At what age did you lose your virginity?

Contributor: Dame Saphir Dame Saphir
I was 16, he was 17. And it was terrible. It was in the back of a car (we'd told our parents we were out to a movie) and it lasted about two seconds. It was his first time too. I was surprised though because I don't remember it hurting at all or me bleeding at all, but perhaps that's cause I'd had a lot of foreplay experience by that time and I also ran track in high school.
05/22/2010
Contributor: solita solita
I lost my virginity at 18 to a girl... and two years later had sex with a guy for the first time. I still consider the first time I had sex with anybody to be my "first time" but I also consider my virginity to have been lost on two different occasions.
05/25/2010
Contributor: LadyInToyland LadyInToyland
I was about a month-and-a-half shy of my 19th birthday.
05/31/2010
Contributor: LadyInToyland LadyInToyland
Well... if people are sharing their stories...

The basic gyst is... I was almost 19, in college...

went over to my boyfriend's house to do homework. He had other plans.

Went to his room, had sex on his bed.

Later, found out it was his WIFE'S bed.

There's a lot more to the story, but that's the very basic idea.
05/31/2010
Contributor: Annemarie Annemarie
I was 11 and it was with my best friend, a girl. Imagine a hot hot hot summer day, home alone with your closest friend and a huge, cool pool. Great memories.
06/01/2010
Contributor: hussy hussy
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Originally posted by VelvetBound
I would define "losing ones virginity" as consenting to sexual intercourse. Feel free to elaborate or suggest otherwise.

Also, I would love to hear about your first experience. How was it? Where was it? Etc.

Er, hopefully ... more
I was three days into my 15th year, and me and my boyfriend (of about 10 months at the time) had been planning to do it since Valentine's of that year. We waited until his mom was out of town, then I went over like I usually did to hang out on the weekend. We were both ridiculously nervous, but I was determined to do what we had set out to do - who knew when his mom would go out of town again? We tried to do foreplay, both taking our first turns at oral sex, but it was still very painful. I made him stop after about ten minutes, I just couldn't take it anymore. I know now that part of the problem is that I'm pretty petite, vagina-wise, but we were also just horribly inept. We waited a couple weeks before trying again - then proceeded to have sex nearly every day the rest of the time we dated, throwing caution to the winds about being caught (which we were, repeatedly - his family was very good-humored about the whole thing). Things improved pretty rapidly, I'm glad to say.
06/10/2010
Contributor: Mulattogal Mulattogal
Quote:
Originally posted by VelvetBound
I would define "losing ones virginity" as consenting to sexual intercourse. Feel free to elaborate or suggest otherwise.

Also, I would love to hear about your first experience. How was it? Where was it? Etc.

Er, hopefully ... more
I am not proud of losing my virginity,not proud of being young and naive.I was 14,I remember how pressured I was at that age. It was Summer and I actually did it in my bathroom while my family were outside in the backyard barbaquing.
It was with someone I am ashamed it was with,but that's my experience. And by the way he had a big dick(but what did I know,it seem big to me),so I was "Busted"(he busted the cherry.It was a quickie no passion of course,now that I think about it he was just trying to get a piece of me and be like "wham bam thankyou maam!",then I wouldn't understand sex. It seemed like something to do to feel like I wasn't a little girl anymore.I were starting highschool in the fall and I wanted to fit in,I guess.He also commented about my pussy being good. Even as a young virgin,he liked it. Anyway no need to describe his every word.
By the way after the first time we did it again the same day.
That same guy lusted for me years after hoping he'd see me.
Funny thing is he's gross,I wouldn't touch him with a ten foot pole,I mean he isn't a looker and ain't worth it!,but that was me back then my thinking I had to have sex to grow up!
06/17/2010
Contributor: joja joja
I was 18, lost my virginity to a fuck buddy that I met at a rave (I swear it's not a sleazy as it sounds...). He had no idea I was a virgin, and there was no tearing or pain because I had been masturbating for almost a decade by then. Though it wasn't very good (I was far too nervous), I was pretty desperate to lose my virginity, and was very happy it finally happened. We hi-fived when we were done
06/22/2010
Contributor: usmcwife99 usmcwife99
I was 14, to my boyfriend who was only a few months older.

I wanted to have sex so bad but he said he had this huge fear of getting me preggnant and ive learned later in life the only reason he didnt want to is he didnt fully go through puberty.(I didnt thought either but we bother were able to do stuff but small and didnt last long)

