Do you always break out the flogger and ropes (or whatever accoutrement and/or mindset applicable to you) when having sex? Or is it something you just break out occasionally? Something in between?
Is all your sex kinky?
10/04/2011
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Sometimes, we break out the flogger, and handcuffs, and have crazy wild sex. But we also have the normal vanilla sex.
Even when it's vanilla sex though, it's still pretty rough. And he sometimes still chokes me during normal sex. Yum.
Even when it's vanilla sex though, it's still pretty rough. And he sometimes still chokes me during normal sex. Yum.
10/04/2011
We're a pretty kinky couple, but not in the way of BDSM play. That's never interested either of us, but there are other things we do that would make a 'vanilla' couple blush and hide under the table.
10/04/2011
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It realy depends on our moods...given that there are three of us the kink times tend to be rather frequent....
Originally posted by
carenautilus
Do you always break out the flogger and ropes (or whatever accoutrement and/or mindset applicable to you) when having sex? Or is it something you just break out occasionally? Something in between?
10/04/2011
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the kinkier the better
Originally posted by
carenautilus
Do you always break out the flogger and ropes (or whatever accoutrement and/or mindset applicable to you) when having sex? Or is it something you just break out occasionally? Something in between?
10/04/2011
We usually have kinky sex - I just need to feel dominated to be in the mood most of the time.
10/04/2011
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Most of my sex is kinky but sometimes it's romantic and a way to connect with my Master. I love sex with him.
Originally posted by
carenautilus
Do you always break out the flogger and ropes (or whatever accoutrement and/or mindset applicable to you) when having sex? Or is it something you just break out occasionally? Something in between?
10/04/2011
About half and half. Vanilla is more likely when we're both tired, kinky when we're well-rested and have a good chunk of time.
10/04/2011
I don't really think of it as "vanilla", but sometimes it's just plain "stick it in and wiggle" as opposed the kind kind of sex that requires some clean up of toys and ourselves.
10/04/2011
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Horray for Kinky! 50% 50% for me.
Originally posted by
carenautilus
Do you always break out the flogger and ropes (or whatever accoutrement and/or mindset applicable to you) when having sex? Or is it something you just break out occasionally? Something in between?
10/04/2011
about 50/50. It depends on the mood.
10/04/2011
We're about 50/50.
10/04/2011
Probably 90/10 for us.
10/04/2011
I'm kinky - Hubby is vanilla - we have been exploring my kink for awhile and with most things he's ok (a couple not so much) but since my accident it's all vanilla at best. Sooner or later I hope we reach the 50/50 mark but it'll be awhile.
10/04/2011
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Sorry to hear that. I hope you feel better soon!
Originally posted by
SexyTabby
I'm kinky - Hubby is vanilla - we have been exploring my kink for awhile and with most things he's ok (a couple not so much) but since my accident it's all vanilla at best. Sooner or later I hope we reach the 50/50 mark but it'll be awhile.
10/04/2011
It depends. Lately I've been feeling totally vanilla. For some reason, kinky sex has just been making my hackles go up and I get prickly and defensive instead of relaxing into submission. I'd rather just be loved all sensually and nice right now, I'm not completely sure what it's about. In the past, when I've been in the mood, I'd say it was about 50/50 for kinky/vanilla sex.
10/04/2011
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With my man I am with now it is never kinky unless I convince him otherwise, its always pretty much straight sometimes he likes to get me doggy style. Its ok I dont mind especially after nine years with my ex who would do anything but he never ever seemed to be able to make me cum at all. My man now shit he makes me come just sliding it in so ill keep his boring normal sex..
Originally posted by
carenautilus
Do you always break out the flogger and ropes (or whatever accoutrement and/or mindset applicable to you) when having sex? Or is it something you just break out occasionally? Something in between?
10/05/2011
It depends on the lover. With my Owner, it's always kinky. With my boyfriend, it's about 50/50. With my girlfriend, we don't have kinky sex together.
10/05/2011
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Good point! Relationship dynamics are never the same from partner to partner.
