Ahh crap, my laptop is about to die. I had a great time lurking on the posts, and thank you Rayne for being an awesome hostess!
EdenKink - Types of BDSM Relationships - Wednesday, November 16th, 2011 @ 8pm ET
11/16/2011
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This to me is total power exchange, which works for some people. I don't think I could give up control all the time, besides, I like to Top sometimes myself with Daddy's supervision.
Originally posted by
Rayne Millaray
You guys are being really awesome tonight. I'm having a blast. We're already over 300 posts!
Your answers have been great thus far. I agree with most of you completely!
Let's move on to the master/slave dynamic. This type ... more
Your answers have been great thus far. I agree with most of you completely!
Let's move on to the master/slave dynamic. This type ... more
You guys are being really awesome tonight. I'm having a blast. We're already over 300 posts!
Your answers have been great thus far. I agree with most of you completely!
Let's move on to the master/slave dynamic. This type of dynamic can be all over the board. But what does this dynamic look like to you? less
Your answers have been great thus far. I agree with most of you completely!
Let's move on to the master/slave dynamic. This type of dynamic can be all over the board. But what does this dynamic look like to you? less
11/16/2011
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Are you wondering about getting involved with your current partner or in the larger community? There are so many ways
Originally posted by
aliceinthehole
good question~! i mean.. other than FetLife, how does one become involved with something like this? or someone who is into it?
11/16/2011
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lmao. i'll see what i can do.
Originally posted by
Tessa Taboo
Arick is not NEARLY as kinky outside of the bedroom as I am. That would take a lot of working on. Which, as his mentor, you know... you could mention things...LOL.
11/16/2011
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Closest to mine It's total possession. For me I started to lose little bits of myself somewhere along the way. You don't have as many or any options that a sub would because you are a slave.. you're owned. Some people see being owned as the same as being a toaster to their owner.. they're a possession. I don't function that way but again.. we differ from the norm
Originally posted by
Rayne Millaray
You guys are being really awesome tonight. I'm having a blast. We're already over 300 posts!
Your answers have been great thus far. I agree with most of you completely!
Let's move on to the master/slave dynamic. This type ... more
Your answers have been great thus far. I agree with most of you completely!
Let's move on to the master/slave dynamic. This type ... more
You guys are being really awesome tonight. I'm having a blast. We're already over 300 posts!
Your answers have been great thus far. I agree with most of you completely!
Let's move on to the master/slave dynamic. This type of dynamic can be all over the board. But what does this dynamic look like to you? less
Your answers have been great thus far. I agree with most of you completely!
Let's move on to the master/slave dynamic. This type of dynamic can be all over the board. But what does this dynamic look like to you? less
11/16/2011
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Haha! Thanks!
Originally posted by
aliceinthehole
lmao. i'll see what i can do.
11/16/2011
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what CSI episode, no?
Originally posted by
Rayne Millaray
Generally speaking, people we know go through a test. We start by telling them what I do for a living. Then we discuss the fact that I have an adult blog, which got me my job. And then we slowly "let slip" the types of toys I've
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Generally speaking, people we know go through a test. We start by telling them what I do for a living. Then we discuss the fact that I have an adult blog, which got me my job. And then we slowly "let slip" the types of toys I've reviewed. And if they've passed the test, we make some joke about the collar. If they react badly, we assure them we were merely joking. But have you seen that one CSI?
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11/16/2011
To add to what everyone's already said, it isn't necessary to be strictly Dominant or Submissive, I'm a Switch, I do both.
11/16/2011
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Honestly? Ask them how they feel about it. MY owner and I didn't know the other was into it until I made a comment one night and he giggled because he figured it out
Originally posted by
aliceinthehole
good question~! i mean.. other than FetLife, how does one become involved with something like this? or someone who is into it?
11/16/2011
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There are munches and such, which are usually normal meetings in semi-private areas. Sometimes over food, hence the name "munch". A lot of them list their info on FetLife, so search for towns near you. Others are super secret and you have to know someone, but normally you can meet them at the ones listed on FetLife.
Originally posted by
aliceinthehole
good question~! i mean.. other than FetLife, how does one become involved with something like this? or someone who is into it?
However, please, Please, PLEASE be safe about meeting people in real life. Always in groups. Tell someone where you're going. Set up a safe call if it will make you feel better.
It's not stupid to be safe.
11/16/2011
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As someone who is 'owned', what does that generally mean in terms of your day to day life, and having certain freedoms?
Originally posted by
Serenesub
Closest to mine It's total possession. For me I started to lose little bits of myself somewhere along the way. You don't have as many or any options that a sub would because you are a slave.. you're owned. Some people see being owned as
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Closest to mine It's total possession. For me I started to lose little bits of myself somewhere along the way. You don't have as many or any options that a sub would because you are a slave.. you're owned. Some people see being owned as the same as being a toaster to their owner.. they're a possession. I don't function that way but again.. we differ from the norm
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11/16/2011
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Intense! In my opinion slaves consent to give up their consent. It's a lifestyle, not a mindset, and not just kink.