We were just laying down watching tv and he all the sudden moved back I moved closer an go "whats wrong" he mumbled something. I was a little crabby and asked what he told me your so pretty and hes like I gotta go to the bathroom. As he got up I noticed he had a boner. I waited a few seconds after the bathroom door closed and started giving oral. He was so scared ide dump him and that night when we talked and found out I dont care he was smaller at the time he finally let me see him with his pants off. That night I told him Ime gonna walk to the walgreens cause I need tampons(wasnt even on my period)and hes like "this isnt the tampon isle" I go "ime not looking for tampons" hes like "why did you come" at that moment saw the condoms I picked up the first box I saw and said "for these" he blushed and we walked so quik to pay and get home. We walked in the door after our five minute walk home from the drugstore. I locked the door as my parents were probably at the bar or who knows were they were and well went to my parents king size bed and............it was so odd but so good.....I think he probably lasted just maybe 2 minutes. He then felt bad again. He gave me oral and fingered me plenty of times not to meantion used a toy on me so he helped me get off.
06/23/2010
Contributor: Janis Janis
I was 19.5 at the time, with a friend I had a crush on. We'd done just about everything else, but because he knew I was a virgin, he didn't want to have sex with me because he didn't want to hurt me. It took months of me pestering him about it, off and on, to make him agree, and he was so nervous he couldn't stay hard.

It hurt, was boring, and lasted only about three minutes, which was good, since he was on the large end of the spectrum. My only reaction was disappointment: I'd known it would be somewhat painful, but I'd thought that I would have derived SOME pleasure from it. Nope.

We started dating a few months later, and are still together after just over three years. Needless to say, the sex is no longer boring or painful!
07/13/2010
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
I was like a week away from 16. I'm skewing your results
07/19/2010
Contributor: SexyySarah SexyySarah
I was 17
07/19/2010
Contributor: happeegrl03 happeegrl03
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Originally posted by SilverVixen
**hoping like heck no one I know reads this** ha! I was 16.

I was always into experimenting. Queen of BJ's and teasing but I could never quite commit to going "all the way". I was really nervous about the entire concept of sex. ... more
i was 13. now, looking back, i wish i would have waited a few years longer. It was in my boyfriends father's apartment on the couch. My first thoughts were "is this it?!" Thank GOD that as we get older we mature not only emotionally but physically as well.
07/19/2010
Contributor: Miss B Haven Miss B Haven
I was 15 and I didn't feel pain or have bleeding. I do wish I had waited for someone less mature than I was.
07/19/2010
Contributor: Midway through Midway through
I was 18, and it was in a hotel room with my first boyfriend, who was staying there because he lived out of town. My parents wanted to murder me because I spent the night.
07/19/2010
Contributor: 00 00
I lost my virginity at age 17 when I was raped at knife-point by a stranger.
07/22/2010
Contributor: NightNight NightNight
Quote:
Originally posted by Juliettia
I was 18.5 when I lost my virginity to my then boyfriend, now Husband. Not only did I lose that, but that day I also received my first kiss. I never dated in school because my class was full of losers and I just wasn't interested in sex with ... more
Same here! Except I was 19. It wasn't my first kiss, though. Also, he came to *me*.
07/23/2010
Contributor: NightNight NightNight
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Originally posted by Valyn
Oops, I clicked on 13-15 without really reading. I was 16. He was 18. It was at like 3 in the afternoon, and I had told my mother I would be "at the library". I remember his room was kind of a mess, and though he tried, it wasn't really ... more
Ugh, I hate the hymen myth.

I have no idea when my hymen broke and I'm inclined to think it was never in one piece to begin with. I distinctly remember playing with the pieces when I was maybe 7 years old and wondering what it was.
07/23/2010
Contributor: Darling Jen Darling Jen
I had been in a committed relationship with my partner for about a year and we were in college. We had engaged in sexual play but nothing invasive. Of course the definiton of virginity is different from person to person but I consider mine being taken by penetration, any sexual (consentual) penetration. Of course for men it could be penetration or the act thereof. But anyway! We were 19 years old and had stayed in a hotel for a night so we wouldn't have dorm issues to worry about, like roommates or nosey listeners. It was wonderful.
07/23/2010
Contributor: twistedheartsx twistedheartsx
I was an idiot and lost mine when I was 16, but I'm going to be 20 this year and we just passed our 4 year anniversary
07/23/2010
Contributor: AU AU
I was 18. My first time was with the same person I'm with now at 28! We waited almost a year, can you believe it? We didn't have any moral problems with sex, we just wanted to put it off for a while. Also, he was really nervous about going all the way. It would be his first time, and he was really terrified of getting me pregnant. He had a sibling who had a child while still a teenager, and his mom was always trying to make sure we didn't have opportunities. So I made sure to make our first time in a place where we wouldn't be disturbed--I borrowed my friend's house for the evening. I admit it wasn't super-great. And he seemed so tense. For some reason, he was under the impression that I wasn't a virgin. When he found blood, he was so puzzled! I was, too, as I had frequently masturbated for years. I guess there was just enough hymen left. I kind of wish we could have waited a little while longer. Just making out was amazing. We could just touch and kiss for hours without penetration! How was that so much fun? I wish I could feel that again.
07/23/2010
Contributor: Dusk Dusk
Haven't had actual intercourse yet, so I guess that makes me still a virgin . Thought I'd wait till marriage, but I've realized things aren't always perfect and if I decide I want to do it with the guy I love now, then I will. Not quite there yet, but I'll make it good whatever happens.
07/25/2010
Contributor: Splendwhore Splendwhore
I was about 18 1/2 when I lost my virginity to my partner. Oh, sure, we'd diddled each other before, but that was the first time we had penetrative sex. We bought this horrid black rubber dildo/harness set. I have no clue how big it was, but looking back now, it was probably too big. It was horribly painful for me, and we only had sex using it maybe 2-3 times. We didn't have penetrative sex again until I turned 20, after we bought our first silicone dildo (also wayyy too huge at the time). We've since gotten smaller attachments, and I can even use that first large silicone dildo we purchased every blue moon.

