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Most Annoying Things Men do During Sex

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Contributor: Machina Machina
I've experienced some pretty heinous things while/before fornicating. Some of them were so bad I didn't even include them in this poll (i.e. one time a guy with actually cut the inside of my vagina, and made me bleed after fingering me with his long fingernails....Ouch!)

I don't believe either gender is perfect, but since I'm a woman I'll only gripe about the opposite sex. Which one of these bad habits pisses you ladies off the most when it comes to sex?

When they...
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
pout about how their penis alone can't give you an orgasm
41  (6%)
forget about foreplay and go straight for your dry pussy
343  (52%)
push your head down while you're being kind enough to give them a blowjob. *gag*
100  (15%)
come before you do...then pass out
86  (13%)
take rest stops while giving you oral (seems like this always happens right when you feel like you'r
44  (7%)
won't put out!
49  (7%)
Total votes: 663
Poll is closed
03/30/2009
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Contributor: Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
My boyfriend is actually very considerate (and the only one I've ever had sex with. ever. in my life. and as far as I can tell, I'll never want another). He's not perfect, but he only commits one of these transgressions once in a blue moon.
03/30/2009
Contributor: LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
My boyfriend's good about being considerate too. The most common thing from him is not enough foreplay, though that still happens very rarely, and I'm a foreplay fiend.
03/30/2009
Contributor: Machina Machina
I'm pretty lucky right now too. My current boyfriend isn't perfect, but he tries to please me...which I think is the most important thing. I actually made this post because we were having a friendly debate about this very issue. I said it was the forgetting about foreplay part too :/ but he insisted it was when guys come too soon
03/30/2009
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
My husband really doesn't have a bad habit like these - he may push my head down, but that's something we both like. I think the only one I can count here is that he isn't always in the mood when I am. But that's what toys are for
03/30/2009
Contributor: Gatita Gatita
I can't really complain about any of those. Like the rest of you, I too have a very considerate, willing to please husband. One gripe I do have however is when he wants to talk/ask questions during the session. UGH! My days are so loud with my 2 little ones that when I'm with him, I want to lavish in quiet time. I want to concentrate on the moment & lose myself in what we are doing. If he starts talking, it kills the mood for me & the evil side of me wants to scream "shhhhhhh, can you be quiet?" (I don't of course, but I want to - lol). The other minor thing we both laugh about is that I seem to have switch places with him. He claims he needs/wants love, foreplay, caressing before we get busy & my thoughts on that is WHY? If I'm not playing hard to get, am hot, naked & ready & he is saluting, all those extras are time wasters. He thinks I'm being cold when I tell him "come on now, just stick it in". My thoughts are just, I know what I'm getting & I want it now!
03/30/2009
Contributor: Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
Quote:
Originally posted by LikeSunshineDust
My boyfriend's good about being considerate too. The most common thing from him is not enough foreplay, though that still happens very rarely, and I'm a foreplay fiend.
I always feel so bad because it takes quite a bit of foreplay and the RIGHT kind of foreplay to get my engines going. Some days, my mind is there, but my body just doesn't get it yet. We solve this problem by liberal application of silicone lube. It's a sex life saver!
03/30/2009
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
I wish we had more foreplay. Foreplay for my partner is kissing my breasts and sucking my nipples but before sex they are sensitive and it tickles so not very fun. I rarely get oral from my partner bcs I have a hygiene complex. Although I may be clean I never feel clean so I always say no. But recently I have received oral from my partner and it turned me on so much. I think that I will have to overcome my complex in order to get the foreplay I need.

But of course most times my foreplay is saliva to get things wet and doggystyle to warm me up, I love quickies and rough sex. Then I am ready to be thrown around the mattress and get my needy little pussy battered.
03/31/2009
Contributor: Firemeup Firemeup
My husband is also wonderful, but there were a couple of times when we decided that I would shower and he would get ready for bed and then we'd have sex, and I'd come out to find that he'd fallen asleep and wouldn't wake up. Sigh. So I did myself, not a big deal.
03/31/2009
Contributor: Machina Machina
Naughty Student & Firemeup- I can so relate to both of your comments.

I have a hygiene complex too! I'm not saying it's fair to ask a guy to always be ready and willing, but it really sucks when you spend all that time meticulously cleaning your body, and shaving your legs, bikini area, armpits, etc... then when you go to have sex with your man, they're too tired or asleep! Most guys don't have to primp like us girls do, & I don't think they understand how bad it sucks to have done all that girly work... for nothing.

