That is excellent advice. I was reading something recently that talked about a man's attitude toward learning about sex vs. a woman's attitude and the author notices a vast difference. The largest being that men are more likely to believe they are experts and have nothing to learn.

It's a generalization, to be sure, and really probably both men and women can benefit from the advice of not letting your ego prevent you thinking you have nothing to learn. less

Absolutely, I learned that recently with my life partner. He is younger than I am and I was his first so I constantly feel like a total NOOB...I mean I always had Sigel who was the experienced one, made me realize how much I DIDN'T know about sex being with Arch. Still continuing education is sooooo much fun. less

Things like that just kinda make me wonder what I'll be like after 20 years of marriage. Right now, my sexuality is still pretty young and everything. With all the kinky things I already do, I wonder what will be left in 20 years. Kinda a neat thought. less

Welcome to this week's Naked Reader Book Club Discussion! June is Oral Sex Month and this week we're discussing The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus and The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio, both by the incomparable Violet Blue.

These guides are considered the "ultimate" because of their in-depth coverage of the topic of giving oral pleasure. Far more than the bulleted lists of tips and tricks that can be found in any women's (or men's) magazines, Violet explores the topic of going down on your partner from ALL angles. What's not to love, right?

So I ask you, dear readers, what's your opinion of how-to sex guides? Do you read them? Share them with your partner? Bookmark pages in an attempt to get that much needed attention you crave? Can you really get an education in giving "mind-blowing pleasure" from a book?

If you've read one or both of Violet's guides, what did you think? Was there a piece of advice that you found eye-opening or particularly helpful? Better yet, were you able to successfully apply Violet's advice or suggestions?

Whether you've read Violet Blue's guides or are thinking about ordering them and want more information, I invite you to drop in and share your opinion or ask a question about the topic of going down! less

I have not actually tried any how to books on this type of topic other than a Karma Sutra cliff notes style book. I would love to see what the author has to offer and maybe enhance the already wonderful joy that is oral sex. I will be adding this to my wish list and hoping my other half will be interested too! less

Thanks to everyone for stopping in tonight and sharing your thoughts, experiences and questions! I've had a great time talking about Violet Blue's Ultimate guides! See you all again in two weeks to discuss Rachel Kramer Bussel's anthologies Tasting Him and Tasting Her! less