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Naked Reader Book Club Discussion: The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus and The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio

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Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Andromeda
The included erotica might be a good way of getting my bf to read the cunnilingus book :p
I most certainly agree! I also think your bf will find that this isn't a dry, boring textbook. It's quite juicy and the language is explicit.
06/08/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
One aspect of Violet's guides I find particularly interesting is that this isn't the kind of book you hand to your lover and say, "Here! Learn what to do!" It's the kind of book that invites you to start a conversation with your ... more
Absolutely agree! Most of the How To books I skimmed through were insulting to the recipients as well as if they aren't supposed to add any feedback and they are supposed to just lay there and enjoy. Lots of them advocate almost sneaking up on your partner like stalking a wild animal and overwhelming them....not a shared pleasure at all. I liked the gentle and loving manner the information is presented in and the techniques are also equally loving. It's just an amazing book.
06/08/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Peg
Have a good night everyone.
Good night to you! Thanks for stopping by!
06/08/2010
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
One aspect of Violet's guides I find particularly interesting is that this isn't the kind of book you hand to your lover and say, "Here! Learn what to do!" It's the kind of book that invites you to start a conversation with your ... more
That was very true of the one we read. It was highly enjoyable reading it together, and sparked a lot of conversation between us.
06/08/2010
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
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Originally posted by MuffysPinguLove
I liked that she included a picture of the different kinds of piercings. I've never dated a guy who was pierced and I didn't really know what the different piercings looked like, but the picture helped clear that up
She really included that? That's awesome. I'm sure it's something a lot of other guides would have looked over.
06/08/2010
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
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Originally posted by Alan & Michele
That was very true of the one we read. It was highly enjoyable reading it together, and sparked a lot of conversation between us.
Jor and I haven't read how-to books together before, but we have read erotica together before. I absolutely love it because it's always inspiration about something we can do together next.
06/08/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Absolutely agree! Most of the How To books I skimmed through were insulting to the recipients as well as if they aren't supposed to add any feedback and they are supposed to just lay there and enjoy. Lots of them advocate almost sneaking up on ... more
I absolutely agree. I'm a big believer in taking responsibility for your own sexual pleasure, which is something that's often overlooked in the how-to articles of women's and men's magazines. Violet goes further than the superficial tricks and tips and delves into the pleasure of both giving and receiving oral sex.
06/08/2010
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
I absolutely agree. I'm a big believer in taking responsibility for your own sexual pleasure, which is something that's often overlooked in the how-to articles of women's and men's magazines. Violet goes further than the superficial ... more
Reading some of the Cosmo comments once in awhile just makes me giggle. They suggest the oddest thing. It makes me wonder who actually comes up with some of those suggestions.
06/08/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Kayla
Reading some of the Cosmo comments once in awhile just makes me giggle. They suggest the oddest thing. It makes me wonder who actually comes up with some of those suggestions.
The scary part is Cosmo and the like are the only information many people are ever exposed to regarding sexual pleasure and health. I wish Violet's guides could be serialized for Cosmo and Maxim!
06/08/2010
Contributor: TechyDad TechyDad
I've got to admit that I've never read any "How To" books like this, but reading all of the comments I might just need to get the cunnilingus book. I'd like to think I'm good at that activity, but I'm always open to finding new ways to make my wife happy.
06/08/2010
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
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Originally posted by Kayla
Reading some of the Cosmo comments once in awhile just makes me giggle. They suggest the oddest thing. It makes me wonder who actually comes up with some of those suggestions.
A crack team of monkeys?
06/08/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
I like the fact that Violet Blue goes into areas that most people joke about or gloss over...like how to keep your lipstick on your lips! How to make oral love to a strap-on ect.
06/08/2010
Contributor: MuffysPinguLove MuffysPinguLove
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I like the fact that Violet Blue goes into areas that most people joke about or gloss over...like how to keep your lipstick on your lips! How to make oral love to a strap-on ect.
I really liked the how to keep your lipstick on while giving head section. I found myself looking into the different brands of lipstick she recommended!
06/08/2010
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
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Originally posted by TechyDad
I've got to admit that I've never read any "How To" books like this, but reading all of the comments I might just need to get the cunnilingus book. I'd like to think I'm good at that activity, but I'm always open to ... more
It's got some interesting ideas, even for those of us who have been at it awhile.
06/08/2010
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
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Originally posted by MuffysPinguLove
I really liked the how to keep your lipstick on while giving head section. I found myself looking into the different brands of lipstick she recommended!
That is neat. I guess I've never considered how to keep my lipstick on. I figured it'd always work just to reapply it after I was finished.
06/08/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by TechyDad
I've got to admit that I've never read any "How To" books like this, but reading all of the comments I might just need to get the cunnilingus book. I'd like to think I'm good at that activity, but I'm always open to ... more
I think you'll be pleasantly surprised. Consider it continuing education!

Your comment made me realize that, like all other likes and dislikes, sex is something that changes over the course of a person's life. After being married 20 years, I know there are things I appreciate now (the quickie, for instance) that I didn't necessarily appreciate when I was younger. So advice or suggestions I might have skipped over at one point in my life are suddenly relevant and helpful!
06/08/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Kayla
That is neat. I guess I've never considered how to keep my lipstick on. I figured it'd always work just to reapply it after I was finished.
Ha! As someone who rarely wears lipstick, I didn't even consider it an issue. However, it's those little details that make Violet's books fun and unique. I might be a lipstick convert now!
06/08/2010
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
I think you'll be pleasantly surprised. Consider it continuing education!