Sometimes my guy tells me we should just wait until morning because he's too tired from working when I'm trying to sex him up at night. I just want to scream "In the morning my legs will be prickly, I'll have crust in my eyes, my breath will stink, and my pussy won't smell like a rose anymore!"

When I'm not fully clean I just don't enjoy sex as much.
03/31/2009
Contributor: Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
Quote:
Originally posted by Machina
Naughty Student & Firemeup- I can so relate to both of your comments.

I have a hygiene complex too! I'm not saying it's fair to ask a guy to always be ready and willing, but it really sucks when you spend all that time ... more
I'm a hygiene-obsessive girl as well. I find it helps if we get ready together. Like, we'll shower and shave together, brush our teeth together, and jump in bed together. I won't let my man go down on me unless his teeth are brush and his mouth is clean, and vice versa. It's a little extra hassle, but since we're doing it together, there's no risk of falling asleep on each other.
03/31/2009
Contributor: FlyingChef FlyingChef
I'm a guy any I try to be good, but sometimes I do forget my manners #2 is my biggest problem, but It becomes evident I made a stupid mistake and 'take some to rectify it' --- if there's ever a problem for either of us all we have to do is communicate and its gone-- I actually love getting advice from her-- when she's happy, it in turn makes me happy.
03/31/2009
Contributor: Backseat Boohoo Backseat Boohoo
Quote:
Originally posted by Miss Cinnamon
I'm a hygiene-obsessive girl as well. I find it helps if we get ready together. Like, we'll shower and shave together, brush our teeth together, and jump in bed together. I won't let my man go down on me unless his teeth are brush and his ... more
I don't necessarily clean myself on the same schedule as my partners, but I am picky about hygeine, and it seems to be more of a problem with men than women. There have been times where I've asked male partners, "Are you going to shower now or later?" and they've said, "Oh, I'll just do it tomorrow." I have strict rules: unless you are sick, passed out drunk, or extremely busy, you shower every day or you don't get in to my pants. Playing video games or being a lazy ass is not an excuse.
04/01/2009
Contributor: Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
Quote:
Originally posted by Backseat Boohoo
I don't necessarily clean myself on the same schedule as my partners, but I am picky about hygeine, and it seems to be more of a problem with men than women. There have been times where I've asked male partners, "Are you going to shower ... more
LOL. My guy is so self conscious about smelling good and being clean that usually he hops into the shower before I'm even awake!
04/01/2009
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
Guess I am a clean freak. I just don't feel sexy when I am not showered or sweaty. I expect the same from my b/f 'though he would rather put the shower off until after sex, lol.
04/01/2009
Contributor: Anica Anica
I hate it when I'm all ready to go and he's not. Or I'll ask for it or try to convince him and he flat out refuses...grrr....used to happen quite a lot. But that's why I have toys I guess. Once I started using my toys if he said no, he'd get turned on and want in on the action once I got started by myself. LOL!
04/01/2009
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
Quote:
Originally posted by Machina
Naughty Student & Firemeup- I can so relate to both of your comments.

I have a hygiene complex too! I'm not saying it's fair to ask a guy to always be ready and willing, but it really sucks when you spend all that time ... more
OMG it's so frustrating!

Sometimes my partner is ready when I am not and when I am actually ready he isn't in the mood. The worst part is that he holds it against me too! The same line all the time "I am always ready for you but you're never ready" of course I'm not bcs I can't be ready at any time of the day, I have to have showered. It's as though I have to be telepathic and know when he will get a boner and be in the mood so that I shower just before he it happens.