Originally posted by
Rayne Millaray
You guys are being really awesome tonight. I'm having a blast. We're already over 300 posts!
Your answers have been great thus far. I agree with most of you completely!
Let's move on to the master/slave dynamic. This type ... more
Your answers have been great thus far. I agree with most of you completely!
Let's move on to the master/slave dynamic. This type ... more
You guys are being really awesome tonight. I'm having a blast. We're already over 300 posts!
Your answers have been great thus far. I agree with most of you completely!
Let's move on to the master/slave dynamic. This type of dynamic can be all over the board. But what does this dynamic look like to you? less
Your answers have been great thus far. I agree with most of you completely!
Let's move on to the master/slave dynamic. This type of dynamic can be all over the board. But what does this dynamic look like to you? less
No wall of text for this one, that's just what it looks like to me and amazingly it can be summed up to just that sentence where the other dynamics needed more. They need a lot of pre-discussion to work out, I think, and a lot, LOT of trust and I cringe when people post about jumping off to go be someone's slave after knowing them for a month online. Master/slave relationships need an intimate faith in your partner... on both sides of the scale.
11/16/2011
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I'm strictly submissive but have the ability to occasionally dominate someone, but I feel it doesn't make me a switch. Just a sub who can Top on occasion.
Originally posted by
AndroAngel
To add to what everyone's already said, it isn't necessary to be strictly Dominant or Submissive, I'm a Switch, I do both.
Thanks for bringing that word up, I had almost forgotten it lol.
11/16/2011
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See ya, Sam. Have a great night!
Originally posted by
Jul!a
Ahh crap, my laptop is about to die. I had a great time lurking on the posts, and thank you Rayne for being an awesome hostess!
11/16/2011
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I still top others from time to time and I'm in the TPE relationship.. mostly. I still get an opinion.. he just sometimes "forgets" to include it in the decision making
Originally posted by
Kitka
This to me is total power exchange, which works for some people. I don't think I could give up control all the time, besides, I like to Top sometimes myself with Daddy's supervision.
11/16/2011
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I've wondered this myself. I've asked my Dom about this because he got into it before a lot of those sites were up and he said you just had to know the right people. I know I probably would have never found it without Fetlife honestly.
Originally posted by
aliceinthehole
good question~! i mean.. other than FetLife, how does one become involved with something like this? or someone who is into it?
11/16/2011
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it IS the hair. pics of him when he was young... damn he was hot! i have no idea what happened.
Originally posted by
Jobthingy
I know.. it's his hair. But I cant stop. I hate admitting it.. but... *whispers* I even PVR it.
ugh, and the look on his face toward a wife when she's expressing feelings of concern or working through jealousy.. he just stares at her with that uber concerned furrowed brow and doesnt flinch. it seems like its all for the camera.
11/16/2011
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There are so many!
Originally posted by
aliceinthehole
what CSI episode, no?
11/16/2011
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So agree! I've known my owner for 5 years and it's still not the easiest thing.
Originally posted by
Noira
Intense! In my opinion slaves consent to give up their consent. It's a lifestyle, not a mindset, and not just kink.
No wall of text for this one, that's just what it looks like to me and amazingly it can be summed up to just that ... more
No wall of text for this one, that's just what it looks like to me and amazingly it can be summed up to just that ... more
Intense! In my opinion slaves consent to give up their consent. It's a lifestyle, not a mindset, and not just kink.
No wall of text for this one, that's just what it looks like to me and amazingly it can be summed up to just that sentence where the other dynamics needed more. They need a lot of pre-discussion to work out, I think, and a lot, LOT of trust and I cringe when people post about jumping off to go be someone's slave after knowing them for a month online. Master/slave relationships need an intimate faith in your partner... on both sides of the scale. less
No wall of text for this one, that's just what it looks like to me and amazingly it can be summed up to just that sentence where the other dynamics needed more. They need a lot of pre-discussion to work out, I think, and a lot, LOT of trust and I cringe when people post about jumping off to go be someone's slave after knowing them for a month online. Master/slave relationships need an intimate faith in your partner... on both sides of the scale. less
11/16/2011
I don't think all slaves are "just possessions" because I've seen more than one side of the scale for master/slave too. It's srs business power exchange.
11/16/2011
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Ah that's cool. I wasn't saying it was that way for everyone, just personally
Originally posted by
Serenesub
I still top others from time to time and I'm in the TPE relationship.. mostly. I still get an opinion.. he just sometimes "forgets" to include it in the decision making
11/16/2011
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I loved all of those CSI episodes because it was my chance to see my parents' reaction to kink portrayed in the media.
Originally posted by
Rayne Millaray
There are so many!
11/16/2011
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Lol. I've enjoyed your walls of text. They've been pretty on the level.
Originally posted by
Noira
Intense! In my opinion slaves consent to give up their consent. It's a lifestyle, not a mindset, and not just kink.
No wall of text for this one, that's just what it looks like to me and amazingly it can be summed up to just that ... more
No wall of text for this one, that's just what it looks like to me and amazingly it can be summed up to just that ... more
Intense! In my opinion slaves consent to give up their consent. It's a lifestyle, not a mindset, and not just kink.
