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Do you think it's weird for a virgin to have her first penetration by a toy?

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Contributor: bunny love bunny love
Not weird at all! That's what I did

I bought my first toys on the night of my 18th birthday. I'm glad I played with toys before having sex. It was easier for me to relax and have fun when I did decide to have sex with a partner.
11/26/2012
Contributor: Robespierrethecat Robespierrethecat
Virginity is a social construct and overrated.
It's up to YOU entirely what YOU want virginity to mean or not mean.

Furthermore, if you want to use your vibrator, DO IT.
If you want to still "be a virgin", DO IT too!
11/26/2012
Contributor: MsDrProfKitty MsDrProfKitty
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Originally posted by indiglo
It's not weird at all. Enjoy your body however YOU want to. There's nothing wrong with using a toy, especially if you have one and you want to do it.

You only lose your virginity when YOU say you do. Masturbating hardly counts, or ... more
YES! SO TRUE HAHAHA
01/24/2013
Contributor: Nissa Nissa Nissa Nissa
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Originally posted by marrythenight
The reason I'm asking is because I was talking to some girlfriends about toys not too long ago, and they do know I'm a virgin, and I did say that I got an actual vibe recently (the bcurious bgood--it's still sitting in my closet in its ... more
I always associate virginity with the intimacy that comes with .. sex, not just the actual act of penetration.
01/24/2013
Contributor: aphroditelady aphroditelady
I have to say, I'm a virgin and have yet to have sex other than using toys on myself. I absolutely hate it when people say that I'm not a virgin because I've used something on myself. It's not uncommon for hymens to break before sexual intercourse, would you consider someone a virgin then? In my mind I'm still a virgin even though I've used dildos and vibes on myself.
01/25/2013
Contributor: Mrs.Tee Mrs.Tee
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Originally posted by marrythenight
The reason I'm asking is because I was talking to some girlfriends about toys not too long ago, and they do know I'm a virgin, and I did say that I got an actual vibe recently (the bcurious bgood--it's still sitting in my closet in its ... more
i really dont think that it is
01/25/2013
Contributor: ashboo32 ashboo32
i don't think its weird. i wish i had explored myself more before having sex.
01/26/2013
Contributor: karenm karenm
I'd say that learning what you like is great. Obviously sex is going to feel different, but that's to be expected.
01/26/2013
Contributor: purpledesert purpledesert
My first penetration was with a toy. I am still a virgin. Loss of virginity occurs when you have your first consensual sexual encounter, in
my opinion. Even if there's no penetration, I may not want to consider myself one if there's all kinds of wonderful other stuff involved. Honestly I am less nervous about it knowing I know how my body works sexually. And hey, when that time does come, I'll probably have an easier time relaxing and enjoying it (or at least embracing the awkwardness) since I'm not all hung up on the "OMG PENETRATION PAIN PAIN PAIN" aspect.
01/26/2013
Contributor: joiedejouets joiedejouets
I don't think it's weird and I think all girls should experiment more before taking the plunge. I wish I had!
01/26/2013
Contributor: 99devildog 99devildog
I don't think it's weird.
01/26/2013
Contributor: EmuLove EmuLove
Do you use tampons? Do you think this means you lost your virginity to a tampon?
01/26/2013
Contributor: Flower1 Flower1
i don't think it's weird.
01/26/2013
Contributor: RedGlitter RedGlitter
No, I don't think it's weird. A girl could "lose her virginity" by using a tampon...once you're with another person sexually, you've "lost your virginity"...you cannot lose it with a vibe!
01/27/2013
Contributor: jfree jfree
I definitely have some compunctions about it myself since that's how I started exploring sex, but overall, it's not that weird. Granted, I've yet to actually orgasm with masturbation but it's a ritual for me and something that makes me happy to do before bed.
01/27/2013
Contributor: libbyv libbyv
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Originally posted by marrythenight
The reason I'm asking is because I was talking to some girlfriends about toys not too long ago, and they do know I'm a virgin, and I did say that I got an actual vibe recently (the bcurious bgood--it's still sitting in my closet in its ... more
not at all. mine was with a man. but to each their own
02/09/2013
Contributor: LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
Not weird at all. Many a virgin has used a penetrating sex toy And you're still a virgin until you have sex with another person.
02/09/2013
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
I think it's perfectly fine and not losing your virginity.
02/25/2013
Contributor: 783883877299373783 783883877299373783
I actually purchased my first sex toy when I was 15 and had sex when I was 18. I am glad it worked out like this.
02/25/2013
Contributor: Qozt Qozt
Nothing weird about it at all. The whole concept of virginity is pretty silly anyway.
02/25/2013
Contributor: Gdom Gdom
There's nothing weird about that at all! As for the "virginity" bit, that word is about as well-defined as it is useful (that is to say, not very much at all). Using a toy first isn't going to "ruin you" for a future partner (or whatever else the worry might be); in fact, using a toy will probably help you discover what sorts of things you really like so when you do have your first time with another person, you'll be better able to communicate what it is you enjoy.
02/27/2013
Contributor: improbableomnicide improbableomnicide
Starting with toys would help, I would think...
03/21/2013
Contributor: kaylajoy89 kaylajoy89
nope, i did. virgins are horny too
03/31/2013
Contributor: Allison.Wilder Allison.Wilder
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Originally posted by marrythenight
The reason I'm asking is because I was talking to some girlfriends about toys not too long ago, and they do know I'm a virgin, and I did say that I got an actual vibe recently (the bcurious bgood--it's still sitting in my closet in its ... more
I don't think it's weird and I wouldn't personally consider it a loss of virginity.
04/03/2013
Contributor: dancingduo dancingduo
I think if it helps you then go for it.
04/04/2013
Contributor: lilyflower lilyflower
I don't think its weird and I don't consider it losing your virginity. My first penetration was with a dildo, and it made my first time with a guy easier because I sort of knew what to expect. As for the virginity thing, I think of that as being your first time with another person. A toy doesn't count
04/05/2013
Contributor: LoneOokami LoneOokami
theres nothing weird about it
05/18/2013
Contributor: Rawr4483 Rawr4483
I hope it's not weird, otherwise most of us are haha
05/18/2013
Contributor: snowminx snowminx
This is pretty old but yeah I don't see why it would be weird at all.
05/18/2013
Contributor: Experiment Experiment
I lost my virginity to a speculum getting a Mirena put in. And it was so painful that I realized that I should probably 'stretch myself out' a bit. So I started using a dildo to do just that.

First time I had actual sex, we had to use a TON of lube or he couldn't get it in. I can't even imagine how much of a train wreck it would have been had I not taken the preparation that I did.
05/21/2013