Pauses during oral *are* annoying, but they are understandable. During particularly long sessions, sometimes a dude just needs a break, just as girls would! However, the one that's really inexcusable for myself is going straight into things with no warm up. Additionally, even with a warm-up, just diving into the pussy and going at it really hard is annoying ESPECIALLY with oral. Sometimes it's like "Are you mad at my pussy? What's going on?"

Oh I hate it when guys forget about the foreplay! Yeah quickies can be hot, but seriously, not all the time! If you're relying on lube to make it work, then obviously something with your tactics isn't working right. Lube is nice to help glide things, but if there's enough foreplay it shouldn't be an issue.

One thing guys should realize is that foreplay isn't just limited to the bedroom. You can flirt and tease each other all day, so you basically just pounce each other when you get behind closed doors (or maybe even in public if you're daring).


On the subject of hygiene, how come guys don't seem to realize that their hair traps sweat and oil, so even if they showered in the morning, by evening it doesn't always smell very pleasant down there? But hey, showering together can be sexy foreplay. So maybe that can kill two birds with one stone.

I don't have much to complain about, other than I sometimes exaggerate my pleasure during sex to make him feel better. Sex is wonderful, but I need clitoral stimulation, and basically, it needs to be me doing it in order to have a good orgasm. He doesn't like that I own sex toys and is uncomfortable with me masturbating as well.

I usually hate it when he tries to initiate sex first thing in the morning. I do no feel sexy that early. Morning breath, bed head, crusty eyes, and morning grumpiness does not = sexy times lol

You gotta tell your partner what you want. Especially after you have been to bed a few times, then its a good time to discuss what you want to try, what you don't like, what you want more of. For instance, I did not know my partner hated having sex with the lights on, and preferred to by bound and blind folded during sex. I would have never known unless we had that discussion. Some men love breastplay on themselves, some hate it, some women hate it. Ask, and you shall receive. Don't talk about it, and your sex life will eventually suffer bed death.

I'm not very fond of giving head to my boyfriend, but I'm willing to put up with it for him every now and then. But it seriously sucks (he heh I made a pun) when he starts getting rowdy and pushes my head down. And THAT right there is why I don't really like giving oral. XP
((note- as soon as I poke him with my finger, he realizes what he's doing and stops instantly, apologizing while I'm still, ah, working down there.))

I chose "Pout about when their penis alone can't give you an orgasm" but I had to really think about it.

I've never had a problem with a guy not putting out and I like all the rest. (I am submissive, remember.) And I kept thinking "But M doesn't do that!" about the one I chose. It's not easy remembering all my other sexploits when I've had such an amazing partner for so long.

The other day, my boyfriend and I saw the movie Jennifer's Body and after we came home, I proceeded in giving him a blow job. In the middle of it, I asked him what he was thinking, and he replied, "trying not to think of a dead girl eating people." Ohhh yeah baby, that makes me so hot, say that again! :sarcasm

Guess many times it is better not to know where a guy's head (that is his big head) is during sex.

Ha - my wife complains about me taking too long with foreplay - but she has to get up earlier than me, so as a courtesy I keep it under control.

There are a ton of hygiene comments out there - and although I'm not a stickler it's a good thing. If I refused to have sex every time my wife didn't shave her legs or had a bit of pubic stubble - I'd be a very unhappy guy!

So it isn't just about men. For me the bottom line is there isn't any better way to 'cleaner' sex than shaved or closely trimmed pubes. It makes it easier to clean up if your getting ready for an unexpected encounter and makes cleanup after much easier as well.

Oh yes - and the scenery is improved as well - that's why I love candles, I want to appreciate the work of art before me!

Now that I think about it and I'm surprised no one said it, but I really think farting during sex would be a huuuuge turn off for me, especially if it stank to high heaven, LOL!

Huh...I actually LOVE having my head pushed down when giving a blowjob...LOL. I just chose from the worst of the options, but I've never been with a guy who didn't absolutely relish foreplay...Luckily for me

"come before you do...then pass out
11 (15%)"

I am happy to say that I don't have to go through ANY of those things anymore thanks to a much improved sexual partner. MUCH MUCH improved.

My hubby does pretty good, and even though it can get annoying, I do agree pausing while giving oral sex is sometimes essential. What causes me to pause is errant hair. Usually it's a pube or cat hair. Not pleasant feeling one of those suckers caught on the roof of your mouth!

I had a boyfriend once who did the pushing my head down and keeping it down while I gave him oral. Thankfully I learned how to fight the gag reflex, and also taught him it's not nice to do.

What about passing out before getting off? That should have been on the list

Oh my goodness, I can so relate to Naughty Student, Firemeup, Machina, Anica and DaniDarling.

I have noticed through reading these comments that there are 9 other people who picked "doesn't put out" and yet, very few references have been made to the actual frustration of this, so here I am!

I don't know what it is, exactly, if I'm just too sexual of a person or if he just isn't, but my partner is not in the mood half as much as I am and it is so frustrating! Ideally if I had my way, we would have sex once daily, maybe twice. The way our sexual relationship works, however, is very different. He's turned on and ready to go maybe three times a week and that just will not work for me. I have my toys sure, but sometimes no vibrator, dildo, or whatever else I have in my arsenal will compare to the bated breath, sweaty, hands-on, real deal and sometimes you are just craving human interaction, not silicone or elastomer or plastic interaction!

While I can understand that we do have a significant age difference (10 years) he's still in his early thirties and his libido shouldn't be gone already. I can also understand that he does have significant stress factors in his every day life, such as having to put up with the frequent insanity of his ex-wife as she treats their two children liked property instead of like human beings. He is also a musician and a video game programmer, so working in a field that relies heavily on creativity, I can also relate to the fact that when you get the mojo running, you have to run with it. But that doesn't stop me from being disappointing a lot of the time, especially, as a lot of the people I mentioned in the beginning of this post have said, when you go through all the shaving, trimming and primping and then he's just not going for it when you present him with this masterpiece of femininity that you worked for a good long time on.

To be fair (see, I'm always fair!) when he does put out, he is extraordinary. He understands foreplay and when he goes down on me, oh my goodness. Fireworks. Really.

Thanks for the place to vent about this!

I think there should have been an option for "He says all the wrong things".

I'm all fine and dandy for dirty talk and fantasies during sex, but please don't ask me if I want to mother your children or marry you while we're going at it. Immediately my mind goes from the pleasure I'm experiencing to, "I remembered to take my pill today, right?!" And I have yet to find a nice way to say, "Honey... Shut up." <3

My boyfriend is actually very considerate we both talk and listen to each other that's what makes it the best. We always give it our best he perfect.

Most annoying? Talk. I get really in the mood and all of a sudden "Do you like that?" "Is this okay?" No talkie during sex, ok?

All this talk about hygiene!
I think to be really comfortable with your own or your lover's body, you need to be comfortable with the smells of said body.
Right after a shower, I don't think I smell right. I'd rather have sex when I need a shower than when I just had one! But I'm raunchy like that...

As for the most annoying thing - I voted "skipping foreplay." Sometimes quickies are great, but sometimes a girl needs a more thorough experience!