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is it okay for an 18 year old girl to date a 32 year old guy?

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Contributor: Illumin8 Illumin8
Quote:
Originally posted by married with children
why is a 32 year old man going after a 18 year old?
That's my first thought. I just find the entire thing a little sketchy when there's a much older guy going after someone who's still in their teens.
09/22/2011
Contributor: domsub1993 domsub1993
44 and 30? Sure!
09/30/2011
Contributor: ScotchIrish ScotchIrish
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Originally posted by TumorCrunch
my best friend.....ugh...i don't think i'd mind quite as much as i do if he wasn't a dick to me...but still what do you think?
He should be more respectful and date someone his age or at least over 25. Be careful of guys who want younger (considerably younger) woman. Your safety is the primary concern. And, you have a lot of living and learning ahead. Enjoy your life and the time. All the very Best.
09/30/2011
Contributor: starklover starklover
I have no problem with it
10/17/2011
Contributor: DeliciousDrip DeliciousDrip
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Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
It really depends. Legally is it "ok"...yes. Would I let my child do it? Not in a million years.
Agreed !!
10/17/2011
Contributor: Nashville Nashville
Honestly, what can an 18 year old girl offer a 32 year old man? A different perspective on life? An insight into why Justin Bieber is so popular?

And what can a 32 year old man offer an 18 year old girl? Beer? She obviously can't buy it herself.
10/20/2011
Contributor: Ash1141 Ash1141
The age part is fine...the dick part is not.
10/21/2011
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
One of my "friends" who's my age and never been married, won't date a girl over 25.
10/21/2011
Contributor: fifi fifi
Quote:
Originally posted by TumorCrunch
my best friend.....ugh...i don't think i'd mind quite as much as i do if he wasn't a dick to me...but still what do you think?
I voted no way, mainly because the maturity difference is a major issue. I have an idiot 36yr old friend who is dating an 18 year old. I call him an idiot because he's in lust and wants to feel young again, but still thinks she loves him, and she's solely in it in hopes of financial benefits. Is there rare cases when the 18 year old may be mature enough to handle being in a relationship with that much age difference? possibly. But not likely in my opinion. If she was in her later 20s, such an age gap would be less eyebrow raising, but at 18, no way
10/21/2011
Contributor: sweetcaroline sweetcaroline
It really depends on how they are together. Although, if he's treating her friends like crap, then he's got to go, there's something wrong in his priorities....
If he isn't treating her friends decently then he's probably not very invested int he relationship, in which case, she'll probably get hurt.
11/06/2011
Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
As long as she's legal, what's the big deal?
11/07/2011
Contributor: MidnightStorm MidnightStorm
That's a tricky one, honestly. I feel like at that age, it's your choice... But always be careful. That kind of thing freaks me out a little, but I can't necessarily judge.
11/07/2011
Contributor: Wildchild Wildchild
Quote:
Originally posted by TumorCrunch
my best friend.....ugh...i don't think i'd mind quite as much as i do if he wasn't a dick to me...but still what do you think?
Um no way in hell. Does this guy have any morals?
11/16/2011
Contributor: badk1tty badk1tty
I have to wonder exactly why a 32 year old would want an 18 year old, but it's not my place to judge -- not everyone is the same, and I'm with a guy 8 years younger than me, so -shrug-
11/17/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
after reading some more of this thread, I'm highly amused by the assumptions made by some of our fellow Edenites.

of course it's ok that an older man date a younger woman. to assume an 18 year old is an immature and won't offer him anything is astounding; to assume that he can't offer anything, or is even creepy, is even worst. A human being can bring a lot life experiences and ideas to the table, no matter what their age may be. You can learn so much from an individual, even if they are a child.

I can say by the time I was 18, I've gone through more life experiences than a lot of 40 year olds I've known (hell, I feel more mature than some 40 year olds I've known). Age doesn't state anything except how long someone has been breathing on this planet.

