None of those are cheating if your spouse knows about/ is okay with it
What things do you consider as cheating?
10/08/2011
I'd have to go with all the above!
10/08/2011
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everything on the list. im married too and would never put up with any of it. he cheated once with his ex wife. he has 0 more chances
Originally posted by
sexysweetieshan
Luckily my husband has never cheated on me, and I have never cheated on him. We have however discussed what we consider as cheating. We have SLIGHTLY different views on what is cheating, but not too much. I personally consider the smallest things
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Luckily my husband has never cheated on me, and I have never cheated on him. We have however discussed what we consider as cheating. We have SLIGHTLY different views on what is cheating, but not too much. I personally consider the smallest things such as holding hands or kissing, sometimes flirting to be cheating. You may think that's wrong, but I've been cheated on before and I know even those smallest things can hurt. But we're not here to tell each other what is wrong that we believe, I just want to know WHAT you all consider cheating. I want guys and girls answers on this.
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10/08/2011
oooh, this post got me revved up! no way, don't even hold her hand
10/19/2011
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I think a lot of "Cheating" is contextual. If a close mouth kiss is long and lingering, than that's likely with some sort of desire behind it. But a quick peck can likely just be a friendly thing. I have a couple close guy friends that I've given quick pecks to, and we're just friends. Holding hands can be a comfort thing when a friend is stressed, so it depends on the situation. Some people are just naturally flirtatious, like a guy friend of mine, he doesn't realize he does it, and his girlfriend doesn't get upset cuz she knows that is his personality and that he doesn't mean anything by it. Anything past those first three, is generally classified as cheating in my personal book. And then there's also emotionally cheating on someone, which was forgotten here.
Originally posted by
sexysweetieshan
Luckily my husband has never cheated on me, and I have never cheated on him. We have however discussed what we consider as cheating. We have SLIGHTLY different views on what is cheating, but not too much. I personally consider the smallest things
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Luckily my husband has never cheated on me, and I have never cheated on him. We have however discussed what we consider as cheating. We have SLIGHTLY different views on what is cheating, but not too much. I personally consider the smallest things such as holding hands or kissing, sometimes flirting to be cheating. You may think that's wrong, but I've been cheated on before and I know even those smallest things can hurt. But we're not here to tell each other what is wrong that we believe, I just want to know WHAT you all consider cheating. I want guys and girls answers on this.
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10/21/2011
It depends on your relationship and how open it is.
10/22/2011
I would consider all but flirting cheating because we all harmlessly flirt. Also, there's emotional cheating... honestly, I think that might be worse than physical cheating.
02/14/2012
All but flirting. We all flirt. But everything else (unless it's a simple peck on the cheek for family or a very close friend) I would consider cheating. I wouldn't do those things, so he better not!
03/28/2012
this one is difficult for me...i dont mind my bf kissing or touching one of our girl friends cuz we are most likely trying to get that person comfortable enough to sleep with us (with their permission). my bf and i have agreed that we want to have a 3 some as long as our relationship is the primary one. he also said i could have a girlfriend if i wanted. as long as it doesnt interfere with our relationship. BUT i dont like that my boyfriend txts one of our girlfriends for naked pictures of herself without me knowing or him hanging out with that person without me being there. as long as im there and knowing whats going on im fine with it. but hiding it from me gets me a little pissed off and i feel its cheating.
03/30/2012
all of the above
04/22/2012
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Flirting is fine...anything else is not. But flirting AND bad-mouthing your partner is NOT okay.
Originally posted by
sexysweetieshan
Luckily my husband has never cheated on me, and I have never cheated on him. We have however discussed what we consider as cheating. We have SLIGHTLY different views on what is cheating, but not too much. I personally consider the smallest things
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Luckily my husband has never cheated on me, and I have never cheated on him. We have however discussed what we consider as cheating. We have SLIGHTLY different views on what is cheating, but not too much. I personally consider the smallest things such as holding hands or kissing, sometimes flirting to be cheating. You may think that's wrong, but I've been cheated on before and I know even those smallest things can hurt. But we're not here to tell each other what is wrong that we believe, I just want to know WHAT you all consider cheating. I want guys and girls answers on this.
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04/26/2012
I agree with some others -- I don't consider flirting to be cheating. Anything more than that though (touching, hand holding, etc.) will start to constitute cheating for me.
04/26/2012
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I consider all of them to be cheating in one way or another. the way i look at it is if you wouldn't do it with me standing there you shouldnt do it at all.
Originally posted by
sexysweetieshan
Luckily my husband has never cheated on me, and I have never cheated on him. We have however discussed what we consider as cheating. We have SLIGHTLY different views on what is cheating, but not too much. I personally consider the smallest things
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Luckily my husband has never cheated on me, and I have never cheated on him. We have however discussed what we consider as cheating. We have SLIGHTLY different views on what is cheating, but not too much. I personally consider the smallest things such as holding hands or kissing, sometimes flirting to be cheating. You may think that's wrong, but I've been cheated on before and I know even those smallest things can hurt. But we're not here to tell each other what is wrong that we believe, I just want to know WHAT you all consider cheating. I want guys and girls answers on this.
