Getting what you want in bed

Contributor: Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
I've gotten a lot better about communicating what I like and don't like. Sometimes I come across as pushy though...
11/01/2011
Contributor: grace grace
My guy and I talk about everything. I find that having a good open and honest communication with in our relationship really brings us together more mentally and physically.
11/02/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by link82
How do you let your partner know the things you like and don't like when it comes to sex (foreplay included).
All of the above
11/08/2011
Contributor: GoodCall GoodCall
Communication is key for sure. Sometimes I like demonstrating myself (he's more eager to try for himself after watching me!)
11/13/2011
Contributor: Kaltir Kaltir
We respond very well to each others reactions when we like something, but if we want to try something new, we tell each other what we want. If we don't say it quite right, we just guide each other where we're referring to, and show each other what we mean
11/17/2011
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
I do all of those to let him know, but I've gotten a lot better at just telling/asking him.
11/17/2011
Contributor: Wildchild Wildchild
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Originally posted by link82
How do you let your partner know the things you like and don't like when it comes to sex (foreplay included).
Just come right out and say it. I do tend to moan and show how excited I am when something feels really well.
11/18/2011
Contributor: tlaskowski tlaskowski
after 4 years he knows!
11/19/2011
Contributor: eroticmutt eroticmutt
Quote:
Originally posted by link82
How do you let your partner know the things you like and don't like when it comes to sex (foreplay included).
I just ask nicely, and give little tips on what feels good
11/24/2011
Contributor: allinonekid allinonekid
"All the above"
11/24/2011
Contributor: mistressg mistressg
Depends.
11/24/2011
Contributor: jedent jedent
i wouldn't say that i purposely moan or anything to guide him, those come out naturally and uncontrollably when it's going well
11/30/2011
Contributor: eeep eeep
It's a mix of moaning and making noises when he's getting things right and guiding their hands. Once I'm comfortable in a relationship I will outright just say what I want too.
11/30/2011
Contributor: SugarLips SugarLips
Communication is key, it makes everything easier! The moaning is good in the moment though!
11/30/2011
Contributor: ud328 ud328
I'm vocal in every way. You can't expect to get what you want if you aren't up front with it. Her on the other hand, not so much. Sometimes she has to get frustrated before she opens up. Kind of difficult sometimes but its a nice challenge sometimes too.
11/30/2011
Contributor: Kendrir Kendrir
I said 'All of the above' for letting her know, but as far as acting upon those things, I wait on her usually. Patience isn't always easy, but it often pays off in the best of ways
12/01/2011
Contributor: GRRRRR GRRRRR
Show and tell is so much fun in bed.
12/01/2011
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
Direct explanation is always the most efficient.
12/01/2011
Contributor: NarcissisticLust NarcissisticLust
Quote:
Originally posted by link82
How do you let your partner know the things you like and don't like when it comes to sex (foreplay included).
A partner won't know what you want in bed unless you show them or tell them. My partner and I discuss what we want/don't want and what we like/don't like. That includes the majority of your options below also.
12/22/2011
Contributor: KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
A bit of all three, there's no sense in being too shy to let your partner know what works.
12/26/2011
Contributor: Silverdrop Silverdrop
I just ask for what I want.

Asking might turn into begging, pleading, moaning, etc, if he wants to tease me.
12/26/2011
Contributor: shcoo shcoo
I do all of the above. I am mostly verbal though.
Sometimes I'll describe in detail what I want before we begin.
01/02/2012
Contributor: quinceykay quinceykay
Mostly I try to do it by guiding their hands/adjusting positions, and moaning louder when it feels good. Then after sex, we can talk about what we like and dislike in a more straightforward way without worrying about killing the mood lol.
01/03/2012
Contributor: Undead Undead
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Originally posted by link82
How do you let your partner know the things you like and don't like when it comes to sex (foreplay included).
I just flat out tell her.
01/19/2012
Contributor: BobbiJay BobbiJay
If you don't tell them what you like you're never going to be satisfied.
01/22/2012
Contributor: Katelyn Katelyn
It matters on which partner it is : )
01/23/2012
Contributor: Kabachu Kabachu
Quote:
Originally posted by link82
How do you let your partner know the things you like and don't like when it comes to sex (foreplay included).
whatever is called for
01/24/2012
Contributor: ksparkles16 ksparkles16
You have to say something! that's always good
01/27/2012
Contributor: ninja250 ninja250
Do all three, comunication is very important.
01/27/2012
Contributor: Moein Moein
In my experience watching some porn -Hentai in my case- together is more effective than guide her.
01/27/2012