Your comment made me realize that, like all other likes and dislikes, sex is something that changes over the course of a person's life. After being married 20 ... more
Things like that just kinda make me wonder what I'll be like after 20 years of marriage. Right now, my sexuality is still pretty young and everything. With all the kinky things I already do, I wonder what will be left in 20 years. Kinda a neat thought.
06/08/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Kayla
Things like that just kinda make me wonder what I'll be like after 20 years of marriage. Right now, my sexuality is still pretty young and everything. With all the kinky things I already do, I wonder what will be left in 20 years. Kinda a neat ... more
It only gets better. Truly. And no matter how much I've done/tried/experienced , I find there are always new things to learn! Of course, I'm a bit of an education geek, so maybe that's just me.

And think about what's "kinky" now that didn't even exist 20 years ago-- cyber sex, Skype sex, the availability of porn and sex toys thanks to the internet (I'd never seen glass or metal sex toys until I discovered them online!)... So who knows what sexual wonders we'll discover in another 20 years? I imagine Violet Blue will be writing about them, though!
06/08/2010
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
It only gets better. Truly. And no matter how much I've done/tried/experienced , I find there are always new things to learn! Of course, I'm a bit of an education geek, so maybe that's just me.

And think about what's ... more
It's true. But I honestly can't imagine anything getting more advanced than the Skype and cyber sex and everything. I mean, video calls obviously will make for some obvious changes, but aside from that, what else can sexuality honestly get into? Virtual reality porn? 'cause that'd be neat.

And she probably would be writing about them. And helping us all out with the new technology.
06/08/2010
Contributor: 00 00
Just a brief comment to the younger women here...as a long time married woman of much "seasoned years"..learn as much as you can now..it will help in keeping you interested in sex, enjoying sex and being a sexual human being for the rest of your life. I know many women, my age and even younger, who have almost totally given up on sex in almost any way because they had some crazy notion that it was "natural" and that they and their partners should just automatically "know" how to do things. When it did not work out like that, they give up, frustrated. Be open, learn, teach each other, share info, practice. I have been married to my husband for almost 30 years now and the sex is getting better and better every year. But that is because we both are open with each other, teach each other, and most importantly, we allow ourselves to be taught. Never settle for mediocre. Thanks for letting me have my little say. Hugs.
06/08/2010
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
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Originally posted by Kayla
Things like that just kinda make me wonder what I'll be like after 20 years of marriage. Right now, my sexuality is still pretty young and everything. With all the kinky things I already do, I wonder what will be left in 20 years. Kinda a neat ... more
It definitely gets better.
06/08/2010
Contributor: NightNight NightNight
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Originally posted by 00
Just a brief comment to the younger women here...as a long time married woman of much "seasoned years"..learn as much as you can now..it will help in keeping you interested in sex, enjoying sex and being a sexual human being for the rest of ... more
Thank you
06/08/2010
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
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Originally posted by 00
Just a brief comment to the younger women here...as a long time married woman of much "seasoned years"..learn as much as you can now..it will help in keeping you interested in sex, enjoying sex and being a sexual human being for the rest of ... more
Very well put. And for the younger men, never let your ego get ahead of your talent and just assume you know all there is about pleasing a lady. There's always something new to learn.
06/08/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by 00
Just a brief comment to the younger women here...as a long time married woman of much "seasoned years"..learn as much as you can now..it will help in keeping you interested in sex, enjoying sex and being a sexual human being for the rest of ... more
Thanks so much for having your say! I completely agree with you. I think there is potential for learning, growing and improving regardless of our age or where we are in our lives. Absolutely!
06/08/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Alan & Michele
Very well put. And for the younger men, never let your ego get ahead of your talent and just assume you know all there is about pleasing a lady. There's always something new to learn.
Well said! It's too bad that more men don't realize how exciting and arousing it can be to express an interest in learning something new...
06/08/2010
Contributor: Andromeda Andromeda
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Originally posted by Kayla
Reading some of the Cosmo comments once in awhile just makes me giggle. They suggest the oddest thing. It makes me wonder who actually comes up with some of those suggestions.
LOL. I know EXACTLY what you mean. All those articles that are supposedly about the things guys "really" want.
06/08/2010
Contributor: NightNight NightNight
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Originally posted by 00
Just a brief comment to the younger women here...as a long time married woman of much "seasoned years"..learn as much as you can now..it will help in keeping you interested in sex, enjoying sex and being a sexual human being for the rest of ... more
I have a lot of admiration for people who still greatly enjoy their sex life well into life. I never had any positive role models even for healthy loving relationships so it's always a source of anxiety to me whether I can manage it (but I am consciously trying to steer the ship in that direction).
06/08/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
It only gets better. Truly. And no matter how much I've done/tried/experienced , I find there are always new things to learn! Of course, I'm a bit of an education geek, so maybe that's just me.

And think about what's ... more
Hell YES it gets better with age! YOu learn your partner so well that you don;t have to concentrate on technique it is just warm, wet, fluid and oh so right!
06/08/2010
Contributor: 00 00
I so totally agree with the thoughts about younger men...don't let the male ego and cockiness (pardon the pun)lead you to think you know EXACTLY what or how to do something. Haha. We are ALL born ignorant and must be educated about everything...just because it is sex, it is still the same, we must be educated about it. And a smart sexually educated person is a more sexually fulfilled and fulfilling person.
06/08/2010