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EdenKink - Types of BDSM Relationships - Wednesday, November 16th, 2011 @ 8pm ET

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Contributor: Serenesub Serenesub
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Originally posted by AndroAngel
Okay, I have another question for the 24/7 people: Do you get a safe-word? Is there some kind of "out" in your relationship, or a time-out feature built in in case you need to talk as equals?

And another question, are there any ... more
I don't have a safeword at all. However, I know if I need to stop I can just tell him and he'll stop. It's all communication. Plus it's a huge matter of trust. I know he knows my responses well enough to know when I need to stop.
11/16/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
Quote:
Originally posted by AndroAngel
Okay, I have another question for the 24/7 people: Do you get a safe-word? Is there some kind of "out" in your relationship, or a time-out feature built in in case you need to talk as equals?

And another question, are there any ... more
I had an internet pen-pal-ship that was in the Daddy/little slut format before, but I doubt that's enough experience to answer whatever questions you've got. I'd certainly try, though.
11/16/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by AndroAngel
You and me both. Darn the hour-marathons.
amen sister.
11/16/2011
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
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Originally posted by Tessa Taboo
Is anyone in here dominant? Or are all of those that are in the lifestyle that are here, submissive?
I'm a Dominant-leaning Switch, in other words, I take both roles but most-often I'm dominant.
11/16/2011
Contributor: SugarLips SugarLips
Hi Everybody, I just got here, I'm sad that I missed most of this meeting. I just saw a question by AndroAngel about Daddy/littles. I am currently in a relationship with a man who loves to be called daddy and we have a sort of light D/s relationship. I wouldn't refer to myself as a "little" though--not too sure what that means.
11/16/2011
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
Quote:
Originally posted by AndroAngel
Okay, I have another question for the 24/7 people: Do you get a safe-word? Is there some kind of "out" in your relationship, or a time-out feature built in in case you need to talk as equals?

And another question, are there any ... more
Yes, we have a safe word just in case things get too extreme or what have you. Although I'm sure if I said something in certain tone of voice he'd know something was up, but the safe word's there.

I find petplay interesting but don't really engage in it. Also not really in a Daddy/little relationship, but refer to my Dom as Daddy because we didn't like the term Master
11/16/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by SugarLips
Hi Everybody, I just got here, I'm sad that I missed most of this meeting. I just saw a question by AndroAngel about Daddy/littles. I am currently in a relationship with a man who loves to be called daddy and we have a sort of light D/s ... more
hey there sugarlips.. awesome avatar! i want candy...
11/16/2011
Contributor: Tessa Taboo Tessa Taboo
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Originally posted by AndroAngel
I'm a Dominant-leaning Switch, in other words, I take both roles but most-often I'm dominant.
I was just wondering if you ever worried that you were TOO dominant.... like, if you ever felt like you were going to far, even though the other person wasn't saying so.
11/16/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by SugarLips
Hi Everybody, I just got here, I'm sad that I missed most of this meeting. I just saw a question by AndroAngel about Daddy/littles. I am currently in a relationship with a man who loves to be called daddy and we have a sort of light D/s ... more
i think it means, for example, 'daddy's little girl.' or little boy, or mommy's little girl/boy.
11/16/2011
Contributor: Vanille Vanille
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Originally posted by Noira
Aww, you know me even though my name is different. Yay! ^________^ <3 I love talking to you too! Who else can I squeal about kinky F/f Final Fantasy pairings with?!

(Honestly, though, you make me feel much more secure about the fact that I ... more
Heehee. I recognized the avatar off the bat.

I'm glad I helped ya make your decision. ^^
11/16/2011
Contributor: SugarLips SugarLips
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
hey there sugarlips.. awesome avatar! i want candy...
om nom nom!
11/16/2011
Contributor: Rayne Millaray Rayne Millaray
Okay, y'all, tonight's discussion's been great. You've all been awesome, and I've had a great time.

While I go find out who won the $50 gift card, why don't you guys do some of these things:

a) Tell us something you'd like to discuss next month.
b) Take a look at the Eden Gives Back project for the holidays.
c) Consider doing something for World AIDS Day.
d) Enter this awesome giveaway.
11/16/2011
Contributor: winterseve winterseve
Welcome SugarLips! Lots of good info in here. LOVE the openness- I am so glad I stumbled into Eden. I feel so much more free and comfortable.
11/16/2011
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
Hey, Sugarlips.

And for the question for Daddy/littles, I was actually curious about interactions in such relationships. What's the headspace like, do littles typically get into a younger headspace than their actual age, or is it just a matter of dynamic?
11/16/2011
Contributor: Rayne Millaray Rayne Millaray
Quote:
Originally posted by AndroAngel
Okay, I have another question for the 24/7 people: Do you get a safe-word? Is there some kind of "out" in your relationship, or a time-out feature built in in case you need to talk as equals?

