Everything before Holding Hands is a no go zone for me. I am somewhat of a jealous partner though. I really don't like flirting either but don't consider ti cheating.

I'm also in the emotional camp too. I mean they could have never met the person but if they're on the phone or texting constantly and saying "I love you", then I consider that cheating.

Honestly, I would consider every little thing cheating. Flirting is the only thing that MAY be a gray area, only because what one person can consider flirting, someone else may just mean an honest compliment, such as "I really like your hair" or something. I like to know that I am the only person that he wants to be with, and if he decides he likes some other woman, that he would at least have the decency to tell me first.

I don't feel jealous over him being friends with another woman or anything, but if another woman looks like she is trying to make a move on him, I will tell her exactly what's on my mind. We decided a month or so ago to give a dance class a try, which turned out awful. The woman who was supposed to be teaching ended up spending the whole time dancing JUST with my boyfriend. There was 5 or 6 other people there, most of whom she did not dance with even once. My boyfriend said she made him pretty uncomfortable, so we just ended up not going back. This other woman there seemed to notice it as well, cause she grabbed my arm when I stepped forward from the instructor taking my boyfriend again. I'm pretty sure I had fire in my eyes.

Establishing an emotional connection or physical connection is cheating in our relationship. This is one of those oft talked about but never truly defined topics because it can vary from couple to couple. Especially now that it's "cool" to be poly or have an open relationship, just like when I was in high school and it was "cool" to be bisexual.

Suffice it to say, I HAVE to be there. No kissing. Ever.

I voted what I would consider cheating, but I totally agree that any of the above, as well as emotional affairs, can be very damaging if your partner(s) aren't okay with it.

Hell, if they so much as consider cheating or seriously think about another person sexually that is not someone like a celebrity or someone they'll never meet, I consider that cheating in the mind. (This would be if there is no agreement to an open relationship).

If they lean on someone emotionally and it becomes extremely intimate, I'd consider it cheating in the heart. I'm all for going to other people for advice or an ear to listen, but it can go too far. I've never experienced it personally, but I've seen it happen and that alone can get messy because of a lack of trust and commitment. Functional, long term relationships REQUIRE COMMUNICATION!!

For me most things are cheating; as I am not in an open relationship. If I were (and with the right person I think that'd be awesome) then it would be totally different. However, we're both quite territorial of each other so nothing like that is going to happen, and we've discussed most of it.

My rule is; if you feel the need to hide it, or have lied about it, or would lie about it or want to or feel the need to lie about or hide it...et al. then it's wrong.

Everything there except mild flirting. I do believe in emotional cheating, though. If my partner needs to look to someone else to be close to or intimate with, we have a problem.

I think it all depends on how secretive it is. Someone said in another thread that if someone is hiding something, then it's cheating, and that's basically what I think. Recently, my girlfriend kissed one of our mutual guy friends in front of me, as a complete joke. I was there and was aware it was going to happen before it did, so I don't consider that cheating. If they did the same thing without my knowing about it and I found out about it later, I would have considered it cheating.

I voted, but also Cyber type sex I would also consider cheating.

My views on this have changed over the years. I agree, that cheating is definitely emotional and not just physical. So I don't even want my man to flirt with anyone else. I think this is such an important thing to talk about in a relationship, because everyone feels differently on the subject, and I have felt differently about it too in each relationship I've had. My man and I do have different standards in this department (and he even admits to having somewhat of a double standard, which is true lol) and so part of being in a relationship is trying to behave in a way that shows your partner you love them, care about their feelings and that they can trust you.

I've read a lot of studies suggesting that women tend to be more bothered by "emotional infidelity," while men tend to be a lot more bothered by physical acts of infidelity. I think it really boils down to what you're willing to tolerate from your partner, and what code of conduct you're willing to adhere to. If I couldn't flirt, I'd pretty much never talk, so if my woman couldn't handle it, I wouldn't be able to handle her.

Most if not all of that i consider cheating

everything but flirting i voted for, but it also depends on what kind of flirting. if you use a sexual situation while talking and "hinting" about sex, that's definitely cheating. i also voted for other because emotional cheating to me is cheating. it is really hurtful as well to have your significant other talking to someone about everything including your relationship.

We have a no mucus membrane contact policy and only touching boobies at the strip club.

I think dating another person is cheating. It doesn't matter if they didn't have sex, didn't kiss didn't do anything. If they're going on dates with another person, that's cheating to me. Also, sexting/phone sex stuff like that.. no way. That's cheating to me because it's telling them you want to do those things and if you were there, you probably would be.

what i would consider cheating is sex behind my back. If I give permission or get permission ahead of time then it's not cheating because your not hiding it.

The only one I wouldn't consider cheating is the flirting.... but it also totally depends on the situation and what is being said/done

I consider all of that Cheating other then flirting. I know that some people flirt without even realizing it.

I voted "flirting" but I meant an attempt to gain romantic attention from another. I mean, I flirt with my friends, in front of my girlfriend, for example, "Hey, sexy, I didn't see yo' fine ass in class today!" "Hi, hottie! Yeah, I overslept." but I have no intention of pursuing a romantic relationship with them. I also touch my friends' boobs and kiss them on the cheeks, but it's clear that we have no romantic interest. It's all about intention.

I voted for everything except flirting, though in some more extreme cases I think it could be considered cheating as well.

Flirting isn't cheating. Everything else, if done without permission, is.