If we're being technical here though, I lost my virginity to a tampon.
07/25/2010
Contributor: SexyySarah SexyySarah
I was 17
07/25/2010
Contributor: sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
I lost my virginity (sexual intercourse) at 19 on my wedding night! I lost my anal virginity at 18. Oral sex virginity was like 16 or 17.
07/27/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I was on the cusp of 17, My Man and I had been dating for a while and we had been working up to PIV intercourse. He had experience, a lot of it, I was a virgin and pretty scared at first, but REALLY wanted to. BUT, I wanted it right, I needed birth control, the right setting etc.

He had prepared me with lots of manual stimulation etc (I was too afraid to let him go down, silly girl!) I had given him hand jobs and was amazed as I had never seen a man ejaculate before, that I remembered. One day, we were in his house and decided this was the day. I was SCARED, but wanted to, I had my Ortho Gynol spermicide in my purse, and I spent about 1/2 an hour in the bathroom, trying to put the foam in and psych myself up. I finally emerged from the bathroom, and he was so sweet and gentle and I really got into it! I didn't come (for some reason, I thought it would "just happen" once I had PIV sex, again, silly girl) We realized when we were done his bedroom window was open and I had evidently been making a lot of noise and his neighbors were out on their patio. I said, "OMG, I hope they didn't hear me." He said, "I just hope they didn't think I was alone." Hahahaa. It was lovely, it didn't hurt a bit, I didn't bleed, he thought I would cry, but I was just relieved that it was SO nice and I liked it A LOT!

A few weeks later he persuaded me to try oral sex, and OMG, then we really got going. The first time I had an orgasm with him (I'd been practicing on my own, because I did realize I needed to do that) it was MAGIC.

We had an Open Relationship a year or so later for several years, but NO ONE was ever as good as he was. He says the same about me. I guess we were meant for each other.

Billions of times later it gets better all the time.
07/28/2010
Contributor: NightNight NightNight
Some of these stories are really romantic
07/31/2010
Contributor: AVDisco AVDisco
I was 16. I'm no longer with the guy, but we had a really good run and I will always be thankful that I was among those fortunate enough to have a good first experience, even if I was just a little girl in the back of a car. :/ haha
08/02/2010
Contributor: ememem ememem
It was a few days before my 20th birthday. He was the bestfriend of my bestfriends boyfriend so everytime I came back into town I would hangout with the three of them. Out of the blue, one night he asks me if I want to go out sometime, but I am completely take aback as I had never thought about him in that way. I was shocked and had to leave town the next day for University. Im away from my hometown for three months and I can't stop thinking about him. Summer finally comes and the second I arrive back intown I phone him. He doesn't answer- I leave a message. Im home for a week and only have a few days left intown and he hasnt answered my call. I think that he must no longer be interested. Im hanging out with our mutual friends when he stops by and is shocked to see me, apparently he had been out of town visiting his family and his phone had died. He drives me home and I tell him that I had called him the second I got into town. He has a huge smile across his face and asks me out for the following night.

The next night he picks me up and asks me where I want to go to eat. Unfortunately its already pretty late because he just got off work so we have limited options and decide to order pizza at his place. We are at his place for less then ten minutes when we go downstairs to his bedroom to find the phonebook.... he orders the pizza and we never end up picking it up because we have sex for the next three hours.

We are still together now and he says he lasted so long because he was nervous and out of practice. It was my first time doing anything other then kissing and it didnt hurt at all (lots of foreplay). I was by no means perfect, it was a little too lengthy and slightly awkward but he treated me with respect and it was actually me who initiated the sex, not him- although bringing a girl into your bedroom on your first date is alittle suspicious!
08/02/2010
Contributor: Latsyrc728 Latsyrc728
Quote:
Originally posted by VelvetBound
I would define "losing ones virginity" as consenting to sexual intercourse. Feel free to elaborate or suggest otherwise.

Also, I would love to hear about your first experience. How was it? Where was it? Etc.

Er, hopefully ... more
I was 18 and we rented a Motel since he lived with his girlfriend (I know, dumb! He kept saying he was going to leave her & he finally did...right before I dumped him) and I lived with my parents. It was super painful and he was HUGE and inexperienced. Not the best time, but I felt like the only 18 year old virgin and was sick of waiting. Less than a year later, I met the love of my life. Should have waited! All well.
08/03/2010