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Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
Quote:
Originally posted by Jul!a
That could definitely work!

Or like, my husband and I live with my mom while we're saving up for a house, her room is down the hall and she's not deaf by any stretch of the means.
Ball gags
02/16/2011
Contributor: LadyAurora LadyAurora
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Originally posted by UrNaughtyaAngel
Does jackwagon mean voyeur? if so then I am a jackwagon, Then again I have never been to a play party or any similar to it, I am just a super curious vanilla girl.
A jackwagon is basically a jerk.
02/16/2011
Contributor: ValuptuousVirgo ValuptuousVirgo
Quote:
Originally posted by UrNaughtyaAngel
Does jackwagon mean voyeur? if so then I am a jackwagon, Then again I have never been to a play party or any similar to it, I am just a super curious vanilla girl.
Yes what does jackwagon mean? I wasn't going to ask, but since it is now out there...
02/16/2011
Contributor: null null
Quote:
Originally posted by Jul!a
That could definitely work!

Or like, my husband and I live with my mom while we're saving up for a house, her room is down the hall and she's not deaf by any stretch of the means.
Wasn't there a sexis article on that just a while back?
02/16/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by ValuptuousVirgo
Yes what does jackwagon mean? I wasn't going to ask, but since it is now out there...
The asshole in the group who's there to either make fun or make stupid commentary and isn't actually interested in learning or observing.
02/16/2011
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
Quote:
Originally posted by null
Wasn't there a sexis article on that just a while back?
Most likely there was, but it doesn't hurt to discuss it here for those who may miss the articles on SexIs.
02/16/2011
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
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Originally posted by VieuxCarre
Not everyone has to feel the same about BDSM. It's a very fluid topic and "lifestyle." There isn't one definition or way to do it. It's what you make of it when it comes down to it.
Oh of course! I understand that.

There is an "official/traditional" way to do most things. For example... rules to a sports game. Does everyone follow them? Of course not. People who consider themselves corset fanatics have rules about what "counts" as a real corset (this varies too). I just wondered if there were guidelines as to what constitutes BDSM as an actual lifestyle? Or are there really none?

Maybe I have just met some really strict BDSM folk lol. They seemed to be very set in rules and proper ways to be a dom and sub etc. It's good to know that at least the people of Eden are not as close minded!
02/16/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
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Originally posted by VieuxCarre
Excellent topic suggestion and something we definitely need to touch on, even though I don't have children of my own
My son (he's 16) sleeps with his iPod on. Sometimes we turn the TV on too. Other times we wait to get rough until he is out of the house for a few hours so there is nothing to worry about.
02/16/2011
Contributor: null null
Quote:
Originally posted by VieuxCarre
Most likely there was, but it doesn't hurt to discuss it here for those who may miss the articles on SexIs.
Link: link
just in case anyone wanted to see it
02/16/2011
Contributor: Sysiphe Sysiphe
Quote:
Originally posted by VieuxCarre
Another topic: Or maybe how to produce it at home
Types of play.
Community vs single relationships.
Sex - involved, uninvolved, whatever works for you?
02/16/2011
Contributor: ValuptuousVirgo ValuptuousVirgo
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
The asshole in the group who's there to either make fun or make stupid commentary and isn't actually interested in learning or observing.
Oh, make sense...
02/16/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
Quote:
Originally posted by VieuxCarre
Ball gags
Lol, good call. We haven't had a need for one yet, but I don't think our brand new paddle is going to see much use with her home, lol
02/16/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
Quote:
Originally posted by null
Wasn't there a sexis article on that just a while back?
I'm not sure honestly.
02/16/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Quote:
Originally posted by Jul!a
Here's a random thought, for those who might have issues with privacy or living with other people and sounds that paddles and such can make, maybe some discussion on "being kinky when you have to be quiet"? Or something along those lines?
Yes please.
02/16/2011
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
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Originally posted by Sysiphe
There are jackwagons everywhere - but, to be honest, I've been in dungeons from MD to CA and have never had a problem with people thinking I didn't belong (despite the fact that I'm a dominant masochist, which tweeks some people's heads).
That's good to know. This is what I was looking for I guess. I'm mildly into it but never felt in place with others I knew who were. Again, I think I may just have known some close minded people.
02/16/2011
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
Quote:
Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
Oh of course! I understand that.

There is an "official/traditional" way to do most things. For example... rules to a sports game. Does everyone follow them? Of course not. People who consider themselves corset fanatics have rules ... more
Well, Gimla and I have very strict rules and the proper way to run our relationship and our form of BDSM, but the way that we live might not apply to you or even interest you. I'll definitely give insight into our relationship, but I can't say that it's the "legit" way to do it.

