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Contributor: GoneBabyGone GoneBabyGone
I think oral sex is sex. It has it in the name Oral SEX. It might not be penis in vagina sex but it is still sex.

It can give you an STD, it can feel good, it can be bad, it can make you orgasm. It's sex by golly.
11/23/2011
Contributor: eeep eeep
I don't count oral sex when counting sex partners, I consider it fooling around. I am straight though, I think if I were to be seriously intimate with a girl I would count her as a sex partner.
11/23/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by eeep
I don't count oral sex when counting sex partners, I consider it fooling around. I am straight though, I think if I were to be seriously intimate with a girl I would count her as a sex partner.
You can bet the other half of your oral encounter considers it sex!
11/23/2011
Contributor: Girly Girl Girly Girl
all is sex to me ,, even if there´s not penetration to me also kisses are sex ,sex to me it´s sharing intimacy with someone else ,, that´s my opinion ,some one else make think different
11/23/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I think it diminishes woman-woman relations to say it "isn't sex." It degrades lesbians and bisexual women to say, "It doesn't count." Of course, if the two of you are engaged in a sexual act and are both enjoying it, it's SEX!

It's the same line of thought that says, "Oh, if I have sex with an other woman, it isn't cheating on my boyfriend." YES it is! It's the emotional, as well as physical interaction which causes it to be "sex." As well as the fact that oral sex is a form of sex.
11/23/2011
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
I count it as a form of sex.. why else would it have sex in it's name? but that's my opinion.
11/23/2011
Contributor: sweetcaroline sweetcaroline
well, for me, I feel that if you orgasm or your intent was to orgasm, then it was sex
11/25/2011
Contributor: Bonesdance Bonesdance
Oral sex is definitely sex, but if I were asked "how many people have you had sex with," I'd certainly answer with the number of partners with whom I've had intercourse. If the question were "with how many people have you done sexual acts?", then I would include both.
11/28/2011
Contributor: BuckeyeGal04 BuckeyeGal04
Sex is exchanging pleasure, imo.
11/30/2011
Contributor: HomuHomu HomuHomu
I don't count it. :9
11/30/2011
Contributor: TheHardOne TheHardOne
I don't count them.
12/06/2011
Contributor: switzerland switzerland
it's definitely a sexual act, even if there is no penetration. i would definitely still count those people in my total...
12/06/2011
Contributor: Collogue Collogue
I believe it is sex and I would count it as being a sexual partner, but I would not count strap-ons or oral in general towards virginity.
12/07/2011
Contributor: fabidefabi fabidefabi
To me, oral sex is sex. Hence the name. If your loved one gived 50 people oral pleasure it would be a lot different from him/her kissing 50 people...
12/08/2011
Contributor: whitknee whitknee
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Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ... more
I only see sex as penatration
12/11/2011
Contributor: bdvnt bdvnt
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Originally posted by sweetcaroline
well, for me, I feel that if you orgasm or your intent was to orgasm, then it was sex
I agree with this. It sounds a bit clinical, but if you are having intimate contact with another person with the intent of deriving pleasure, it's sex. Generally, orgasm is the goal, but I don't think it has to go that far to qualify as sex for me.
12/11/2011
Contributor: pixxie87 pixxie87
u can still get stds, so oral sex is still sex. and everyone should know this
12/12/2011
Contributor: geliebt geliebt
I don't think of it as SEX, as when I hear "sex" i generally think PIV sex. It's a sex act, of course, but I feel like it's a step down from vaginal or anal sex.
12/13/2011
Contributor: Daemonin Daemonin
I guess it really just depends. I would count it, but me being who I am would say, "Well, I have had penetration intercourse with so and so many and oral with so and so many." So many people see things differently I would have to verify those things with details.
12/16/2011
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
i don't count it unless it's PIV or PIA.
Are you saying that unless sex involves a penis, it is not considered "sex?"

Because you just said you don't count it unless it's Penis in Vagina or Penis in Anus. Therefore any act without PIV or PIA (both acts containing "penis") do not count as sex in your book?

I think that is very wrong and closed-minded.
12/26/2011
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ... more
Oral sex is sex. One of the reasons is because oral sex can transmit STD's. It is an exchange of bodily fluids, between at least 1 other individual. Any time you are exchanging bodily fluids you are exposing yourself to risks of STD's.

It is very misleading to not label oral sex or any other sexual acts involving exposure to or exchange of fluids between individuals as "sex."

If people wanted to only limit it to PIV sex, they shouldn't call it "sex." Because "sex," even in biological terms, is a process of combining and mixing genetic traits. That does not necessarily involve any penetration (in-vitro fertilization in humans, and countless animal species do not reproduce using any sort of "penetration")

PIV sex in humans should be called "coitus," or "sexual intercourse." However, the original question is, "do you think oral sex is sex?" Obviously, the correct response in the linguistic, biological, society's and more broadly, the HUMAN definition, is YES. ORAL SEX IS SEX.
12/26/2011
Contributor: dawnkye dawnkye
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Originally posted by AndroAngel
Anything that consensually stimulates the genitals of one or both parties is sex.
This is the definition I go by.
12/27/2011
Contributor: Nazaress Nazaress
I voted "I'm a female and yes, I count them but other". I don't count oral as sex when it comes to men but I count oral/fingering/etc. when it comes to women. Idk why. I guess just because neither of us has a penis (unless you count a strap-on, which I haven't used yet) so it's all we can do? I really don't know. XP
12/27/2011
Contributor: Undead Undead
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ... more
I count it as sex.
01/04/2012
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
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Originally posted by K101
No. Sex was originally PIV. You don't lose your virginity from oral sex and it is not intercourse. It's a sexual act, but sex is where penis goes in vagina. That's my opinion. I don't know why it has to be made to be so complicated. ... more
Sex is not originally PIV. Sex is an inclusive term that covers all types of sexual behaviors. If you wanted to specify PIV, you should say "coitus," which is a specific type of sexual behavior.
01/10/2012
Contributor: PassionateLover2 PassionateLover2
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Originally posted by K101
No. Sex was originally PIV. You don't lose your virginity from oral sex and it is not intercourse. It's a sexual act, but sex is where penis goes in vagina. That's my opinion. I don't know why it has to be made to be so complicated. ... more
The IT-Guy started a very good response. I lean more to that side of the issue. Kendra30752 said it right, in my opinion!
01/10/2012
Contributor: Doah Doah
I definitely don't think that it's sex
01/10/2012
Contributor: Melissa Smith Melissa Smith
I don't consider it sex.
01/26/2012
Contributor: BobbiJay BobbiJay
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Originally posted by indiglo
Personally, anything with the word "sex" in it is sex. Be it oral, anal, vaginal, or any other kind of sex. And safe sex can (and should) be a priority in all of these sexual acts.
I second this.
01/26/2012
Contributor: freda freda
it is sex
01/28/2012