No wall of text for this one, that's just what it looks like to me and amazingly it can be summed up to just that sentence where the other dynamics needed more. They need a lot of pre-discussion to work out, I think, and a lot, LOT of trust and I cringe when people post about jumping off to go be someone's slave after knowing them for a month online. Master/slave relationships need an intimate faith in your partner... on both sides of the scale. less
No wall of text for this one, that's just what it looks like to me and amazingly it can be summed up to just that sentence where the other dynamics needed more. They need a lot of pre-discussion to work out, I think, and a lot, LOT of trust and I cringe when people post about jumping off to go be someone's slave after knowing them for a month online. Master/slave relationships need an intimate faith in your partner... on both sides of the scale. less
11/16/2011
Late, but I'm here.
I'm a submissive in a D/s petplay relationship. My girlfriend is my Master and I'm her kitten. I wear ears, tail, collars...and pretty much act cat-like 24/7. However though, when it comes to eating/sleeping I still retain my human characteristics there. (as in I sleep in a normal bed and eat off a human plate with untensils at a table.)
I'm a submissive in a D/s petplay relationship. My girlfriend is my Master and I'm her kitten. I wear ears, tail, collars...and pretty much act cat-like 24/7. However though, when it comes to eating/sleeping I still retain my human characteristics there. (as in I sleep in a normal bed and eat off a human plate with untensils at a table.)
11/16/2011
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i just watched 'forbidden latex', the DVD offered on EF, and it looks to me like a slave is someone who enjoys pain, humiliation possibly, restraint, and the master 'forces' them into orgasm, or out of orgasm, or withholds orgasm from them, during sexual play.
Originally posted by
Rayne Millaray
You guys are being really awesome tonight. I'm having a blast. We're already over 300 posts!
Your answers have been great thus far. I agree with most of you completely!
Let's move on to the master/slave dynamic. This type ... more
Your answers have been great thus far. I agree with most of you completely!
Let's move on to the master/slave dynamic. This type ... more
You guys are being really awesome tonight. I'm having a blast. We're already over 300 posts!
Your answers have been great thus far. I agree with most of you completely!
Let's move on to the master/slave dynamic. This type of dynamic can be all over the board. But what does this dynamic look like to you? less
Your answers have been great thus far. I agree with most of you completely!
Let's move on to the master/slave dynamic. This type of dynamic can be all over the board. But what does this dynamic look like to you? less
the slave can also just do whatever the master wants them to. they submit completely to the master. the master is like god.
11/16/2011
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Ya, that's true, but then, a Sub can also be a top, since the top is just the one "doing" onto someone else. I've topped my lover under his command.
Originally posted by
Kitka
I'm strictly submissive but have the ability to occasionally dominate someone, but I feel it doesn't make me a switch. Just a sub who can Top on occasion.
Thanks for bringing that word up, I had almost forgotten it lol.
Thanks for bringing that word up, I had almost forgotten it lol.
11/16/2011
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Find an outlet! QUICK! (I seriously hunt for outlets in coffee shops and restautants even if I don't have my laptop.)
Originally posted by
Jul!a
Ahh crap, my laptop is about to die. I had a great time lurking on the posts, and thank you Rayne for being an awesome hostess!
Thanks for joining us!
11/16/2011
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serenesub@hotmail.ca ... send me an email there and I'll answer that for you. It'll take a bit to sort out and I'll totally miss the rest of the meeting. But send me an email and I'll totally answer you and any other questions you have!
Originally posted by
Tessa Taboo
As someone who is 'owned', what does that generally mean in terms of your day to day life, and having certain freedoms?
11/16/2011
I'm off, was fun talking to you guys. Good evening!
11/16/2011
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That's true, every once in a while my partner wants the ability to be the submissive. He isn't as interested in being on the receiving end of a paddle or a cane - but he likes the other aspects of submitting. I'm not as comfortable being in the dominant role because it makes me feel awkward but I still enjoy doing it from time to time.
Originally posted by
Noira
If you want to be the dominant you still have to ask him how he feels about it! Don't just tie him up and say 'HAH!'
Don't just make the M/f assumption. Lots of men harbor submissive fantasies and just don't know how to ... more
Don't just make the M/f assumption. Lots of men harbor submissive fantasies and just don't know how to ... more
If you want to be the dominant you still have to ask him how he feels about it! Don't just tie him up and say 'HAH!'
Don't just make the M/f assumption. Lots of men harbor submissive fantasies and just don't know how to bring it up due to the manliness stigma. Communicate in both cases.
And you can get switch/switch relationships too, where partners flip back and forth between roles based on what they want for the night. Switching is totally cool. Nothing wrong with being a kinkster! less
Don't just make the M/f assumption. Lots of men harbor submissive fantasies and just don't know how to bring it up due to the manliness stigma. Communicate in both cases.
And you can get switch/switch relationships too, where partners flip back and forth between roles based on what they want for the night. Switching is totally cool. Nothing wrong with being a kinkster! less
11/16/2011