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Naked Reader Book Club Discussion: The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy and The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex (January 11, 7-11 EST)

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Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
Woah! We lost internet and cable here for a few minutes, but I'm back now!

I see we hit 200 while I was away... woohoo!

This time, since we're so far past 200, the winner is the last person to post on page 7... Tori ... more
Yay, Tori!!
01/11/2011
Contributor: Alys Alys
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Originally posted by Illusional
Well what's a baby step to sexy?
I just want to make the first move and kinda take the lead.
He wants me to be on top but... yeah.
Grab him by the belt to lead him to the bedroom and then tell him to strip, it'll be extra sexy because you're in control, but you don't need to worry about buttons!
01/11/2011
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Alys
I've been single for the last 2 years, so I would have to say that my fantasy for the year is to be in a relationship where I can let myself be who I am. I didn't feel comfortable with my ex to even hint at my fantasies with him.
I think that is an awesome fantasy and I hope it comes true for you this year!
01/11/2011
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
Do you live near a beach? Certainly doable! Just watch out for sand in sensitive places... eek!
Everybody makes such a big deal out of sand! I honestly don't get it. A shower or bath will get it all off no problem. Haven't you ever taken your kids to the beach? I don't think we could pull of the amazing feats of sand smuggling they do on a regular basis no matter how hard we try.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by Alys
Grab him by the belt to lead him to the bedroom and then tell him to strip, it'll be extra sexy because you're in control, but you don't need to worry about buttons!
Hmmm, I like it. Maybe it'll work.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Alys Alys
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
I think that is an awesome fantasy and I hope it comes true for you this year!
Thanks
01/11/2011
Contributor: bzzingbee bzzingbee
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Originally posted by Illusional
Hmmm, I like it. Maybe it'll work.
I second that suggestion!!!
01/11/2011
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
Everybody makes such a big deal out of sand! I honestly don't get it. A shower or bath will get it all off no problem. Haven't you ever taken your kids to the beach? I don't think we could pull of the amazing feats of sand smuggling they ... more
Sand INSIDE sensitive female places causes the worst kind of itching and friction.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by Illusional
Well what's a baby step to sexy?
I just want to make the first move and kinda take the lead.
He wants me to be on top but... yeah.
Even just being close to him with your clothes on. Rub up against him, whisper in his ear, kiss his neck. These are all great precursors to straddling his lap, which can lead to dry humping among other things. Ooooh especially if you start with no pants on, just panties!
01/11/2011
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
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Originally posted by Illusional
Well what's a baby step to sexy?
I just want to make the first move and kinda take the lead.
He wants me to be on top but... yeah.
If I might make a suggestion... do something special for yourself, even something really little, to make yourself feel sexy the day you're going to see him. It can do amazing things for your confidence, and might help you to be a little more comfortable taking the lead if you can see yourself as the sexiest woman on the planet (which we ALL are in our own way). Anything from a mani/pedi, a new perfume, even a lacy ribbony thong from Victorias Secret under your clothes.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
Sand INSIDE sensitive female places causes the worst kind of itching and friction.
I have only been on a beach once, but I totally laid out on the sand and relaxed.
We didn't do anything weird, we played cards and talked about cosplay.
That does sound weird, but still. lol
01/11/2011
Contributor: bzzingbee bzzingbee
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
If I might make a suggestion... do something special for yourself, even something really little, to make yourself feel sexy the day you're going to see him. It can do amazing things for your confidence, and might help you to be a little more ... more
also a great suggestion! Feeling sexy to yourself can make a world of difference.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Dragonfirez Dragonfirez
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
Do you live near a beach? Certainly doable! Just watch out for sand in sensitive places... eek!
I do its about 50 min so it is doable
01/11/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
If I might make a suggestion... do something special for yourself, even something really little, to make yourself feel sexy the day you're going to see him. It can do amazing things for your confidence, and might help you to be a little more ... more
I do have a new bodywash, and a loofah.

