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EdenKink - Types of BDSM Relationships - Wednesday, November 16th, 2011 @ 8pm ET

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Contributor: Rayne Millaray Rayne Millaray
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Originally posted by Vanille
Late, but I'm here.

I'm a submissive in a D/s petplay relationship. My girlfriend is my Master and I'm her kitten. I wear ears, tail, collars...and pretty much act cat-like 24/7. However though, when it comes to eating/sleeping I ... more
Hey Vanille! Welcome to the meeting
11/16/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by Dusk
Are you wondering about getting involved with your current partner or in the larger community? There are so many ways
in the larger community, that is.
11/16/2011
Contributor: Dusk Dusk
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Originally posted by Kynky Kytty
I'm off, was fun talking to you guys. Good evening!
Bye!!!
11/16/2011
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
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Originally posted by AndroAngel
Ya, that's true, but then, a Sub can also be a top, since the top is just the one "doing" onto someone else. I've topped my lover under his command.
Yep, good point.
11/16/2011
Contributor: Serenesub Serenesub
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Originally posted by seaofneptune
That's true, every once in a while my partner wants the ability to be the submissive. He isn't as interested in being on the receiving end of a paddle or a cane - but he likes the other aspects of submitting. I'm not as comfortable being ... more
I'm the same. BEfore my owner and I really got settled I'd top him once in a while. When he's pissing me off I threaten to spank him.. or do and run like fucking hell. It's just not a natural feeling for us haha
11/16/2011
Contributor: seaofneptune seaofneptune
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Originally posted by Jul!a
Ahh crap, my laptop is about to die. I had a great time lurking on the posts, and thank you Rayne for being an awesome hostess!
Miss you Jul!a !
11/16/2011
Contributor: LoriPerkinsRR LoriPerkinsRR
I'm just in for a few minutes, but I think FetLife has done a lot to bring the BDSM community together, and to give it a voice amongst itself. We publish BDSM book at ravenousromance.com, and it has been a great way to get the word out. We also have a monthly reading series and have found the NYC BDSM community very supportive. I think communication and information is one of the ways to bring this lifestyle out of the shadows. It wasn't there 2 years ago.
11/16/2011
Contributor: Tessa Taboo Tessa Taboo
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Originally posted by Serenesub
serenesub@hotmail.ca ... send me an email there and I'll answer that for you. It'll take a bit to sort out and I'll totally miss the rest of the meeting. But send me an email and I'll totally answer you and any other questions you have!
Okay, thanks!
11/16/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
There are munches and such, which are usually normal meetings in semi-private areas. Sometimes over food, hence the name "munch". A lot of them list their info on FetLife, so search for towns near you. Others are super secret and you have ... more
and its not safe to be stupid.

11/16/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
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Originally posted by Serenesub
I still top others from time to time and I'm in the TPE relationship.. mostly. I still get an opinion.. he just sometimes "forgets" to include it in the decision making
ThermoPlastic Elastomer?

Oh wait, Total Power Exchange. Somebody's a little too attached to her "anatomically correct cylinder" collection
11/16/2011
Contributor: Noira Noira
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Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
Lol. I've enjoyed your walls of text. They've been pretty on the level.
Thanks! I don't think I should have to apologize for writing words, anyway. People can skip if they don't like the length. >_> I should just write books.
11/16/2011
Contributor: Rayne Millaray Rayne Millaray
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
and its not safe to be stupid.

Zacly!
11/16/2011
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
By to everyone who's leaving.
11/16/2011
Contributor: Noira Noira
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Originally posted by Antipova
ThermoPlastic Elastomer?

Oh wait, Total Power Exchange. Somebody's a little too attached to her "anatomically correct cylinder" collection
Heh heh heh.

The first time I saw TPE as a material I thought "total power exchange dildo...?"
11/16/2011
Contributor: Serenesub Serenesub
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Originally posted by Antipova
ThermoPlastic Elastomer?

Oh wait, Total Power Exchange. Somebody's a little too attached to her "anatomically correct cylinder" collection
Haha! That's one of the better ones I've heard. Nicely done!
11/16/2011
Contributor: Dusk Dusk
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
in the larger community, that is.
I lived near San Francisco for a while, and I'm learning that it's harder to be involved the farther you are from a big city. Munches are a great way to meet people though, as well as any organizations that might meet in your area. I joined the Society of Janus in SF, went to EduKink workshops, and went to munches in my area. Some dungeons or specific people will hold play parties which can be fun to attend as well.
11/16/2011
Contributor: Vanille Vanille
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Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
Hey Vanille! Welcome to the meeting
Thank you Rayne. -^^-
11/16/2011
Contributor: Rayne Millaray Rayne Millaray
Bye, you guys! Sorry you couldn't stay longer. :/
11/16/2011
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
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Originally posted by Noira
Heh heh heh.

The first time I saw TPE as a material I thought "total power exchange dildo...?"
Hahaha me too!
11/16/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by Vanille
Late, but I'm here.

I'm a submissive in a D/s petplay relationship. My girlfriend is my Master and I'm her kitten. I wear ears, tail, collars...and pretty much act cat-like 24/7. However though, when it comes to eating/sleeping I ... more
ciao vanille! hows it goin. welcome!
11/16/2011
Contributor: Dusk Dusk
Quote:
Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
Bye, you guys! Sorry you couldn't stay longer. :/
Bye, Rayne!
11/16/2011
Contributor: Serenesub Serenesub
You guys are terrible to talk to while making supper! Just sayin'
11/16/2011
Contributor: seaofneptune seaofneptune
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Originally posted by Kynky Kytty
I'm off, was fun talking to you guys. Good evening!
Have a great night!
11/16/2011
Contributor: Noira Noira
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Originally posted by Serenesub
You guys are terrible to talk to while making supper! Just sayin'
I love food I can just shove in the oven for that reason!

LASAGNAS. FOREVER.
11/16/2011
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
Hey, Vanille. That's pretty cool. I actually have some questions about pet-play if you ever have the time to talk over PM.
11/16/2011
Contributor: Rayne Millaray Rayne Millaray
For me, a master/slave relationship is total power exchange. But there's a bit of formality that isn't always there in a strictly owner/property relationship. Does anyone else distinguish between these two?
11/16/2011
Contributor: Vanille Vanille
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
ciao vanille! hows it goin. welcome!
It's goin' good Alice! Going good for you too, I hope?
11/16/2011
Contributor: Rarity Rarity
Sorry about missing most of the meeting! My mind is obviously elsewhere. Thank you for hosting the event Rayne, I'll see you at the next event!
11/16/2011
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
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Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
For me, a master/slave relationship is total power exchange. But there's a bit of formality that isn't always there in a strictly owner/property relationship. Does anyone else distinguish between these two?
I think you're probably right. I've definitely seen the formality you're talking about.
11/16/2011
Contributor: Dusk Dusk
Quote:
Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
For me, a master/slave relationship is total power exchange. But there's a bit of formality that isn't always there in a strictly owner/property relationship. Does anyone else distinguish between these two?
Ahaha I read that wrong. Thought you were leaving! *facepalm*
11/16/2011