That's not weird, it's smart! If you get through the hymen with a toy then you can, hopefully, have a pain-free and altogether more enjoyable time with your partner. Without the unsexy vaginal bleeding. When my hymen tore, it was so painful that I couldn't get to the actual sex anyway.
I suppose, there is an argument that you aren't a virgin if you lose your hymen. Personally, I don't think this is the case. Consider women who never involve penetration in their sexual encounters or women who were raped as virgins and wanted to 'reclaim' their virginity when going into an encounter of their own free will.
I suppose, there is an argument that you aren't a virgin if you lose your hymen. Personally, I don't think this is the case. Consider women who never involve penetration in their sexual encounters or women who were raped as virgins and wanted to 'reclaim' their virginity when going into an encounter of their own free will.