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Contributor: danellejohns danellejohns
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
I think it's important to talk about some of the misconceptions of BDSM. There are too many people who think that the spankings or the rough talk is abusive and/or insulting. Also about the fact that the Dom/Domme is usually using his/her love ... more
I second that one. I honestly had the wrong idea about it for a long time before I learned a little more about it.
02/16/2011
Contributor: Gimla Gimla
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Originally posted by VieuxCarre
Yes, Sir Like, what you are and what you do, etc.
I over brewed the tea. Gah!
02/16/2011
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
First topic suggestion is Misconceptions in BDSM.

Also, since Gimla hasn't said so he's a Dominant and he beats me when I mess up his tea.
02/16/2011
Contributor: ID42 ID42
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Originally posted by UrNaughtyaAngel
Well I say the first step is to talk to your husband about sexual role play and take it from there.
There is plenty of role play and definite acts of control in the bedroom, just nowhere else.
02/16/2011
Contributor: ValuptuousVirgo ValuptuousVirgo
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Originally posted by Gimla
I personally found in my research (I'm a psychology major with a specialization in dominate and submissive relationship dynamics)that a strong A type personality, while perfecting the be in control doesn't HAVE to have it in their lives. For ... more
hhhmmm okay..
02/16/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by VieuxCarre
First topic suggestion is Misconceptions in BDSM.

Also, since Gimla hasn't said so he's a Dominant and he beats me when I mess up his tea.
Do you mess up his tea on purpose?
02/16/2011
Contributor: UrNaughtyaAngel UrNaughtyaAngel
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Originally posted by VieuxCarre
There are a lot of books on the subject matter, but I would first go about discussing this with your partner. If your partner really isn't all that into this type of play then it may not work in the bedroom.

Some books I would recommend ... more
Oh wow you even have books to recommend love the titles of the last two.

When did you realized you were into BDSM? and how did you go about experiencing it?
02/16/2011
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
Quote:
Originally posted by Gimla
I over brewed the tea. Gah!
Well that sucks.
02/16/2011
Contributor: danellejohns danellejohns
Quote:
Originally posted by VieuxCarre
There are a lot of books on the subject matter, but I would first go about discussing this with your partner. If your partner really isn't all that into this type of play then it may not work in the bedroom.

Some books I would recommend ... more
Yes it does, thank you. I appreciate the reading selections. And thank you redboxbaby too, i will have to check that one out as well
02/16/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
Quote:
Originally posted by VieuxCarre
There are a lot of books on the subject matter, but I would first go about discussing this with your partner. If your partner really isn't all that into this type of play then it may not work in the bedroom.

Some books I would recommend ... more
Thanks for this list. I think I'm going to look into Screw the Roses, Send me the Thorns. It sounds like a good read.
02/16/2011
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
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Originally posted by UrNaughtyaAngel
Oh wow you even have books to recommend love the titles of the last two.

When did you realized you were into BDSM? and how did you go about experiencing it?
I realized I was kinky when I was five and watching Aladdin. I didn't know that there was a name for it when I was that young, but I got these butterflies when I watched Aladdin and Jafar made Jasmine his slave.

I was sixteen when I started role playing and always created slave characters and realized that it turned me on immensely. I found out that there was a lifestyle around the slave lifestyle and I started studying and got involved in some pretty dangerous relationships at eighteen.

I started to learn and grow and have made it to the point where I am today and what a journey it has been.
02/16/2011
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
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Originally posted by VieuxCarre
First topic suggestion is Misconceptions in BDSM.

Also, since Gimla hasn't said so he's a Dominant and he beats me when I mess up his tea.
Looks this over you have provided some awesome info! Great job!
02/16/2011
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
Do you mess up his tea on purpose?
OMG NO! It was silent in the room and he was like "Pet, how do I take my white tea?"

I responded "With hone-ohmygod I put sugar."

I got caned
02/16/2011
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Quote:
Originally posted by VieuxCarre
I realized I was kinky when I was five and watching Aladdin. I didn't know that there was a name for it when I was that young, but I got these butterflies when I watched Aladdin and Jafar made Jasmine his slave.

I was sixteen when I ... more
That is such an interesting story! I think I have heard you tell it before some where else too.
02/16/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Quote:
Originally posted by VieuxCarre
OMG NO! It was silent in the room and he was like "Pet, how do I take my white tea?"

I responded "With hone-ohmygod I put sugar."

I got caned
I know some subs do... Just askin'!
02/16/2011
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
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Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
That is such an interesting story! I think I have heard you tell it before some where else too.
I think I posted it on Eden Cafe a while back, but I'm not entirely sure!
02/16/2011
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
I know some subs do... Just askin'!
Pff, his punishments suck. I definitely DON'T ask for them.
02/16/2011
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
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Originally posted by Jul!a
Thanks for this list. I think I'm going to look into Screw the Roses, Send me the Thorns. It sounds like a good read.
It's actually a good book and I was surprised. I hope you enjoy it!
02/16/2011
Contributor: ID42 ID42
Quote:
Originally posted by VieuxCarre
That can be a challenge a lot of the time. Have you talked to your husband about it?
Yes we have talked about it at great length. Doesn't seem to be getting us any closer to an actual ending point or resolving anything just yet. He knows how I feel though. Always.
02/16/2011
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
We've got a topic suggestion for Misconceptions in BDSM. What are some other topics you all would like to discuss in the future?
02/16/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Sorry I am a bit late.

Hi my name is Dwtim and I am a Kinkster.
02/16/2011
Contributor: LadyAurora LadyAurora
You have no idea how much I'd love a kink friendly library.

Thanks for answering my question, both of you.
02/16/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
Sorry I am a bit late.

Hi my name is Dwtim and I am a Kinkster.
It's not AA, dude! LOL
02/16/2011
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
Quote:
Originally posted by ID42
Yes we have talked about it at great length. Doesn't seem to be getting us any closer to an actual ending point or resolving anything just yet. He knows how I feel though. Always.
Have you maybe considered asking him if he would be comfortable with you both exploring with someone who is kinky? Not necessarily sharing partners, but for you to get a bit of fulfillment and he could be present?
02/16/2011
Contributor: Gimla Gimla
Forgive my slow posting/relpying. Unlike my pet, I do not type 110 words per minute.

My role. I'm a dominant who strives for mastering the art of domination, AKA A Master. I play mean roles and my sweet girl's life. Teacher, mentor, Lover, and care giver. As she said. I do cane her from time to time for absent minded mistakes on her part but at the core of all punishment is her well being and growth.
02/16/2011
Contributor: ValuptuousVirgo ValuptuousVirgo
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
It's not AA, dude! LOL
*giggle* I was thinking the same thing!
02/16/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by VieuxCarre
It's actually a good book and I was surprised. I hope you enjoy it!
Turns out that was actually on my wishlist already. Now I have to get it!
02/16/2011
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
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Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
Sorry I am a bit late.

Hi my name is Dwtim and I am a Kinkster.
Hi Dwtim! How long have you been a Kinkster?

There is no 12 step program to curing you, sadly. Only a 12 step program to making you kinkier
02/16/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by VieuxCarre
We've got a topic suggestion for Misconceptions in BDSM. What are some other topics you all would like to discuss in the future?
Boundaries.

IMPLEMENTS!!!

Gear.

Clothing.
02/16/2011
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
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Originally posted by VieuxCarre
I think I posted it on Eden Cafe a while back, but I'm not entirely sure!
Possibly. I read it on the forums somewhere though.
02/16/2011