Most times, if I have showered and dont feel clean for lovemaking I will run to the washroom and wash myself standing up in front of the sink. That way I feel fresh before we get busy!
04/01/2009
Contributor: LilyLust LilyLust
defiantly come before you do...then pass out. This always seams to happen to me. Ok not always but enough for me to complain about it. He tries so hard during forplay and with oral, but he just doesn't seam to get it right.....75% of the time. Then he gets off and goes to sleep. I get left with that, what about me feeling.
04/09/2009
Contributor: LadyAdderuss LadyAdderuss
dont get me wrong I love oral sex but it bugs me when they sit there and work you up so much you cant take it then you get a five mins of sex like come on what is up with that god do we really need to show men how to work Us right
04/09/2009
Contributor: ?leeswhore? ?leeswhore?
Quote:
Originally posted by Machina
I've experienced some pretty heinous things while/before fornicating. Some of them were so bad I didn't even include them in this poll (i.e. one time a guy with actually cut the inside of my vagina, and made me bleed after fingering me with ... more
Well my boyfriend is not perfect but dont tell him that i tried to vote on everything but oh well....foreplay has been the biggest problem he thinks i should give him head and be dripping wet and ready to go!!!!!
04/14/2009
Contributor: Raven Raven
My pet peeve is entirely different from the others mentioned. My husband is wonderful when it comes to foreplay, and always gives me at least one orgasm before wanting anything for himself. However, when working my clit, whether or not there is something in my pussy at the same time, sometimes, not always, he will get me right up to the point where I'm ready to come, and then he will change what he's doing or move in some way that will screw it all up. I have to tell him to go back to what he was doing, but sometimes he forgets what it was or can't get it just right!! It's extremely aggravating. He apologizes and says he just gets carried away watching me enjoy it, and forgets to not change his procedure at the last minute. He wants so much to please me and really does more than a lot of guys would, so, bless his heart, I can't really criticize him. AARRGGHH!!!!
06/17/2009
Contributor: Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
My biggest peeve with bio-males is that they don't have enough stamina! I don't care if they get off and it takes them a while to get ready again - don't leave me hanging around waiting! I expect hours of sexual interaction. It's just been my experience that bio-females are attentive to their partners until everyone is completely satisfied.

My favorite bio-male partner is great because after he gets done, he plays with me until I pass out.
06/17/2009
Contributor: Valyn Valyn
Lol.. Luckily, I don't encounter any of these issues in my current relationship, really. If we don't see one another for a week or something, he may cum before I do, but he doesn't just pass out after..

I'd imagine a guy that won't put out would be terrible, though..
07/07/2009
Contributor: spicywife spicywife
I don't have any of these problems either. My husband is really considerate and we communicate well. I think the only thing that I could say is sometimes he might take "rest stops" when giving me oral. But I do that when I give him oral. Sometimes you just have to take a break, even if its for a few seconds. But we don't just completely stop, he'll kiss my leg or something and then go back.
07/07/2009
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
For me, the most irritating thing a man can do during sex is slow down or change rhythm right when I'm on the brink of having an orgasm. *Especially* if he does it after I say "Don't stop!"

Michele
07/08/2009
Contributor: Dragon Dragon
Friend of mine's favorite expression about what's wrong with sex is "I am NOT a bullsye!"
07/08/2009
Contributor: In Purrgatory In Purrgatory
Quote:
Originally posted by Liz2
Guess I am a clean freak. I just don't feel sexy when I am not showered or sweaty. I expect the same from my b/f 'though he would rather put the shower off until after sex, lol.
Is this common? I've never had a gf who didn't like things a bit sweaty (or at least didn't mind it). I love it. Maybe my sweat doesn't stink as much as most...
07/08/2009
Contributor: Undressed Reviews Undressed Reviews
Quote:
Originally posted by Machina
I've experienced some pretty heinous things while/before fornicating. Some of them were so bad I didn't even include them in this poll (i.e. one time a guy with actually cut the inside of my vagina, and made me bleed after fingering me with ... more
Thankfully, I have an excellent partner now, and he doesn't do any of the things on your list. However, in the past I've had problems with men being uncomfortable with toys, being apathetic to their inability to please me very much, or being offended by me initiating sexual encounters. Basically, exhibiting fragile pride or a lack of respect. NOT attractive.

Women have their faults, too, though.... certainly.
07/26/2009
Contributor: Backseat Boohoo Backseat Boohoo
Quote:
Originally posted by LadyAdderuss
dont get me wrong I love oral sex but it bugs me when they sit there and work you up so much you cant take it then you get a five mins of sex like come on what is up with that god do we really need to show men how to work Us right
Actually, I think everybody should instruct their partner on "how to work us right," since everybody is different. Partners aren't clairvoyant, male or female, and my motto is, "If you aren't willing to talk about sex, why are you even having it?"
07/26/2009
Contributor: Envy Envy
I can't really say much since both my bf and I were virgins and lost it to each other, so we both don't know what we're doing, lol! But he's very sweet and communicates and asks if he's hurting me. We only did it once though, and then I had to go back home to my state. It may be a year or two before I see him again.

As for the hygiene.... he's very selfconcious and showers twice a day! He keeps thinking he smells weird or feels sticky when he's perfectly fine!
08/13/2009