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Contributor: Beck Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this question.

So do you think oral sex is sex? And do you count these partner's that you only had oral sex with?
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I am female..
365
I am male..
127
I do count them, because....
200
I do not count them, because...
80
Yes oral sex is sex.
378
No it is not sex...
89
It is only sex if fluids are exchanged.
3
Other answers that are not up here (Sorry for missing it)
48
Total votes: 1290 (532 voters)
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11/01/2011
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11/01/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
To me, sharing bodily fluids orally is considered sex. It brings pleasure and that is what sex is about for me.
11/01/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
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Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
To me, sharing bodily fluids orally is considered sex. It brings pleasure and that is what sex is about for me.
I agree Tim.

Oral sex is sex. And I count these partners because it is important too. You can still spread diseases this way so you should count them.
11/01/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
Personally, anything with the word "sex" in it is sex. Be it oral, anal, vaginal, or any other kind of sex. And safe sex can (and should) be a priority in all of these sexual acts.
11/01/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
Quote:
Originally posted by indiglo
Personally, anything with the word "sex" in it is sex. Be it oral, anal, vaginal, or any other kind of sex. And safe sex can (and should) be a priority in all of these sexual acts.
Agree!
11/01/2011
Contributor: The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ... more
Well sex in the traditional deff of the word really is the whole concept of reproduction so technically oral isn't sex. However if you are stimulating those areas emotionally I cant see how it couldn't be.
11/01/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
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Originally posted by The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
Well sex in the traditional deff of the word really is the whole concept of reproduction so technically oral isn't sex. However if you are stimulating those areas emotionally I cant see how it couldn't be.
So by the tradition definition Anal is not sex either? So then those whom are not in a heterosexual relationship do not have sex? Makes no sense.
11/01/2011
Contributor: The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
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Originally posted by Beck
So by the tradition definition Anal is not sex either? So then those whom are not in a heterosexual relationship do not have sex? Makes no sense.
I'm saying Websters dictionary... science book etc etc.... (I am not going from the generally accepted definition of the word) If you read on I did say if you are stimulating those areas I don't see how it couldn't be considered sex in the emotional sense. Sure I would say anal sex is sex and sexual orientation would really have nothing to do with it.
11/01/2011
Contributor: The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
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Originally posted by The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
I'm saying Websters dictionary... science book etc etc.... (I am not going from the generally accepted definition of the word) If you read on I did say if you are stimulating those areas I don't see how it couldn't be considered sex in ... more
I wasn't attempting to offend anybody... if that is how it was taken.
11/01/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
Quote:
Originally posted by The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
I'm saying Websters dictionary... science book etc etc.... (I am not going from the generally accepted definition of the word) If you read on I did say if you are stimulating those areas I don't see how it couldn't be considered sex in ... more
I read on to what you are saying, just asking the questions in general, I really was not directing the questions at you. By that definition it would exclude those whom are not in heterosexual relationships because they do not reproduce just like anal and oral.
11/01/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
Quote:
Originally posted by The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
I wasn't attempting to offend anybody... if that is how it was taken.
I do not think you offended anyone.
11/01/2011
Contributor: The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
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Originally posted by Beck
I read on to what you are saying, just asking the questions in general, I really was not directing the questions at you. By that definition it would exclude those whom are not in heterosexual relationships because they do not reproduce just like anal ... more
Good point... I didn't think of it that way.
11/01/2011
Contributor: FaerieLove FaerieLove
oral sex with a female and oralsex with a male = sex. Just my opinion
11/01/2011
Contributor: Coralbell Coralbell
I consider oral sex to be sex. I haven't had oral sex with anyone I haven't also had vaginal sex with, but if I did I would count them as a sexual partner, male or female.
11/01/2011
Contributor: Sunshineamine Sunshineamine
It is definitely sex.
11/01/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ... more
This "oral sex is not sex" thing...you KNOW which "public official" that started with, and when all is said and done, it is the mental justification a lot of high school guys use on high school girls. "Oh...it really isn't sex....". RIGHT!!! Tell me some other fairy tales.
11/01/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by indiglo
Personally, anything with the word "sex" in it is sex. Be it oral, anal, vaginal, or any other kind of sex. And safe sex can (and should) be a priority in all of these sexual acts.
Very well said!
11/01/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
This "oral sex is not sex" thing...you KNOW which "public official" that started with, and when all is said and done, it is the mental justification a lot of high school guys use on high school girls. "Oh...it really ... more
I agree with this.
11/01/2011
Contributor: Avant-garde Avant-garde
Yes
11/01/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ... more
i don't count it unless it's PIV or PIA.
11/01/2011
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
Anything that consensually stimulates the genitals of one or both parties is sex.
11/01/2011
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
For my number, I only count piv sex. I don't count oral.
11/01/2011
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
I consider sex of any type, sex.

I look at it this way: if you are monogamous and do not want your partner to have ANY type of sex with ANYONE what are you going to consider SEX to be? If my guy got a BJ from some chick, yes I'd consider it cheating and I'd consider it sex. Now that's just one 1 level.

I also consider any type of intercourse sex. If it ends in "sex", it's sex. I do, though, typically separate the two. If someone asks me how many people I've had sex with I'll say X-women and X-men (haha x-men ^_^ hehehe)
11/01/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by El-Jaro
For my number, I only count piv sex. I don't count oral.
Ah yes - the Clinton definition of sex "I did not have sex with THAT woman!?"
11/01/2011
Contributor: Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Ah yes - the Clinton definition of sex "I did not have sex with THAT woman!?"
Hmm.....maybe it was because of the woman he was with that he didn't count it as sex?

11/01/2011
Contributor: Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
Anyone doing something to my pussy counts.
11/01/2011
Contributor: Lucky21 Lucky21
First let me say I'm not judging other people's responses. To me not calling oral sex "sex" is an excuse for people to be irresponsible. More and more STI's are being transmitted because people are having oral and anal sex and not having vaginal sex and it doesn't mean that you aren't doing it. I do feel as a straight man, vaginal sex is "sex!" but at the end of the day the others count as well.

It also begs another question, if you are gay or lesbian (or other) does oral or anal not count?
11/01/2011
Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ... more
I do count them in my total but I do not think oral, handjobs, fingering or rubbing are sex but more erotic forms of foreplay. I do not count masturbation including doing it in front of but not to others as either - the reason I keep my sex partners (those that I have fucked) as one set of numbers, those that I have done oral or foreplay with as a separate total and then a combined total. My bukkake party.... well... they jacked off without any touching from me...I did myself with my toy but with no touching from them...but they did cum on me as each finished. Not sure how to figure them in - lol. Thoughts?
11/02/2011
Contributor: jenn g jenn g
I only count intercourse.
11/02/2011