I would take ANYONE that asks me just so they are safe! They can get concoms and what not too just to be safe against disease as well! I would make it known that I am taking her so it's not a secret but I wouldn't think twice....
Please tell me if I'm wrong.
05/21/2012
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exactly
Originally posted by
Ansley
I don't agree that her parents would be able to see what happened during that visit or the prescriptions given to her. All she needs to do is go to Planned Parenthood and they can help her. But, if that's not an option someone should
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I don't agree that her parents would be able to see what happened during that visit or the prescriptions given to her. All she needs to do is go to Planned Parenthood and they can help her. But, if that's not an option someone should definitely help the girl, regardless of who it is.
And while I understand the desire for skin-to-skin contact during intercourse, condoms wouldn't be a terrible idea either. less
And while I understand the desire for skin-to-skin contact during intercourse, condoms wouldn't be a terrible idea either. less
05/21/2012
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Ok.. as a parent I can say that no it isn't "your place" but I do think someone needs to take her especially since they are active already..
Originally posted by
Miss Anonymous
Okay, so my little brother moved in with me. It's been very good so far. Now my little brothers girlfriend is coming to visit. She's turning 17 and my brother just turned 18. When she gets her she will be a month shy of her 17th birthday.
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Okay, so my little brother moved in with me. It's been very good so far. Now my little brothers girlfriend is coming to visit. She's turning 17 and my brother just turned 18. When she gets her she will be a month shy of her 17th birthday. I've never met the girl, but we talk a lot. Now, heres the problem. She asked her oldest sister who's about 24 to get birth control. She can't go on her own because she's on her parents health insurance, so they will know if she goes to the docs and fill a prescription for BC. She wants to go to a free clinic, but doesn't know how. That is why she asked her sister. Well her sister told her "NO" because she should not be having sex. She asked her sister a couple of times and each time she told her "NO". She called and asked me if she comes can I please take her. I told her "YES" without thinking twice. I want them to be safe, and I'm not stupid. I know they are having sex, I asked my brother and he told me the truth that they have slept together already once before.
So, I was talking to my boyfriends sister about it. The first thing she said was "YOU SOULDN'T DO THAT, IT ISN'T YOUR PLACE!" "YOU AREN'T HER FAMILY". She told me how I was going to start problems.
I was trying to stress to her that this girl is 17 years old. If she gets pregnant, not only does it affect her but my brother as well. It would affect me and my boyfriend too. Her parents told her if she ever gets pregnant, they were going to kick her out. I'm too young to be raising a baby. hahaha
So what do you think? Should I do it? I feel like I should.
Am I wrong for agreeing to take her?
Do you think I'm crossing any type of line, because she isn't my blood family?
I look at her as if she is my family. My brother loves her and thats good enough for me. less
So, I was talking to my boyfriends sister about it. The first thing she said was "YOU SOULDN'T DO THAT, IT ISN'T YOUR PLACE!" "YOU AREN'T HER FAMILY". She told me how I was going to start problems.
I was trying to stress to her that this girl is 17 years old. If she gets pregnant, not only does it affect her but my brother as well. It would affect me and my boyfriend too. Her parents told her if she ever gets pregnant, they were going to kick her out. I'm too young to be raising a baby. hahaha
So what do you think? Should I do it? I feel like I should.
Am I wrong for agreeing to take her?
Do you think I'm crossing any type of line, because she isn't my blood family?
I look at her as if she is my family. My brother loves her and thats good enough for me. less
Maybe call her sister and have a convo about it? if they still refuse- well either way she needs it...
I mean I personally wouldnt want anyone taking my daughter, but thats because i would take her if she asks..
atleast she is being careful and knows the risks..
While you arent' her parent.. what you are doing is very kind and i think best for everyone since her family is so closed minded..
05/21/2012
I don't understand how any parent would say no to birth control under the principle that they shouldn't be having sex, when the reason they object to them having sex is that they might get pregnant.
I'd help a friend of any age to get to planned parenthood or the health department because their health is more important than their parents' feelings of moral superiority.
I'd help a friend of any age to get to planned parenthood or the health department because their health is more important than their parents' feelings of moral superiority.
