This is a complex issue. You want to do the right thing, but the fact is, legally she's still a child. When it comes to general health, not just reproductive health, parents need to be involved in the decision. And birth control is a medication, what happens if this girl has a life-threatening side effect and no one knows she's on a particular medication because she's hidden it?

As a Mom, I'd want to be informed. You can help her get it, but I do believe the parents need to be up to speed. Nothing is private until that girl turns 18. less

*facepalm* When it comes to planned parenthood, it IS private for those 16 and up. No matter what state she resides in. If she has side effects, simple, she gets a ride back there and changes her method of birth control. Life-threatening side effects are rare. But I'm sure planned parenthood would help her out. The parents really don't have any say in what she can do regarding her own sexual health. less

Thank God I'm not too old to know what a facepalm is!

Basically, I think I was trying to convey that communication is important. This is a family affair and the parents should be brought in as she's underage. Going behind a parents back willingly, when you're acting in conjunction with someone underage that is not your child or in no way related to you in order to obtain medications (no matter their use)- there needs to be a sense of respect. Unfortunately, respect is often lost, especially when it comes to matters like this.

Call me old fashioned, but if someone is helping my daughter score some meds, no matter what they're used for- I would be inflamed to not have any knowledge about it.

Course, it's just an opinion and opinions are like assholes- everyone has one, or is one... less

The parents would have every right to be miffed, but they decided that they didn't support their daughter's decision for protection. So,I believe they lost all say in the matter.
From what I read/understand, Miss Nessa is simply giving her a ride so she can get the medication herself (and possibly helping with the cost if need be, it is still the woman's decision). I'm proud that a 16/17-year-old is taking the proper steps to secure her sexual health.

I personally see a huge difference between birth control medication that she can get herself and be informed of all the side effects/risks of the different types and other medication. less

Her family gave up the right to have a say in the matter when they decided not to listen to her needs. They don't have to agree with her decision to have sex but they should support her decision to take care of her body and prevent any unwanted troubles the future a sexually active teen could face. She needs to be supported for having the frame of mind to do what is right for herself. As others have said too though let her have her right to privacy. Her family need not be involved in it at all. less

She is asking for help because she WANTS to be responsible. Any parent should be supportive of a child who is trying to do the right thing, although as parents, until she is 18, they certainly have the right to discourage her sexual activity, but it's unrealistic to think that she's going to listen. less

Okay, so my little brother moved in with me. It's been very good so far. Now my little brothers girlfriend is coming to visit. She's turning 17 and my brother just turned 18. When she gets her she will be a month shy of her 17th birthday. I've never met the girl, but we talk a lot. Now, heres the problem. She asked her oldest sister who's about 24 to get birth control. She can't go on her own because she's on her parents health insurance, so they will know if she goes to the docs and fill a prescription for BC. She wants to go to a free clinic, but doesn't know how. That is why she asked her sister. Well her sister told her "NO" because she should not be having sex. She asked her sister a couple of times and each time she told her "NO". She called and asked me if she comes can I please take her. I told her "YES" without thinking twice. I want them to be safe, and I'm not stupid. I know they are having sex, I asked my brother and he told me the truth that they have slept together already once before.

So, I was talking to my boyfriends sister about it. The first thing she said was "YOU SOULDN'T DO THAT, IT ISN'T YOUR PLACE!" "YOU AREN'T HER FAMILY". She told me how I was going to start problems.

I was trying to stress to her that this girl is 17 years old. If she gets pregnant, not only does it affect her but my brother as well. It would affect me and my boyfriend too. Her parents told her if she ever gets pregnant, they were going to kick her out. I'm too young to be raising a baby. hahaha

So what do you think? Should I do it? I feel like I should.
Am I wrong for agreeing to take her?
Do you think I'm crossing any type of line, because she isn't my blood family?
I look at her as if she is my family. My brother loves her and thats good enough for me. less

Okay, so my little brother moved in with me. It's been very good so far. Now my little brothers girlfriend is coming to visit. She's turning 17 and my brother just turned 18. When she gets her she will be a month shy of her 17th birthday. I've never met the girl, but we talk a lot. Now, heres the problem. She asked her oldest sister who's about 24 to get birth control. She can't go on her own because she's on her parents health insurance, so they will know if she goes to the docs and fill a prescription for BC. She wants to go to a free clinic, but doesn't know how. That is why she asked her sister. Well her sister told her "NO" because she should not be having sex. She asked her sister a couple of times and each time she told her "NO". She called and asked me if she comes can I please take her. I told her "YES" without thinking twice. I want them to be safe, and I'm not stupid. I know they are having sex, I asked my brother and he told me the truth that they have slept together already once before.

So, I was talking to my boyfriends sister about it. The first thing she said was "YOU SOULDN'T DO THAT, IT ISN'T YOUR PLACE!" "YOU AREN'T HER FAMILY". She told me how I was going to start problems.

I was trying to stress to her that this girl is 17 years old. If she gets pregnant, not only does it affect her but my brother as well. It would affect me and my boyfriend too. Her parents told her if she ever gets pregnant, they were going to kick her out. I'm too young to be raising a baby. hahaha

So what do you think? Should I do it? I feel like I should.
Am I wrong for agreeing to take her?
Do you think I'm crossing any type of line, because she isn't my blood family?
I look at her as if she is my family. My brother loves her and thats good enough for me. less

Okay, so my little brother moved in with me. It's been very good so far. Now my little brothers girlfriend is coming to visit. She's turning 17 and my brother just turned 18. When she gets her she will be a month shy of her 17th birthday. I've never met the girl, but we talk a lot. Now, heres the problem. She asked her oldest sister who's about 24 to get birth control. She can't go on her own because she's on her parents health insurance, so they will know if she goes to the docs and fill a prescription for BC. She wants to go to a free clinic, but doesn't know how. That is why she asked her sister. Well her sister told her "NO" because she should not be having sex. She asked her sister a couple of times and each time she told her "NO". She called and asked me if she comes can I please take her. I told her "YES" without thinking twice. I want them to be safe, and I'm not stupid. I know they are having sex, I asked my brother and he told me the truth that they have slept together already once before.

So, I was talking to my boyfriends sister about it. The first thing she said was "YOU SOULDN'T DO THAT, IT ISN'T YOUR PLACE!" "YOU AREN'T HER FAMILY". She told me how I was going to start problems.

I was trying to stress to her that this girl is 17 years old. If she gets pregnant, not only does it affect her but my brother as well. It would affect me and my boyfriend too. Her parents told her if she ever gets pregnant, they were going to kick her out. I'm too young to be raising a baby. hahaha

So what do you think? Should I do it? I feel like I should.
Am I wrong for agreeing to take her?
Do you think I'm crossing any type of line, because she isn't my blood family?
I look at her as if she is my family. My brother loves her and thats good enough for me. less