Thanks for your advice! I'm glad you all agree that I'm doing the right thing. I just thought I should help even if we aren't family. It's overwhelming to me, and I'm not the one needing the BC, so I have she must be stressed.

I agree with you both Leigh and P'Gell. I don't plan on talking about it with anyone.

Iam too on disability, and I don't have co-pays or anything. I was worried about paying too. I don't mind paying for them for her. I figured all clinics would have the sliding scale, because not everyone can afford it. I did call a clinic to make sure, and they told me she can get a 3 month supply for about 4$, so I was happy about that. We would have to fill the perscription at target. She said not all clinics offer sliding scale. That's crazy. less

you should not be taking her. That is her parents place, not yours. She is a minor. It would be different if she were an adult, but she is someone else's kid. Have a talk with your brother about condoms. You are related to him, and he is an adult. That way you are not crossing any lines with her parents. less

I think what you are doing is wonderful for the girl and the whole of everyone involved in the family. I agree with P'Gell about keeping all activities secret. When I read her family was Palestinian I worried that they may not support their daughters decisions because of Sharia Law. This could be a dangerous thing for you and the girl if they think this way. Just something to keep in mind. less

you should not be taking her. That is her parents place, not yours. She is a minor. It would be different if she were an adult, but she is someone else's kid. Have a talk with your brother about condoms. You are related to him, and he is an adult. That way you are not crossing any lines with her parents. less

except not all Palestinians believe in Sharia law. Middle easterners, be it Christians, Muslims, Hindus, Jews, etc. tend to be more conservative because of their culture, not religion.

but way to go, Miss Nessa! I would have paid a million dollars to have had someone like you in my life less

In an ideal world everyone should be able to turn to their parents for help. Unfortunately, as a lady who got pregnant at 15, I would have loved for someone like Miss Nessa to have helped me when I had no one to turn to. Every woman, even at a young age should be educated in prevention of pregnancy and disease regardless of what the parents have to say---for safety reasons if nothing else. less

It doesn't matter what the age of consent is. I was 14 when I got on the pill. Of course I told my mom because I needed help with my cramps, which was totally true, by the way. But, she thought that if I asked to be on the pill, I should be on it. But, she's 17 and trying to be responsible. Lots of teens aren't and she shouldn't be punished for trying to take responsibility for her actions. less

Semi-digression, but as you say she's trying to decide between the pill & the shot... She might be best trying the pill first & seeing how the hormones effect here if she's able to be responsible about taking it. Getting on the shot, having it disagree with you, & having to wait and wait to feel better is no fun. Just a thought based on my experience. less

I'm so glad she has you to talk to! I think it is an okay idea for her to get on hormonal birth control, but that is something she needs to discuss with a doctor. I would also advise talking to her and your little brother about using condoms. Condoms are the only thing that protect against pregnancy and STDS. I'd prefer to be doubly protected and use BC and condoms at the same time. Also, in order for BC to be effective she needs to start taking them before they start having sex, and she needs to take them EVERY DAY at exactly the same time. less

I'm glad she got such a good price on her BC pills! I think hormonal BC with condom birth control as a back up is a great idea!

You did a great job, Miss Nessa. There's a special place in Heaven for Helpful Angels like you.

No, not all "clinics" have sliding scales. Like most doctor's offices, some clinics are simply for profit. ALL Planned Parenthood offices are sliding scale however, and they really don't care about what the "age of consent" is, thank heaven. They KNOW kids are going to have sex, and sex without protection ends up with STDs and unwanted pregnancies. less

Why? Miss Nessa is trying to help her brother and her brother's girl friend from unintentionally causing an unwanted pregnancy or worse! This isn't some girl she never met (although that wouldn't bother me either) this is her family she is caring about. less

When parents refuse to take on their parental role (and yes, that includes admitting that your little darlings are sexual beings) then someone else often needs to step in and fulfill the Parenting Role.

It takes a village. (Often only because often people want blinders on and then wonder why they their daughter's life is ruined and are raising grand babies in their 40s or even their 30s.....) less

It is your place that is your brother who is involved too. She does not need her parents to go to the free clinic, all you have to do is take her there Glad she has you, sounds like no one wants to take her for what she should be doing to be safe. less

I'd rather take her, and help her out, than not do it because they might be upset. If she is going to a free clinic she is making the choice to go. She is going to do it one way or another. You're not getting pills in your name and giving them to her, or anything else worth really worrying about. less

I don't agree that her parents would be able to see what happened during that visit or the prescriptions given to her. All she needs to do is go to Planned Parenthood and they can help her. But, if that's not an option someone should definitely help the girl, regardless of who it is.

And while I understand the desire for skin-to-skin contact during intercourse, condoms wouldn't be a terrible idea either. less

When parents refuse to take on their parental role (and yes, that includes admitting that your little darlings are sexual beings) then someone else often needs to step in and fulfill the Parenting Role.

It takes a village. (Often only because often people want blinders on and then wonder why they their daughter's life is ruined and are raising grand babies in their 40s or even their 30s.....) less

Okay, so my little brother moved in with me. It's been very good so far. Now my little brothers girlfriend is coming to visit. She's turning 17 and my brother just turned 18. When she gets her she will be a month shy of her 17th birthday. I've never met the girl, but we talk a lot. Now, heres the problem. She asked her oldest sister who's about 24 to get birth control. She can't go on her own because she's on her parents health insurance, so they will know if she goes to the docs and fill a prescription for BC. She wants to go to a free clinic, but doesn't know how. That is why she asked her sister. Well her sister told her "NO" because she should not be having sex. She asked her sister a couple of times and each time she told her "NO". She called and asked me if she comes can I please take her. I told her "YES" without thinking twice. I want them to be safe, and I'm not stupid. I know they are having sex, I asked my brother and he told me the truth that they have slept together already once before.

So, I was talking to my boyfriends sister about it. The first thing she said was "YOU SOULDN'T DO THAT, IT ISN'T YOUR PLACE!" "YOU AREN'T HER FAMILY". She told me how I was going to start problems.

I was trying to stress to her that this girl is 17 years old. If she gets pregnant, not only does it affect her but my brother as well. It would affect me and my boyfriend too. Her parents told her if she ever gets pregnant, they were going to kick her out. I'm too young to be raising a baby. hahaha

So what do you think? Should I do it? I feel like I should.
Am I wrong for agreeing to take her?
Do you think I'm crossing any type of line, because she isn't my blood family?
I look at her as if she is my family. My brother loves her and thats good enough for me. less

Also, when I was 16 I went to Planned Parenthood and they asked if I had insurance I said I did, but I wasn't sure what insurance because I didn't have a copy of the card. They said that was fine, they could find the information, and asked if my parents knew I was there. I said no, and that I would be killed if they did (my parents were ignorant about Planned Parenthood, thinking it is only a place that harlots go to get abortions). They told that it was fine and they wouldn't use my insurance anyway in that case, and since I was under 18 I would not be billed, but a donation would be appreciated if I could make one (which I couldn't, since I was poor and had no job). So depending on your state I'm guessing, things would probably go similarly to that. They might ask to just bill you or even give a discounted price with a sliding scale fee depending on the situation. less