05/21/2012
TBH, I'd recommend telling her to use condoms instead, though that's based on the fact that a lot of teenagers have odd schedules and couldn't keep to a regular pill schedule. Still glad that you're promoting safe sex though
05/27/2012
Going on birth control isn't a family issue. It's a personal decision, and clearly she's made her decision.
She didn't ask you for advice, she just needs you to help her carry out what she's already decided to do.
Good for her for being responsible and for you being willing to help her!
She didn't ask you for advice, she just needs you to help her carry out what she's already decided to do.
Good for her for being responsible and for you being willing to help her!
07/31/2012
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she is old enough to decide. its better then her being pregnant at such a young age. shes being responsible
Originally posted by
Miss Anonymous
Okay, so my little brother moved in with me. It's been very good so far. Now my little brothers girlfriend is coming to visit. She's turning 17 and my brother just turned 18. When she gets her she will be a month shy of her 17th birthday.
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Okay, so my little brother moved in with me. It's been very good so far. Now my little brothers girlfriend is coming to visit. She's turning 17 and my brother just turned 18. When she gets her she will be a month shy of her 17th birthday. I've never met the girl, but we talk a lot. Now, heres the problem. She asked her oldest sister who's about 24 to get birth control. She can't go on her own because she's on her parents health insurance, so they will know if she goes to the docs and fill a prescription for BC. She wants to go to a free clinic, but doesn't know how. That is why she asked her sister. Well her sister told her "NO" because she should not be having sex. She asked her sister a couple of times and each time she told her "NO". She called and asked me if she comes can I please take her. I told her "YES" without thinking twice. I want them to be safe, and I'm not stupid. I know they are having sex, I asked my brother and he told me the truth that they have slept together already once before.
So, I was talking to my boyfriends sister about it. The first thing she said was "YOU SOULDN'T DO THAT, IT ISN'T YOUR PLACE!" "YOU AREN'T HER FAMILY". She told me how I was going to start problems.
I was trying to stress to her that this girl is 17 years old. If she gets pregnant, not only does it affect her but my brother as well. It would affect me and my boyfriend too. Her parents told her if she ever gets pregnant, they were going to kick her out. I'm too young to be raising a baby. hahaha
So what do you think? Should I do it? I feel like I should.
Am I wrong for agreeing to take her?
Do you think I'm crossing any type of line, because she isn't my blood family?
I look at her as if she is my family. My brother loves her and thats good enough for me. less
So, I was talking to my boyfriends sister about it. The first thing she said was "YOU SOULDN'T DO THAT, IT ISN'T YOUR PLACE!" "YOU AREN'T HER FAMILY". She told me how I was going to start problems.
I was trying to stress to her that this girl is 17 years old. If she gets pregnant, not only does it affect her but my brother as well. It would affect me and my boyfriend too. Her parents told her if she ever gets pregnant, they were going to kick her out. I'm too young to be raising a baby. hahaha
So what do you think? Should I do it? I feel like I should.
Am I wrong for agreeing to take her?
Do you think I'm crossing any type of line, because she isn't my blood family?
I look at her as if she is my family. My brother loves her and thats good enough for me. less
08/01/2012
Tough one...I would say you shouldn't do that as it could cause problems with her family. If she is that close to 18, I would suggest that she wait until she is 18. That way she can be the one to legally consent and if she wants/needs someone to go with her...then you could help that way.
08/15/2012
I dont think you should worry Nessa, this is her choice as a young adult to be having sex in the first place not her parents! Take it from who lost their virginity young, birth control is the best thing for her right now! she should be safe and not having to worry about when her next abortion is...no offence to anyone but i think if your sexually active you should be on birth control or using condoms..no matter your age or deposition! Honestly I think your doing a good thing
08/15/2012
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I use planned parenthood - they are professional and can scholarship your care based on income. I am lucky enough to say that protesters have never been there when I have gone in (for my yearly exam and BC). However, I have seen at my local locations and at others. They can be very intimidating!
