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Do you find it easy to talk dirty to you partner?

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Contributor: coyfish coyfish
I think dirty talk is both a matter of confidence and knowing the other person. Even if something said sounds a little awkward if it is said with confidence it normally accepted easier. So I think it's important not to second guess yourself right as you're saying something. Just let it happen.

Once you know someone well you normally have a good idea of what turns them on. So it becomes more natural to say those things over time.
11/16/2010
Contributor: kitti kitti
i dont talk.. i act this way.. )
11/16/2010
Contributor: Brand Brand
I would say yes. Reason being she really likes to talk dirty in bed and has been that way since the first time we had sex.
11/17/2010
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Sometimes it's easy for me. He was shy about it at first, now I can't get him to shut up when we're close!
11/19/2010
Contributor: KnK KnK
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Originally posted by buzzvibe
I find talking in and of itself difficult during sex. It throws me off. I don't know why. Grunts and sighs are easy enough, though.
I'd agree. Dirty talk is foreplay. I do a lot of taunting. Dirty talk is so much better when bondage is involved!! By the time the sexing happens, I can't speak.
11/27/2010
Contributor: dhig dhig
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Originally posted by Blinker
It's very easy for me, because we started dating online, and phone sex became quite regular until we met for the first time. So by that point it was super easy to talk dirty to my lover, and it still is. Dirty talk is a regular part of our play ... more
Wow, I had the exact same thing to say about meeting my lady online and having some wine. I find that wine really loosens the tongue/inhibitions.
12/04/2010
Contributor: toxie m toxie m
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Originally posted by buzzvibe
I find talking in and of itself difficult during sex. It throws me off. I don't know why. Grunts and sighs are easy enough, though.
This is me, too. My mind just goes absolutely blank during sex, I just have no words. It's all feelings and pictures, if I had to string a coherent sentence together it would definitely pull me out of the moment
12/06/2010
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
i have a little bit of trouble but its not cu=asue im uncomfortable. its just not something that im used to doing.
12/06/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by P'Gell
Now, it is easy. I know the kinds of things that turn him on, and often I just say what is going through my mind. For us, "dirty talk" is a regular part of our sex. Not all the time, but often.

For years I was afraid to say anything ... more
OMG.. it took me forever to even get to "Fuck me"
12/12/2010
Contributor: RemusHalifax RemusHalifax
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Originally posted by Intrigued
Talking dirty to your partner during sex can be a turn on. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to start. What I want to say seems to sound good in my head, but once the words reach my lips, I feel silly. Help!
Honestly, I'm a really quiet, awkward person. Sometimes when I get really horny or something, I can bring myself to do it. Most of the time though, it's just me admitting that I really want to give him a blowjob. I don't like going into detail because although I'm a pretty creative person, I hate being put on the spot. If I know I'll get something out of it though, that makes it a lot easier.
12/12/2010
Contributor: MrRainybowbow MrRainybowbow
We've been dateing for over a year and that kind of stuff still feels akward to me. I mean im 5'ft young voice and face for my age i just feel creepy when i try.
12/25/2010
Contributor: UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
Yes, it's easy. I'm amazed by the things that come out of my mouth sometimes.
12/29/2010
Contributor: ToxicHeart ToxicHeart
It depends... but for the most part no. I feel silly when I do. He likes it but I get embarrassed >.<
12/31/2010
Contributor: Crystal1 Crystal1
I voted "Sometimes". I am way better at texting than phone sex! In person, a few words or ideas are easy, but not a drawn-out description or fantasy.
12/31/2010
Contributor: Kitt Katt Kitt Katt
I was so shy and completely lacked confidence in myself until a few months ago. After all these years, I finally realized that my husband wanted a confident woman in the bedroom. Now I can't keep my filthy little mouth shut when we are together!
01/03/2011
Contributor: 0letitgrow 0letitgrow
Quote:
Originally posted by Intrigued
Talking dirty to your partner during sex can be a turn on. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to start. What I want to say seems to sound good in my head, but once the words reach my lips, I feel silly. Help!
I find it hard not to talk dirty during sex. When we aren't kissing what else is my mouth supposed to do.
01/06/2011
Contributor: Vinroe Vinroe
Quote:
Originally posted by Intrigued
Talking dirty to your partner during sex can be a turn on. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to start. What I want to say seems to sound good in my head, but once the words reach my lips, I feel silly. Help!
I've done it before but I sometimes find it difficult when my wife and I are in the moment. When I hear myself the words sound like cheesy dialogue from a really bad porn. I think talking dirty can sometimes make or break an intimate evening depending on ones mood. I like hearing hot and dirty talk flowing passed my wife's lips. However when she asks me to talk dirty to her my mind goes blank or I begin to worry if I'll go to far. There are just some things that can only be said in the realm of porn.
01/08/2011
Contributor: Beaners Beaners
I always feel ridiculous when I'm talking dirty. I can dirty text all day, but I tend to find dirty talk unattractively raunchy.
01/11/2011
Contributor: That Guy That Guy
I joke about this all the time. When I was younger, my girlfriend used to love to talk dirty, but sometimes I would run out of new things to say, and get self-conscious about repeating myself, like she was going to call me out about it or something. There have also been a few times I've accidentally gone too far with it. I generally keep it pretty tame, nowadays.

As for my girl, well, she could probably say just about anything as long as she sounded like it turned her on, and I'd find it sexy.
01/13/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
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Originally posted by Intrigued
Isn't that funny how its easier to text it then to say it in person? My husband and I are very active sexters. I love being able to get him hot wherever he might be. Foreplay has never been so much fun. Fingers crossed that the children never get ... more
That is too funny. We sext all the time too, especially now since he is away on business. My son must think I am crazy because I must have my phone with me at all times; I'm terrified he will pick it up when it rings. The other day I left it at the checkout at the grocery store. I panicked and ran back in full-speed, just as the cashier was about to open it up. Whew! Maybe I should delete my messages more often.
01/18/2011
Contributor: vanillaSpice vanillaSpice
No, and I don't care for it.
01/21/2011
Contributor: zeebot zeebot
I'm totally comfortable with moaning and other great noises, but I'm really awkward when it comes to actual words.
02/01/2011
Contributor: moonch1ld moonch1ld
I've never had a problem with it. I think it's alot easier if you know you're partner is on the same level of kinkiness as you. The only trouble I have with it is trying to not have my roommates hear what I'm saying. It's much more fun to say whatever I want however loud I want when we really have complete privacy.
02/08/2011
Contributor: onehotmomma onehotmomma
No problem for me, and it never has been. I'm extremely shy though, so I find it quite odd lol
02/08/2011
Contributor: Mr.RightNow Mr.RightNow
yep
02/08/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Intrigued
Talking dirty to your partner during sex can be a turn on. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to start. What I want to say seems to sound good in my head, but once the words reach my lips, I feel silly. Help!
Very easily!
02/17/2011
Contributor: Kaltir Kaltir
It used to sound silly to me too, but the more he talked back, the more I felt comfortable with it. It's just a matter of getting used to it;-)
02/17/2011
Contributor: EvaChangeN EvaChangeN
I have to get wrapped up into it...if I'm not feeling it then I'm just gonna groan for me
02/18/2011
Contributor: lezergirl lezergirl
haha i love the last option that no one has chosen
02/18/2011
Contributor: Mistress M. Mistress M.
Sometimes its easy. It really has to be about the mood we're in when we're having sex. If we're not having rough, rowdy sex, which we usually do, we don't talk dirty.
02/18/2011