Does that make sense or answer what you're talking about?
02/16/2011
Contributor: Persephone Nightmare Persephone Nightmare
As far as roles are concerned, I just recently did some soul searching and found that I am Synthetik's Slave

This is what convinced me of such, it's a bit of an article that I found on Submissive guide (I think written by Rayne)

"So what’s a sub? That’s where it gets tricky. Because the line between sub and slave is rather fine and blurs a lot. People often use “submissive” and “slave” interchangeably. But they are not the same thing.


A sub is someone who still retains some control, but is in service to someone else. They have the right to say no and walk away at any time. They have a safe word. They have limits. They’re not owned.

An article I read recently described it best when it said “A submissive is a volunteer. A slave is not.


A slave is owned. That’s probably the only constant. Some slaves have safe words. Some do not. Some slaves have negotiated limits. Some do not. Some slaves have submissive personalities. Some are only submissive with the one who owns them. Some slaves have given up their right to leave, or consented to having it taken from them. Some retain the right to walk out the door whenever they choose.


Legally, we all have that right. Some of us just choose not to acknowledge it."
02/16/2011
Contributor: Bunnycups Bunnycups
Hey guys, sorry I'm super late. I had an engagement with my grandma. I'm not a kinkster, but I'm curious about the lifestyle so I figured I'd pop in and take a peek.
02/16/2011
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
Quote:
Originally posted by Sysiphe
Types of play.
Community vs single relationships.
Sex - involved, uninvolved, whatever works for you?
I was waiting for you to throw some topics out there, love
02/16/2011
Contributor: UrNaughtyaAngel UrNaughtyaAngel
Quote:
Originally posted by Jul!a
Or maybe how to produce it at home?

Sorry if that's a stupid question.
hey remember their is no such thing as a stupid question. It is stupid not to ask a question. BTW I like this question I think a curious person would like to have their first kinskter experience at home.
02/16/2011
Contributor: Persephone Nightmare Persephone Nightmare
Quote:
Originally posted by Bunnycups
Hey guys, sorry I'm super late. I had an engagement with my grandma. I'm not a kinkster, but I'm curious about the lifestyle so I figured I'd pop in and take a peek.
Hey Bunnycups!!! don't feel bad, I was late too, I got off work not too long ago Lol
02/16/2011
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
There are no stupid questions, guys. Just for future reference!
02/16/2011
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Quote:
Originally posted by VieuxCarre
Well, Gimla and I have very strict rules and the proper way to run our relationship and our form of BDSM, but the way that we live might not apply to you or even interest you. I'll definitely give insight into our relationship, but I can't ... more
That totally make sense. Learning about different couples own rules interests me.
02/16/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
Quote:
Originally posted by Bunnycups
Hey guys, sorry I'm super late. I had an engagement with my grandma. I'm not a kinkster, but I'm curious about the lifestyle so I figured I'd pop in and take a peek.
Hi!
02/16/2011
Contributor: Sysiphe Sysiphe
Quote:
Originally posted by VieuxCarre
Ball gags
I can make a *lot* of noise through a ballgag

Sam (aka Jul!a): do you like taking orders? If so, would it work if your partner ordered you to keep quite (perhaps on threat of either punishment or stopping if you can't)?
02/16/2011
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
Quote:
Originally posted by Bunnycups
Hey guys, sorry I'm super late. I had an engagement with my grandma. I'm not a kinkster, but I'm curious about the lifestyle so I figured I'd pop in and take a peek.
Welcome! I hope you enjoy reading the mass amount of posts and if you have any questions once the discussion is over feel free to message me privately!
02/16/2011
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
Quote:
Originally posted by Sysiphe
I can make a *lot* of noise through a ballgag

Sam (aka Jul!a): do you like taking orders? If so, would it work if your partner ordered you to keep quite (perhaps on threat of either punishment or stopping if you can't)?
Pff, you make a lot of noise with tape over your mouth. Not that I would know or anything.
02/16/2011
Contributor: UrNaughtyaAngel UrNaughtyaAngel
Quote:
Originally posted by VieuxCarre
It's a very rewarding experience. It's nice to finally feel free in submission and know that I've found the place where I fit and belong
It must be nice to feel that way, I am glad you have found such freedom and happiness sweetie.
02/16/2011
Contributor: Persephone Nightmare Persephone Nightmare
Quote:
Originally posted by VieuxCarre
There are no stupid questions, guys. Just for future reference!
Actually, I'd like to amend this.

The only stupid questions are the ones left unasked and unexplored (and even those aren't really stupid )
02/16/2011
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
Quote:
Originally posted by Persephone Nightmare
Actually, I'd like to amend this.

The only stupid questions are the ones left unasked and unexplored (and even those aren't really stupid )
I was going to add that but my clicking is faster than my brain.
02/16/2011