I believe that is an assumption.

I was hellbent on landing my guy, come hell or high water. I was 18 and he was in his 30's. He resisted based on the age difference and society's view on the matter.

Well, I got the guy. Our relationship is better than ever and he occasionally mentions how he couldn't imagine life without me. Sometimes going so far as to say I have kept him young. He certainly doesn't look his age. Yes, people make assumptions about our relationship. The most common being that he has a lot of money or is good in bed. Regardless of their opinions, we know the truth. I was not sheltered and our values match. We like the same music, the same movies, the same...just about everything.

The only thing that matters is respect, communication and recognizing when things are going off course and wanting to fix them. Maturity is a state of mind coupled with life experience.

It is not at all uncommon for a young woman to persue an older man if she is surrounded by 20-somethings that act like they're 12. less

I'm going to be honest, guys my age piss me the fuck off. It was worse when I was in my early 20's. I lived with someone for two years who was six months younger than me. He grew up wealthy compared to how I grew up. He went to the best schools and had a shot at a nice career, if only he could keep his mouth shut. He blew it. All. Got into drugs. Got out of drugs. Then met me.



I had a nice two bedroom apartment, a good job, a nice car. I lost it all because that guy wouldn't get up and go to work every day. He refused to try to better himself at all. I had to teach him everything about how a household runs. It was freaking exhausting.



I don't want to train someone in the basic ways of life. I don't want to be with someone who doesn't understand that mistakes made now affect the entire future of both people involved.



And no matter where I turned my head, they were all the same. Guys my age, that is. Jobless. Druggies. Immature. Mama's boys. Still telling fart jokes in mixed company. That kind of crap. It quite literally infuriated me.



It's really really nice when a problem comes up in my household and I can turn to my man and say 'baby, I think we're screwed, yadda yadda yadda' and he comes back and says 'no, we just have to do this this and this'. Simple.



Relationship experts state that one person is always going to be more 'this' or less 'that' and that's what it takes to work. If you have two people on the same level or there is a vast difference in levels (a genius with a bona-fide idiot) it won't work for long. There's no challenge or the disparity is too great to overcome.



When it comes to a large age difference between a man and a woman I think you have to dig a little deeper and understand what it is both of those people value. For instance, the main reason my husband and I get along so well is because I am absolutely fascinated by music from the 60's, 70's and 80's. I enjoy listening to the stories of his youth and understand those are things that shaped him into who he is today. We share the same political, religious and family values.



I was never really given a childhood. Latch key kid by the age of 7, cooking and doing all house chores by age 10, and all of my siblings are a decade or more older than me. My earliest memory is being told I had an old soul at the age of 6 because I just didn't think like the other kids my age did. I wasn't interested in anything they were. I watched nature shows, not cartoons. I was practically groomed by my upbringing to fall for an older man.



Yes, there are some really lecherous men and really dumb girls that just go for the ass or the money, respectively. I really don't think any one can argue that being used for your body or your wallet is applicable only to relationships where there is a vast difference in age. less

I have a couple different opinions.

I have a best friend who is 18, and she met a 33 year old man at a club. They basically say they are dating, but it's mostly sex. I find this really nasty since she is a "new adult". Just turned 18. I've known her since we were little, so she's like my little sister.

I have a cousin who is almost 19, and is having an arranged Christian marriage next year (when she turns 20) with a 31 year old man. Less of a difference, but still a significant one. The family knows him well, and he treats her really good. I see this okay because a lot of thought has gone into this relationship.

I think that if an older men is going after a younger girl for nothing but sex, and that is obvious to you, it's not a great thing.

If it is a genuine relationship, filled with happiness and love - it's perfectly fine.

Very hard to differentiate sometimes. But I guess they are adults and we can't make the choices for them. less

I'm going to be honest, guys my age piss me the fuck off. It was worse when I was in my early 20's. I lived with someone for two years who was six months younger than me. He grew up wealthy compared to how I grew up. He went to the best schools and had a shot at a nice career, if only he could keep his mouth shut. He blew it. All. Got into drugs. Got out of drugs. Then met me.



I had a nice two bedroom apartment, a good job, a nice car. I lost it all because that guy wouldn't get up and go to work every day. He refused to try to better himself at all. I had to teach him everything about how a household runs. It was freaking exhausting.



I don't want to train someone in the basic ways of life. I don't want to be with someone who doesn't understand that mistakes made now affect the entire future of both people involved.



And no matter where I turned my head, they were all the same. Guys my age, that is. Jobless. Druggies. Immature. Mama's boys. Still telling fart jokes in mixed company. That kind of crap. It quite literally infuriated me.



It's really really nice when a problem comes up in my household and I can turn to my man and say 'baby, I think we're screwed, yadda yadda yadda' and he comes back and says 'no, we just have to do this this and this'. Simple.



Relationship experts state that one person is always going to be more 'this' or less 'that' and that's what it takes to work. If you have two people on the same level or there is a vast difference in levels (a genius with a bona-fide idiot) it won't work for long. There's no challenge or the disparity is too great to overcome.



When it comes to a large age difference between a man and a woman I think you have to dig a little deeper and understand what it is both of those people value. For instance, the main reason my husband and I get along so well is because I am absolutely fascinated by music from the 60's, 70's and 80's. I enjoy listening to the stories of his youth and understand those are things that shaped him into who he is today. We share the same political, religious and family values.



I was never really given a childhood. Latch key kid by the age of 7, cooking and doing all house chores by age 10, and all of my siblings are a decade or more older than me. My earliest memory is being told I had an old soul at the age of 6 because I just didn't think like the other kids my age did. I wasn't interested in anything they were. I watched nature shows, not cartoons. I was practically groomed by my upbringing to fall for an older man.



Yes, there are some really lecherous men and really dumb girls that just go for the ass or the money, respectively. I really don't think any one can argue that being used for your body or your wallet is applicable only to relationships where there is a vast difference in age. less