And another question, are there any ... more
I don't have a safe-word, and there's not an "out". But M isn't insane, either.
11/16/2011
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
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Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
Okay, y'all, tonight's discussion's been great. You've all been awesome, and I've had a great time. While I go find out who won the $50 gift card, why don't you guys do some of these things: a) Tell us something you'd like ... more
a) I think the next topic should be all about petplay, I'm very interested to learn more about that type of play/fetish/relationsh ip.
11/16/2011
Contributor: SugarLips SugarLips
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
i think it means, for example, 'daddy's little girl.' or little boy, or mommy's little girl/boy.
Ah ok, that's what I figured. He refers to me as babygirl but it's not like "daddy's little girl". Does that make sense.
11/16/2011
Contributor: Serenesub Serenesub
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Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
I don't have a safe-word, and there's not an "out". But M isn't insane, either.
Haha yeah.. the argument of "But what if he tries to kill you?!" Always makes me laugh
11/16/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
Okay, y'all, tonight's discussion's been great. You've all been awesome, and I've had a great time. While I go find out who won the $50 gift card, why don't you guys do some of these things: a) Tell us something you'd like ... more
a) BDSM stereotypes and how they've affected you. how you've helped open others' eyes to the world of BDSM.

b) done it! donated! am adopting a fam for christmas

c) havent checked it out yet but will go look and

d) already did today!
11/16/2011
Contributor: Starkiller87 Starkiller87
Quote:
Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
Okay, y'all, tonight's discussion's been great. You've all been awesome, and I've had a great time. While I go find out who won the $50 gift card, why don't you guys do some of these things: a) Tell us something you'd like ... more
Im sad sir didnt join this time. I love reading his prospective.
11/16/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by SugarLips
Ah ok, that's what I figured. He refers to me as babygirl but it's not like "daddy's little girl". Does that make sense.
sure.
11/16/2011
Contributor: Jobthingy Jobthingy
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Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
Okay, y'all, tonight's discussion's been great. You've all been awesome, and I've had a great time. While I go find out who won the $50 gift card, why don't you guys do some of these things: a) Tell us something you'd like ... more
a) I dont know.. I will prob just lurk and wonder how alice gets stuck in my head all the time cause she asks stuff just as it pops in my brain.

b) I will

c) I do every day

d) Been there, done that, but I dont have the corset... yet
11/16/2011
Contributor: winterseve winterseve
I would also love to talk about petplay next time. I thought I was one of the only people who thought that being a cat made sense till I started google searching and also till Eden. *wishing my husband would be more into it*
11/16/2011
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
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Originally posted by Tessa Taboo
I was just wondering if you ever worried that you were TOO dominant.... like, if you ever felt like you were going to far, even though the other person wasn't saying so.
I'm from the school of thought that it's the dominant's job to make sure things don't go too far, the Dom needs to be able to watch their sub for signs of distress and if they suspect something is wrong they pause and ask the submissive to confirm that they're okay.

Once, in a fairly tame scene, my lover went still and silent, which isn't typical of him, so I stopped everything until he could confirm for me that he was okay.
11/16/2011
Contributor: Tessa Taboo Tessa Taboo
Quote:
Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
Okay, y'all, tonight's discussion's been great. You've all been awesome, and I've had a great time. While I go find out who won the $50 gift card, why don't you guys do some of these things: a) Tell us something you'd like ... more
Next month: Fisting, Electrostimulation, P-Spot Stuff..... all things I"ve been interested in lately.....
11/16/2011
Contributor: SugarLips SugarLips
Quote:
Originally posted by AndroAngel
Hey, Sugarlips.

And for the question for Daddy/littles, I was actually curious about interactions in such relationships. What's the headspace like, do littles typically get into a younger headspace than their actual age, or is it just a ... more
To me, it's a D/s relationship with a slightly sweeter and more caring sentiment. And actually, I don't know if I can really say that because I've never been in a true "D/s" situation before this but that's what it seems like to me. He is my protector and cares for me much like a real father would but then we have crazy nasty kinky sex. We are the same age and in our role play we are always adults. It's never like age play or anything like that, not incest.
11/16/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by Tessa Taboo
Next month: Fisting, Electrostimulation, P-Spot Stuff..... all things I"ve been interested in lately.....
fisting! i it.

and double vag penetration. toy and tool. yes please.
11/16/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
Quote:
Originally posted by AndroAngel
Hey, Sugarlips.

And for the question for Daddy/littles, I was actually curious about interactions in such relationships. What's the headspace like, do littles typically get into a younger headspace than their actual age, or is it just a ... more
Mine definitely did not have an age dynamic at all. I would describe it more as like a control/caretaker dynamic? Since he was in a different country, he would give me assorted tasks/assignments that I could do for him, and when I'd come back successful he'd give me lots of praise and make me feel good.

It was super-symbiotic because we had a whole lot of kinks in common, so just about everything he would think of to assign me was something I would have done in a heartbeat if I had thought of it myself, and it turned me on doubly to be instructed to do (whatever it was). He pushed my boundaries in a lot of fun ways.

And he was just vary caring and made me feel very comfortable, all the time, even when he was challenging me. I think that's the part that he felt fitted as far as giving us "Daddy / Daddy's little slut" as pronouns. Caring and appreciative and supportive.
11/16/2011
Contributor: Vanille Vanille
Quote:
Originally posted by AndroAngel
Okay, I have another question for the 24/7 people: Do you get a safe-word? Is there some kind of "out" in your relationship, or a time-out feature built in in case you need to talk as equals?

And another question, are there any ... more
Some do, some don't. I'm in a LDR right now so we don't do a whole lot of play. However once we're short-distance we will iron out the last of the 'kinks' (Hrhr see what I did there.) in the relationship, including a safe-word. Some people believe you don't need one and that the other person 'knows' your body, and that you can get to a point in your relationship where your D-type can say (with your consent of course.) You know, you don't need that anymore.

For me I rather have one, no matter how 'progressed' the relationship is.
11/16/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by Jobthingy
a) I dont know.. I will prob just lurk and wonder how alice gets stuck in my head all the time cause she asks stuff just as it pops in my brain.

b) I will

c) I do every day

d) Been there, done that, but I dont have the ... more
oh really>?


had no idea! *mischevious grin.
11/16/2011