I admire those who break social boundaries so that they can be happy; I feel like if we've stopped passing judgements on everyone else's PERSONAL life, then we would be more satisfied with our own lives. in the end, it doesn't matter because what he is doing is legal and it's none of our damned business.
11/17/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by Ms. Spice
after reading some more of this thread, I'm highly amused by the assumptions made by some of our fellow Edenites.

of course it's ok that an older man date a younger woman. to assume an 18 year old is an immature and won't offer ... more
I'm married to a woman 11 years younger than me - so I'm sensitive to your point of view. But by the same token I think age matters.

When she was 18 I was 29 - I honestly don't think it would have worked. Think of it this way, just a month or two before it would have been a crime!

When we met she was 24 - and I was pretty sure she was too young - but as you describe, she was a very mature 24 year old and things have worked fabulously for 22+ years.

As the father of a 20 year old daughter, I'm in the camp that says be careful - but that's true of everyone you start dating in a serious way.
11/18/2011
Contributor: Tangerine Tangerine
I say its fine if youre not serious or ever getting serious... if so RUN NOW... because the 18 yr old will get caught up and waste the best years of your life, then wake up one morning and think dang! what was I thinking
11/29/2011
Contributor: geliebt geliebt
Quote:
Originally posted by Ms. Spice
after reading some more of this thread, I'm highly amused by the assumptions made by some of our fellow Edenites.

of course it's ok that an older man date a younger woman. to assume an 18 year old is an immature and won't offer ... more
Thank you.
Sure, there are creepers all around, but just because a 32 year old is dating an 18 year old it does not necessitate creepiness. I don't know any of the details so I don't care to pass judgement, but I can say that I'm 20, dating a 32 year old and nothing's been weird yet.
An 18 year old can be perfectly interesting and worth the time of a 32 year old. It just depends on the people. She can make her choices and hopefully nothing bad comes of it, right?
12/02/2011
Contributor: sweetcaroline sweetcaroline
somebodyup there totally missed the question hahahaa
12/08/2011
Contributor: Megan Jean Megan Jean
Age is just one dynamic in a relationship. A stark age difference is not an automatic point of failure.
12/18/2011
Contributor: SweetSurprise SweetSurprise
To me it depends on the maturity of the girl. If she is mature for her age like I was its fine. Also some 32 year old guys act 18 half the time.
12/18/2011
Contributor: Kallisto Kallisto
I think it depends on the maturity of the people involved. For some couples, this would not be a good idea. For others, it would be no problem.
12/18/2011
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
Age doesn't matter.
12/18/2011
Contributor: chibi1091 chibi1091
It's fine, but it REALLY depends on the people and how close they are in maturity.
01/06/2012
Contributor: switzerland switzerland
it's kinda creepy only because she is soo young. but i guess if it is a good healthy relationship, than age doesn't matter. but he is a dick to you? your best friend should be saying something...
01/06/2012
Contributor: LoveDove LoveDove
If she's mature enough to handle it, then I dunno that it's the end of the world. I saw someone who was 29 when I was 19. So I don't get to judge here.
01/06/2012
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
Sometimes it's perfectly fine! When I was 18 I dated someone who was about 32 and I was actually more mature than he was. We were into the same things in life like art and learning instead of partying so we got along. I don't think most 18-year-olds would have enough lifestyle stuff in common with people in their thirties but sometimes it happens.
01/06/2012
Contributor: Graniteal Graniteal
If it were a 32 year old with a 46 year old no one would think anything of it. No one would say "That's weird" or "That guy/girl is so creepy." I believe it depends on the people, not their age difference. I agree with the people who said it depends on the maturity levels of the couple and what they want out of life.
02/02/2012
Contributor: sweetiejo sweetiejo
I think it isn't your place if he is being a jerk that different, but as a friend you should support it. Besides age isn't that big of a deal really, its a number people act different then their age is anyway. Many girls can be very mature and many guys can be very Immature, or vice versa.
02/02/2012
Contributor: karay123 karay123
The age difference doesn't bother me. And as long as he's treating her well, who cares. He may just not like some of her friends.
02/02/2012