor: staceejaxxx staceejaxxx
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
I've found that the anything-but-penetrati on approach to anal sex kind of keeps the body from tensing up. If I know I don't have to worry about pain of any kind, it makes it more fun and easier to relax. And sometimes that makes penetration ... more
I will try relaxing more next time.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Jessica Elizabeth Jessica Elizabeth
Crap I'm late!!!
01/11/2011
Contributor: staceejaxxx staceejaxxx
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Originally posted by Jessica Elizabeth
Crap I'm late!!!
Hello!
01/11/2011
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
I've found that the anything-but-penetrati on approach to anal sex kind of keeps the body from tensing up. If I know I don't have to worry about pain of any kind, it makes it more fun and easier to relax. And sometimes that makes penetration ... more
I usually don't like anything but penetration. I have tried a couple butt plugs, I really am not into having fingers anywhere near my anus and definitely not a mouth. I might be in the minority on this one though.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Jessica Elizabeth
Crap I'm late!!!
Just jump in the water is fine!
01/11/2011
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I am hoping to try a whole bunch of lubes really soon because about the only one he actually uses is Probe and it just feels nasty to me LOL
Did someone already suggest this and I missed it? I think there is a sampler pack of different lubes you can order on EF. I did that years ago and found a couple I really liked (and a couple I really hated!). Some lubes that come highly recommended irritate me.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Jessica Elizabeth Jessica Elizabeth
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
Hi all! I'm here but will probably be in and out. I haven't read either book this time, I'm way behind on EVERYTHING right now
OMG I feel the same way! O_O
01/11/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
I usually don't like anything but penetration. I have tried a couple butt plugs, I really am not into having fingers anywhere near my anus and definitely not a mouth. I might be in the minority on this one though.
I don't mind a mouth but ONLY when I know I am clean. Sigel doesn't care he loves being down there no matter what but still ya know?
Arch is a bit more finicky but he is AMAZING with his hands. That's where I learned about gloves and a cotton ball.
01/11/2011
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
Wow, things are really hoping tonight!

I mentioned Violet Blue, but we've been talking about the Anal Sex Guide, whose author is actually Tristan Taormino. Someone mentioned somewhere (can't think of where, at the moment) that she has an advice column dedicated to anal sex in Taboo Magazine.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
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Originally posted by Jessica Elizabeth
Crap I'm late!!!
Hi!
01/11/2011
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
Did someone already suggest this and I missed it? I think there is a sampler pack of different lubes you can order on EF. I did that years ago and found a couple I really liked (and a couple I really hated!). Some lubes that come highly recommended ... more
Have you, or has anybody else tried the Sliquid Organics Gel? That is the one that I am the most interested in but have not yet purchased.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
I usually don't like anything but penetration. I have tried a couple butt plugs, I really am not into having fingers anywhere near my anus and definitely not a mouth. I might be in the minority on this one though.
I don't mind a mouth but ONLY when I know I am clean. Sigel doesn't care he loves being down there no matter what but still ya know?
Arch is a bit more finicky but he is AMAZING with his hands. That's where I learned about gloves and a cotton ball.
01/11/2011
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
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Originally posted by Jessica Elizabeth
Crap I'm late!!!
There's no such thing as late unless you miss the entire meeting! Good to see you!
01/11/2011
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
Have you, or has anybody else tried the Sliquid Organics Gel? That is the one that I am the most interested in but have not yet purchased.
Or if there is anything out that which is all natural and works better I would love to hear about it.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
Have you, or has anybody else tried the Sliquid Organics Gel? That is the one that I am the most interested in but have not yet purchased.
I am hoping to try the organic gel soon.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
There is a WEALTH of information for men about how to make it pleasurable, male anatomy, how to stroke the prostate and even why it might be healthy for guys to do this. She goes into great detail about how liking anal sex doesn't make a man gay ... more
That definitely sounds like it's something I should take a look at. We're pretty experienced as far as anal on him goes, but if I can learn even a little something else that we can enjoy together, it's definitely worth it.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I don't mind a mouth but ONLY when I know I am clean. Sigel doesn't care he loves being down there no matter what but still ya know?
Arch is a bit more finicky but he is AMAZING with his hands. That's where I learned about gloves and a ... more
Gloves and a cotton ball? Did I miss something??
01/11/2011
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
It's going so fast... I had to stop and count backward to see who wins the #100 post $25 Gift Card...

It appears to be Airen! Congrats!
01/11/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
Well, who wouldn't be having a great time with Ring Pops and Tiaras!
I agree. I think for my 24th, I shall copy this gimmick.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Jessica Elizabeth Jessica Elizabeth
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
There's no such thing as late unless you miss the entire meeting! Good to see you!
LOL yay! Just glad to be here
01/11/2011
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
Congrats!
01/11/2011
Contributor: staceejaxxx staceejaxxx
Congrats, Airen!
01/11/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
It's going so fast... I had to stop and count backward to see who wins the #100 post $25 Gift Card...

It appears to be Airen! Congrats!
Congrats Airen!
01/11/2011
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
I usually don't like anything but penetration. I have tried a couple butt plugs, I really am not into having fingers anywhere near my anus and definitely not a mouth. I might be in the minority on this one though.
I think just liking anything anal is in the minority. There are a lot of inhibitions around anal sex, which is why I think Tristan's book is so helpful.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Alys Alys
Congratulations!
01/11/2011