Sigel read the book before I did actually, He got it in the mail while I was in Canada and brought it with him when he visited. He was interested because he likes prostate stimulation and was wondering how to make the "job" less painful. (his words) We have had the whole grit my teeth and endure anal sex and we were wondering if we could turn that around into something we could enjoy together.

We are still working on it but I hope one day to be able to be as enthusiastic as other people I have talked to. It's rough because I have been hurt before with overly enthusiastic thrusting and a weird resistance to using anything other than saliva as lube. My body anticipates pain...

We are still looking for a lube that doesn't irritate Sigel and working on getting my body to relax and just feel. The book has lovely exercizes to help with this and we've found that a vibrator can be amazing for relaxation as it's so totally different from the whole poking and prodding with fingers "warm up". less

Sigel read the book before I did actually, He got it in the mail while I was in Canada and brought it with him when he visited. He was interested because he likes prostate stimulation and was wondering how to make the "job" less painful. (his words) We have had the whole grit my teeth and endure anal sex and we were wondering if we could turn that around into something we could enjoy together.

We are still working on it but I hope one day to be able to be as enthusiastic as other people I have talked to. It's rough because I have been hurt before with overly enthusiastic thrusting and a weird resistance to using anything other than saliva as lube. My body anticipates pain...

We are still looking for a lube that doesn't irritate Sigel and working on getting my body to relax and just feel. The book has lovely exercizes to help with this and we've found that a vibrator can be amazing for relaxation as it's so totally different from the whole poking and prodding with fingers "warm up". less

Sigel read the book before I did actually, He got it in the mail while I was in Canada and brought it with him when he visited. He was interested because he likes prostate stimulation and was wondering how to make the "job" less painful. (his words) We have had the whole grit my teeth and endure anal sex and we were wondering if we could turn that around into something we could enjoy together.

We are still working on it but I hope one day to be able to be as enthusiastic as other people I have talked to. It's rough because I have been hurt before with overly enthusiastic thrusting and a weird resistance to using anything other than saliva as lube. My body anticipates pain...

We are still looking for a lube that doesn't irritate Sigel and working on getting my body to relax and just feel. The book has lovely exercizes to help with this and we've found that a vibrator can be amazing for relaxation as it's so totally different from the whole poking and prodding with fingers "warm up". less

Sigel read the book before I did actually, He got it in the mail while I was in Canada and brought it with him when he visited. He was interested because he likes prostate stimulation and was wondering how to make the "job" less painful. (his words) We have had the whole grit my teeth and endure anal sex and we were wondering if we could turn that around into something we could enjoy together.

We are still working on it but I hope one day to be able to be as enthusiastic as other people I have talked to. It's rough because I have been hurt before with overly enthusiastic thrusting and a weird resistance to using anything other than saliva as lube. My body anticipates pain...

We are still looking for a lube that doesn't irritate Sigel and working on getting my body to relax and just feel. The book has lovely exercizes to help with this and we've found that a vibrator can be amazing for relaxation as it's so totally different from the whole poking and prodding with fingers "warm up". less

You really should read this and get hubby to read it as well. The anatomy lessons alone will help you to learn to relax. Remembering to keep the sensations focused on what feels good rather than preparation for penetration will help your mind and butt not sabotage each other. less