Originally posted by
Miss Anonymous
I've never delt with protesters at a planned parenthood before. I have been to a clinic that was part planned parenthood and abortion clinic. That was the only time I've ever delt with protesters. I know what you mean. I don't plan on
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I've never delt with protesters at a planned parenthood before. I have been to a clinic that was part planned parenthood and abortion clinic. That was the only time I've ever delt with protesters. I know what you mean. I don't plan on talking about it with anyone besides her. I would hope her parents wouldn't do anything that serious. If anything I'm worried about her family breaking them up. That would kill my brother, and it would be my faul.
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08/15/2012
My theory is better safe than sorry.
08/16/2012
If they are going to have sex they should be safe no matter who has to help them!
11/28/2012
Better smart than stupid, I say.
11/28/2012
It is the girls body and she is of age to make her own choice and she made it she is asking for help. so it is okay to take her. If you go to a doctor a child at a curtain age can talk to a doctor and that doctor has no obligation to tell the parents cant even. So take her.
11/28/2012
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I think this is a good point: "Stopping her from protecting herself is ignorant." I totally agree.
Originally posted by
SaMiKaY
She is trying to do the right thing. Whether or not she is on BC, she is going to have sex. Stopping her from protecting herself is ignorant. I am happy you are willing to do this for her...
And please, for people who disagree with me, I ... more
And please, for people who disagree with me, I ... more
She is trying to do the right thing. Whether or not she is on BC, she is going to have sex. Stopping her from protecting herself is ignorant. I am happy you are willing to do this for her...
And please, for people who disagree with me, I don't want to be bashed. I have my opinion you have yours. less
And please, for people who disagree with me, I don't want to be bashed. I have my opinion you have yours. less
11/28/2012
i had a very simaler thing happen to me but it was for birth control and an aids test. I took her in.
11/28/2012
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Voice your concerns to your brother.
Originally posted by
Miss Anonymous
Okay, so my little brother moved in with me. It's been very good so far. Now my little brothers girlfriend is coming to visit. She's turning 17 and my brother just turned 18. When she gets her she will be a month shy of her 17th birthday.
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more
Okay, so my little brother moved in with me. It's been very good so far. Now my little brothers girlfriend is coming to visit. She's turning 17 and my brother just turned 18. When she gets her she will be a month shy of her 17th birthday. I've never met the girl, but we talk a lot. Now, heres the problem. She asked her oldest sister who's about 24 to get birth control. She can't go on her own because she's on her parents health insurance, so they will know if she goes to the docs and fill a prescription for BC. She wants to go to a free clinic, but doesn't know how. That is why she asked her sister. Well her sister told her "NO" because she should not be having sex. She asked her sister a couple of times and each time she told her "NO". She called and asked me if she comes can I please take her. I told her "YES" without thinking twice. I want them to be safe, and I'm not stupid. I know they are having sex, I asked my brother and he told me the truth that they have slept together already once before.
So, I was talking to my boyfriends sister about it. The first thing she said was "YOU SOULDN'T DO THAT, IT ISN'T YOUR PLACE!" "YOU AREN'T HER FAMILY". She told me how I was going to start problems.
I was trying to stress to her that this girl is 17 years old. If she gets pregnant, not only does it affect her but my brother as well. It would affect me and my boyfriend too. Her parents told her if she ever gets pregnant, they were going to kick her out. I'm too young to be raising a baby. hahaha
So what do you think? Should I do it? I feel like I should.
Am I wrong for agreeing to take her?
Do you think I'm crossing any type of line, because she isn't my blood family?
I look at her as if she is my family. My brother loves her and thats good enough for me. less
So, I was talking to my boyfriends sister about it. The first thing she said was "YOU SOULDN'T DO THAT, IT ISN'T YOUR PLACE!" "YOU AREN'T HER FAMILY". She told me how I was going to start problems.
I was trying to stress to her that this girl is 17 years old. If she gets pregnant, not only does it affect her but my brother as well. It would affect me and my boyfriend too. Her parents told her if she ever gets pregnant, they were going to kick her out. I'm too young to be raising a baby. hahaha
So what do you think? Should I do it? I feel like I should.
Am I wrong for agreeing to take her?
Do you think I'm crossing any type of line, because she isn't my blood family?
I look at her as if she is my family. My brother loves her and thats good enough for me. less
11/30/2012