I looove exfoliating!
I think I'll treat myself to a new thong or something.
Thanks!
01/11/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
If I might make a suggestion... do something special for yourself, even something really little, to make yourself feel sexy the day you're going to see him. It can do amazing things for your confidence, and might help you to be a little more ... more
I wanna try crotchless panties one day, lol.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Jessica Elizabeth Jessica Elizabeth
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
If I might make a suggestion... do something special for yourself, even something really little, to make yourself feel sexy the day you're going to see him. It can do amazing things for your confidence, and might help you to be a little more ... more
I agree. Working from home sometimes I don't even get out of my pajamas LOL Just taking 10 minutes for myself can do wonders on my self image/esteem for the day! ^^
01/11/2011
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
Sand INSIDE sensitive female places causes the worst kind of itching and friction.
I have never had this problem and have had sex on plenty of beaches as well as in the water. Maybe I'm just lucky.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Illusional
I tried to do a sexy thing like that before, and take off his pants and I was stammering so much, and then I got on my knees and tried to undo his pants.
I was shaking so much, and they wouldn't come undone and I tugged and hit myself in the ... more
Awww honey let him help you! Help him slowly undress with your hands over his making him take it slow and sensual like. Look him deeply in the eyes as you do and if you feel the urge to giggle DO IT! If you feel all emotional just tell him, he'll be blown away. It will help you learn the motions of undressing him, give him the feeling like he is teaching you and you get to be close close close in a non-threatening way.
This is how I taught Arch to undo my bra and stuff. He says it's amazing sexy.
Try lighting some candles or getting the fireless candles if you are worried about open flame.
If you are shaking tell him it's because you are so wanting this to be amazing for him and let him ease your fears. He wants too!
01/11/2011
Contributor: Dragonfirez Dragonfirez
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
Sand INSIDE sensitive female places causes the worst kind of itching and friction.
Is there a way to keep that from happening.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by Illusional
I have only been on a beach once, but I totally laid out on the sand and relaxed.
We didn't do anything weird, we played cards and talked about cosplay.
That does sound weird, but still. lol
You have only been to a beach once? Holy crap girl, go find a beach!
01/11/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Awww honey let him help you! Help him slowly undress with your hands over his making him take it slow and sensual like. Look him deeply in the eyes as you do and if you feel the urge to giggle DO IT! If you feel all emotional just tell him, he'll ... more
I'm saving my JimmyJane candle for V-day with him.
Gah, everything you said made me nervous! lol
01/11/2011
Contributor: bzzingbee bzzingbee
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Awww honey let him help you! Help him slowly undress with your hands over his making him take it slow and sensual like. Look him deeply in the eyes as you do and if you feel the urge to giggle DO IT! If you feel all emotional just tell him, he'll ... more
Airen, you have such great advice!
01/11/2011
Contributor: Dragonfirez Dragonfirez
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
I have never had this problem and have had sex on plenty of beaches as well as in the water. Maybe I'm just lucky.
Yeah water is fine its the sand I am worried about.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
You have only been to a beach once? Holy crap girl, go find a beach!
Texas here, and my parents weren't much for fun.
I haven't been to a zoo yet, or a circus or a carnival.

My boyfriend plans to take me to one.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Dragonfirez Dragonfirez
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Originally posted by Illusional
Texas here, and my parents weren't much for fun.
I haven't been to a zoo yet, or a circus or a carnival.

My boyfriend plans to take me to one.
wow sheltered life.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
I missed a lot again, holy crap, lol
01/11/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by Dragonfirez
wow sheltered life.
Lol yeah, no t.v. until 10 either.
01/11/2011
Contributor: staceejaxxx staceejaxxx
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Originally posted by Jul!a
I missed a lot again, holy crap, lol
Me too! I keep having to hide my screen from my son. Ugh!
01/11/2011
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
I have never had this problem and have had sex on plenty of beaches as well as in the water. Maybe I'm just lucky.
We did it in the water, the surf kind of crashed into us and I was totally miserable.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by Dragonfirez
Yeah water is fine its the sand I am worried about.
For you or her? For her it's as easy as being on top. Position on a beach is key.
01/11/2011