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Rayne Millaray
Aww sick is no fun. :/
Not fun at all! I'm keeping water and apparently toast and bananas down though so hopefully with a good night's sleep I'll be back to snuff in the morning.
On topic: play partners are more casual. I wouldn't say less extreme, but they're casual about it. No requirements of ownership, you're just playing to meet a certain need, scratch that itch, find out what you love and what you hate. I really think everyone should first be play partners with someone before getting into the more extreme (and I use extreme to mean more permanent) end of the kink scale.
The reason why is this gives you an excuse to try on the coat for size. You might know you're masochistic, sadistic, submissive... but until you get tied up, tie someone up, learn to use a whip, WHATEVER... how else are you going to really find out what makes what you know about yourself tick? You might know you're interested in bondage. A play partner gives you a chance to try bondage without the insinuation of a permanently kinky relationship.
Of course you can be play partners with someone you're in a relationship with, I think. It's the implication of just casually trying on kink for size that eases into that spectrum.
People open to multiple partners can also get play partners to scratch itches their primary partner can't scratch, as it were. So I really think the play partner archetype is important to the kink spectrum, though it's also important to realize that it doesn't necessarily require polyamory because if you're in a relationship with someone who'll casually play kinky games and experiment all across the board, I think you fit right into that description. For me to be someone's play partner, that means just that... we're playing, it's not srs business, not yet.