Originally posted by
Pixel
It depends on the lover. With my Owner, it's always kinky. With my boyfriend, it's about 50/50. With my girlfriend, we don't have kinky sex together.
10/05/2011
kinky sometimes.
10/05/2011
I'm not sure what you mean by "kinky." We use what some would consider Classic BDSM tactics (handcuffs, restraint, nipple clamps, leather goods etc) some of the time.
But, we have anal sex or anal play nearly every time we have sex. So, if anal play or anal sex is included in "kinky" (and I didn't consider it as such) then it's more like 95% of the time.
If you include moderate spanking or rough nipple play as "kinky" then... I guess we're closer to kink nearly all the time.
But, we have anal sex or anal play nearly every time we have sex. So, if anal play or anal sex is included in "kinky" (and I didn't consider it as such) then it's more like 95% of the time.
If you include moderate spanking or rough nipple play as "kinky" then... I guess we're closer to kink nearly all the time.
10/05/2011
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My thoughts almost exactly!!! I rarely have sex w/o a butt plug in place which I just consider normal for me.
Originally posted by
P'Gell
I'm not sure what you mean by "kinky." We use what some would consider Classic BDSM tactics (handcuffs, restraint, nipple clamps, leather goods etc) some of the time.
But, we have anal sex or anal play nearly every time we have ... more
But, we have anal sex or anal play nearly every time we have ... more
I'm not sure what you mean by "kinky." We use what some would consider Classic BDSM tactics (handcuffs, restraint, nipple clamps, leather goods etc) some of the time.
But, we have anal sex or anal play nearly every time we have sex. So, if anal play or anal sex is included in "kinky" (and I didn't consider it as such) then it's more like 95% of the time.
If you include moderate spanking or rough nipple play as "kinky" then... I guess we're closer to kink nearly all the time. less
But, we have anal sex or anal play nearly every time we have sex. So, if anal play or anal sex is included in "kinky" (and I didn't consider it as such) then it's more like 95% of the time.
If you include moderate spanking or rough nipple play as "kinky" then... I guess we're closer to kink nearly all the time. less
I also know time restraints keep us from more BDSM play.
10/05/2011
My husband and I have kinky sex most of the time. Sometimes we just have a quickie where there isn't much kink involved at all.
10/05/2011
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I wouldn't include anal sex. I think I would define it as sex with distinct power dynamics in play.
Originally posted by
P'Gell
I'm not sure what you mean by "kinky." We use what some would consider Classic BDSM tactics (handcuffs, restraint, nipple clamps, leather goods etc) some of the time.
But, we have anal sex or anal play nearly every time we have ... more
But, we have anal sex or anal play nearly every time we have ... more
I'm not sure what you mean by "kinky." We use what some would consider Classic BDSM tactics (handcuffs, restraint, nipple clamps, leather goods etc) some of the time.
But, we have anal sex or anal play nearly every time we have sex. So, if anal play or anal sex is included in "kinky" (and I didn't consider it as such) then it's more like 95% of the time.
If you include moderate spanking or rough nipple play as "kinky" then... I guess we're closer to kink nearly all the time. less
But, we have anal sex or anal play nearly every time we have sex. So, if anal play or anal sex is included in "kinky" (and I didn't consider it as such) then it's more like 95% of the time.
If you include moderate spanking or rough nipple play as "kinky" then... I guess we're closer to kink nearly all the time. less
10/05/2011
Its nice to throw in some kink every now and then
10/06/2011
We almost never have vanilla sex.
10/06/2011
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That's for sure!
Originally posted by
married with children
Its nice to throw in some kink every now and then
10/06/2011
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I think we'll have to agree to disagree. People can play with BDSM without distinct "power dynamics" at all. As for anal sex, I think there is little more Dominant than fucking someone up the ass, and little more submissive than taking it.
Originally posted by
carenautilus
I wouldn't include anal sex. I think I would define it as sex with distinct power dynamics in play.
Mileage and all that.
10/06/2011
mostly not, but sometimes we break out handcuffs and paddle
10/06/2011
It's half and half. All depends really on how much time we have if its just a quicky or do we have some time to play around . But i love the kinky sex.
10/06/2011