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04/26/2012
I'd say physical actions beyond kissing, and sometimes kissing (depends on how your SO was raised). Emotionally, it's harder, but if it becomes an infatuation that's stronger than what you have, it's a problem. Cheating, probably not, but still bad.
04/27/2012
I'm in a poly relationship, so I'm hardly typical, but I only consider genital contact-related stuff cheating, and even then it's only cheating if it's done with someone outside of our triad and it hasn't been discussed at all with the person's other two partners.
07/08/2012
Personally for me, cheating is sex acts, oral sex, intercourse, kissing, ect ect. I don't consider flirting cheating, but I think it can be walking a close line.
08/07/2012
None of these things are cheating to me as long as both partners talk about an open relationship. I think it should be a conversation when people say "this is what I consider cheating.."
08/11/2012
All of the above
08/11/2012
If it will hurt the other partner to know about it, it's probably cheating, but I personally think most flirting is pretty harmless and would be annoyed at a partner who got jealous over it, and wouldn't want my partner to waste emotional energy trying to not be flirty just for my benefit.
Also, people hold hands and exchange other physical affection with people in non-romantic ways, so I'd be hesitant to label that as cheating.
In some relationships, even sexual things aren't cheating, because there are people who are happy in poly or open situations, so good for them, but in most cases anything from a makeout session upward is definitely cheating.
Also, people hold hands and exchange other physical affection with people in non-romantic ways, so I'd be hesitant to label that as cheating.
In some relationships, even sexual things aren't cheating, because there are people who are happy in poly or open situations, so good for them, but in most cases anything from a makeout session upward is definitely cheating.
08/11/2012
Holding hands could go either way...I have really intimate friendships in which that is just a thing we might do but it means absolutely nothing.
08/11/2012
I think that disregard of boundaries that have been set up in a couple is cheating. I think even in poly relationships, if boundaries are not held to, then it's cheating. I think most of my other answers were dependent on whether there were romantic feelings involved.
08/15/2012
Flirting isn't cheating to me but it is a pet peeve. Your in a relationship, flirting with someone and leading them on. If you let them know you have a BF/GF then flirting is fine because they know you are attached. The person you are flirting with could be thinking something good is going to come out of it.
I don't know.....I just don't like it.....I am a natural flirt but can turn it off when I am in a relationship.
I don't know.....I just don't like it.....I am a natural flirt but can turn it off when I am in a relationship.
08/15/2012
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I consider forming any kind of emotion or physical bond with someone that you are not in a relationship with as cheating. Some things, like porn and live internet porn I dont care about because, live or otherwise, it is fake and is made to satiate a need. But being with someone in the ways you should be with your s/o, that is wrong.
Originally posted by
sexysweetieshan
Luckily my husband has never cheated on me, and I have never cheated on him. We have however discussed what we consider as cheating. We have SLIGHTLY different views on what is cheating, but not too much. I personally consider the smallest things
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Luckily my husband has never cheated on me, and I have never cheated on him. We have however discussed what we consider as cheating. We have SLIGHTLY different views on what is cheating, but not too much. I personally consider the smallest things such as holding hands or kissing, sometimes flirting to be cheating. You may think that's wrong, but I've been cheated on before and I know even those smallest things can hurt. But we're not here to tell each other what is wrong that we believe, I just want to know WHAT you all consider cheating. I want guys and girls answers on this.
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08/16/2012
It is all cheating in my opinion.
08/16/2012
its cheating if its something he's not willing to openly admit and discuss with me. if it feels guilty it is, and luckily my Mister agrees with me 100% on this, and in that we've found that we trust each other completely which is a wonderful feeling as i have been cheated on in the past.
08/16/2012
All of these.
08/16/2012
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you can flirt but you cannot touch...i am a flirt but everything else is a no go
Originally posted by
sexysweetieshan
Luckily my husband has never cheated on me, and I have never cheated on him. We have however discussed what we consider as cheating. We have SLIGHTLY different views on what is cheating, but not too much. I personally consider the smallest things
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more
Luckily my husband has never cheated on me, and I have never cheated on him. We have however discussed what we consider as cheating. We have SLIGHTLY different views on what is cheating, but not too much. I personally consider the smallest things such as holding hands or kissing, sometimes flirting to be cheating. You may think that's wrong, but I've been cheated on before and I know even those smallest things can hurt. But we're not here to tell each other what is wrong that we believe, I just want to know WHAT you all consider cheating. I want guys and girls answers on this.
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08/16/2012
I think that for the flirting and hand holding there has to be some context there. If you are flirting with someone just to be playful that could be alright. If you are flirting with someone trying to get something more out of it then that would be cheating. Same goes with the hand holding.
08/16/2012
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Agree on the "wouldn't do it in front of your partner". It is a great way of putting it.
Originally posted by
El-Jaro
I've stuck with "If you wouldn't do it in front of your partner, it's cheating (unless there's permission)". Forgiveness is better than holding a grudge in most cases.
08/16/2012