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Naked Reader Book Club Discussion: The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy and The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex (January 11, 7-11 EST)

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Contributor: Alys Alys
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
You really should read this and get hubby to read it as well. The anatomy lessons alone will help you to learn to relax. Remembering to keep the sensations focused on what feels good rather than preparation for penetration will help your mind and ... more
I think that this was one of the greatest things about this book, her writing made it possible to relax, made it less of a how-to and more of a friend with good advice.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Jul!a
It's definitely getting bought. I figure even if it doesn't help me like it more (because sometimes we just don't like things), I'll at least have a little bit of extra knowledge
Hell you never know HE might actually like it! Nothing like a little pegging to bring a couple together.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
Since I haven't read it, can someone tell me how much info the Guide to Anal Sex has on performing anal sex/anal play on men? If any at all? I'm not so much a receiver in this area, but definitely a giver always looking to learn more.
01/11/2011
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
I'm glad you're still trying to make it better for all of you! I think a lot of people give up certain activities when it doesn't work the first time they try it. In the case of anal sex, communication is absolutely crucial.

There ... more
I like Liquid Silk, which is water-based but has a touch of silicone in it that makes the difference.

I am not a fan of super-thick lubes or anything that feels greasy. I don't know that this would work for everybody, in an anal capacity, but it works very well for me.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Hell you never know HE might actually like it! Nothing like a little pegging to bring a couple together.
We actually have a harness/dildo set and he does like it. It's not something that comes out all the time but we're looking into more dildos for him in the future.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
Hi everyone!
01/11/2011
Contributor: Alys Alys
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
Since I haven't read it, can someone tell me how much info the Guide to Anal Sex has on performing anal sex/anal play on men? If any at all? I'm not so much a receiver in this area, but definitely a giver always looking to learn more.
There's actually a whole section about anal pleasure for men..
01/11/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
I like anal sex SOMETIMES, and the experience varies, not only depending on my interest at the time but also due to my digestion and sometimes even what stage of my cycle I am in. Just remember there is no reason to do it if you aren't into it ... more
Ya we've had times where I was like OMG YES and then times where i know going into it that it ain't gonna happen. I would like to train my body to relax when I say too, I hate it when my mind is ready but my butt says HELL NO!
01/11/2011
Contributor: staceejaxxx staceejaxxx
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Originally posted by Sammi
Hi everyone!
Hi!
01/11/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Sammi
Hi everyone!
Hey Sammi!
01/11/2011
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
See? That's my problem! I really don't like being fingered there unless it's during PIV sex. I prefer toys...I've been cut with a fingernail and my butt will never forget it.
Oh, holy crap!

Yes... I've now got a new phobia! That's a very, very good reason to want to keep the fingers out of your butt.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
See? That's my problem! I really don't like being fingered there unless it's during PIV sex. I prefer toys...I've been cut with a fingernail and my butt will never forget it.
Oh, ouch!
01/11/2011
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
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Originally posted by Alys
I think that this was one of the greatest things about this book, her writing made it possible to relax, made it less of a how-to and more of a friend with good advice.
I do like Violet's how-to and education books for that reason. They are very easy to read and don't feel clinical or "educational."
01/11/2011
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
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Originally posted by Sammi
Hi everyone!
Sammi!!
01/11/2011
Contributor: Alys Alys
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
I do like Violet's how-to and education books for that reason. They are very easy to read and don't feel clinical or "educational."
Yeah,I find myself less likely to read if it gets dry and clinical
01/11/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Alys
I think that this was one of the greatest things about this book, her writing made it possible to relax, made it less of a how-to and more of a friend with good advice.
I definitely agree! I loved the simple language and the diagrams.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
Ooh, I can't wait to finally get my hands on this book.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
I do like Violet's how-to and education books for that reason. They are very easy to read and don't feel clinical or "educational."
I do too - I seem to get more information out of them because I can't stop reading. She has a great conversational style to her writing.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by staceejaxxx
Have you tried out your new toys yet?
Oh yes, yes.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Ya we've had times where I was like OMG YES and then times where i know going into it that it ain't gonna happen. I would like to train my body to relax when I say too, I hate it when my mind is ready but my butt says HELL NO!
Exactly, even when you ARE there mentally, it does not mean that your body will co-operate.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by Jul!a
Well as soon as it is you can go out and get some milk and cake

Any word on how much longer you'll be out of commission?
Another two weeks on stronger antibiotics and I should be dandy he says.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
Oh that's right.. Illusional got a great care package. What did you get?
And many thanks to you as well.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
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Originally posted by Alys
There's actually a whole section about anal pleasure for men..
Alright then...time to add this one to the wishlist!
01/11/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
You can take her out for cupcakes and celebrate her birthday AND your infection being gone when you are better!
She's having a blast right now, lol. Ring pops and tiaras.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
I like Liquid Silk, which is water-based but has a touch of silicone in it that makes the difference.

I am not a fan of super-thick lubes or anything that feels greasy. I don't know that this would work for everybody, in an anal capacity, ... more
Liquid Silk is pretty dandy.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
See? That's my problem! I really don't like being fingered there unless it's during PIV sex. I prefer toys...I've been cut with a fingernail and my butt will never forget it.
ACK.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Illusional
Another two weeks on stronger antibiotics and I should be dandy he says.
My fingers are crossed for you
01/11/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
Since I haven't read it, can someone tell me how much info the Guide to Anal Sex has on performing anal sex/anal play on men? If any at all? I'm not so much a receiver in this area, but definitely a giver always looking to learn more.
There is a WEALTH of information for men about how to make it pleasurable, male anatomy, how to stroke the prostate and even why it might be healthy for guys to do this. She goes into great detail about how liking anal sex doesn't make a man gay unless he likes haveing anal sex with other guys!
01/11/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
I like Liquid Silk, which is water-based but has a touch of silicone in it that makes the difference.

I am not a fan of super-thick lubes or anything that feels greasy. I don't know that this would work for everybody, in an anal capacity, ... more
I am hoping to try a whole bunch of lubes really soon because about the only one he actually uses is Probe and it just feels nasty to me LOL
01/11/2011
Contributor: Alys Alys
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
There is a WEALTH of information for men about how to make it pleasurable, male anatomy, how to stroke the prostate and even why it might be healthy for guys to do this. She goes into great detail about how liking anal sex doesn't make a man gay ... more
That and she's got a multitude of positions, with drawings, that should give you ideas
01/11/2011