Getting what you want in bed

Contributor: animepanda89 animepanda89
I do a bit of everything
09/16/2012
Contributor: Supervixen Supervixen
I am pretty upfront and vocal about what I want. I think too many people don't speak up about what they want, and spend too much time resenting the situation. Just speak up! You're an adult, and if your partner is mature, he or she should be able to communicate clearly with you. Communication is really the key to a healthy, happy relationship.
09/26/2012
Contributor: Mr.RightNow Mr.RightNow
Don't be shy
09/27/2012
Contributor: Mr.RightNow Mr.RightNow
Tell them
09/27/2012
Contributor: JessieDawg JessieDawg
All of the above
09/27/2012
Contributor: kmarsico kmarsico
If its a new idea i just come out and tell him, if its something we do already ill just moan or make noise so he knows hes doing good and i really enjoy it
10/16/2012
Contributor: Kat and Aaron(aaron) Kat and Aaron(aaron)
All three.
10/22/2012
Contributor: 31 Flavors 31 Flavors
Communication is so important.
11/05/2012
Contributor: Istanbull Istanbull
I just keep it to myself. Telling her anything is a waste of breath.
11/05/2012
Contributor: Kitten has left the site Kitten has left the site
I do all three but mainly I use my hands to show him where since he's a bit hands on.
11/05/2012
Contributor: Martiniman Martiniman
Good communication is the key.
11/06/2012
Contributor: Velocity Velocity
I am really shy in bed, but I'm working on the communication thing.
11/08/2012
Contributor: Babylove09 Babylove09
Quote:
Originally posted by link82
How do you let your partner know the things you like and don't like when it comes to sex (foreplay included).
All the above.
11/14/2012
Contributor: KinkyNicki92 KinkyNicki92
I come out and tell him what i want. Because i get what i want, he likes hearing me say dirty things, and he doesnt have to second guess if what he is doing is right or not..
11/16/2012
Contributor: spiced spiced
Absolutely all of the above. Sometimes, in the heat of things, any talk except dirty talk kind of breaks the mood--but afterwards, my wife and I often talk about things we'd like to try and likes/dislikes about the sex we just had.

I can't remember where I saw it, but I read a tip about asking short, yes/no questions. Faster? Firmer? (etc) It's a great way to communicate without breaking the spell...
11/20/2012
Contributor: Marie Hanna Marie Hanna
I'm always straight forward.
11/20/2012
Contributor: Arlinnae Arlinnae
depends on both of our moods I guess
11/20/2012
Contributor: Falsepast Falsepast
I don't have anyone to tell
01/10/2013
Contributor: Bleu Bleu
Quote:
Originally posted by Scott Ghost
The better the communication - the better the sex.
This, basically.

My boyfriend doesn't seem to know that, though!
01/11/2013
Contributor: kristina0121 kristina0121
We are both really open about what we want. I won't bark orders during sex, but I will tell him what I want more or less of at a different time. So when we do have sex, he knows what I'm craving
01/11/2013
Contributor: hmb12 hmb12
Sometimes it is natural to get interested in kinks without actually having a desire to do them in the bedroom, so I usually contemplate my requests for a week or so before letting my partner know. He likes to please me, so if I tell him to do something, he might think he has to do it most of the time to make me satisfied.
01/14/2013
Contributor: Hummingbird Hummingbird
I don't want to hurt his feelings but have been a little braver lately and have tried to talk a little about his and my own preferences when not in bed.
01/15/2013
Contributor: libbyv libbyv
Quote:
Originally posted by link82
How do you let your partner know the things you like and don't like when it comes to sex (foreplay included).
i tell him
01/15/2013
Contributor: Lady Smile Lady Smile
We do all three.
01/15/2013
Contributor: DaniDeee DaniDeee
All three but it really makes things easier if you just tell them.
01/30/2013
Contributor: tunacan75 tunacan75
I guide hands and give audio reactions, its better that way
01/30/2013
Contributor: novanilla novanilla
I don't have sex with people I don't feel comfortable talking with about my needs and wants. I always say what I want, otherwise I leave unsatisfied.
01/30/2013
Contributor: happywaffle34 happywaffle34
Quote:
Originally posted by link82
How do you let your partner know the things you like and don't like when it comes to sex (foreplay included).
i usually keeps it in till we have a big fight and then it explodes
01/30/2013
Contributor: sexytileena / absolutely love sex sexytileena / absolutely love sex
I do all of the above.
01/30/2013
Contributor: dks210 dks210
All of the above!
02/02/2013