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Is all your sex kinky?

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Contributor: DidoOfCarthage DidoOfCarthage
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Originally posted by carenautilus
Do you always break out the flogger and ropes (or whatever accoutrement and/or mindset applicable to you) when having sex? Or is it something you just break out occasionally? Something in between?
Depends on the day, really.
10/07/2012
Contributor: satinlady550 satinlady550
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Originally posted by carenautilus
Do you always break out the flogger and ropes (or whatever accoutrement and/or mindset applicable to you) when having sex? Or is it something you just break out occasionally? Something in between?
Most of the time yes.. I love for him to take control of me and my body
10/09/2012
Contributor: Happenstance Happenstance
I don't know how to answer this. I do certain kinds of play without sex... Waxplay, for instance and flogging and things... I'd love to try fire play and there's no way that's going to involve sex.... I like sex that involves some kind of BDSM, but it doesn't always have to.
10/10/2012
Contributor: KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
It's hard to say... there is always an element of it with my boyfriend even if it is slight. We have a kinda interesting dynamic tho. With my fiance it is never BDSM kinky, but there are other kinks we pursue.
10/11/2012
Contributor: TheirPet TheirPet
I'd say it's about 50/50 with my partner and I.
10/11/2012
Contributor: Thumper Logic Thumper Logic
Depends on how we feel, but I almost never have purely vanilla sex. There's always a little something more in our play, even if it's tamer...
11/23/2012
Contributor: RemusHalifax RemusHalifax
My sex with my current partner has been almost entirely vanilla so far. (At least, what I consider vanilla, anyway... it would probably be considered kinky by other standards.) The thing is, I like mostly variations on missionary and doggy style, but I also love love love hair pulling and to incorporate my D/s dynamic into the experience. So while we're not tying each other up or involving much pain, there are still some pretty kinky aspects.
I guess I would be more inclined to call our sex a vanilla/kinky swirl (like the ice cream. ^.^)
11/24/2012
Contributor: Winifred Winifred
I like some kink now and then.
11/24/2012
Contributor: vulvalicious vulvalicious
There are a lot of factors affecting this for us. Are the kids home? And if so where are they? Are they sleeping? This determines how rough and rowdy and loud we feel comfortable being. How tired we are affects our moods and desires. Stress is a biggie. My husband and I are opposites here. If he is stressed sex is a release, a getaway for him. If I'm stressed I want nothing to do with sex. No kids, well rested, stress-free me = give me the kink! Otherwise, it's more vanilla.
11/25/2012
Contributor: Sweet-n-Playful Sweet-n-Playful
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Originally posted by carenautilus
Do you always break out the flogger and ropes (or whatever accoutrement and/or mindset applicable to you) when having sex? Or is it something you just break out occasionally? Something in between?
50/50
11/25/2012
Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
Quote:
Originally posted by carenautilus
Do you always break out the flogger and ropes (or whatever accoutrement and/or mindset applicable to you) when having sex? Or is it something you just break out occasionally? Something in between?
It's not as kinky as I want it to be, but I don't have a boyfriend so incorporating it right off the bat with casual sex partners is more difficult
11/25/2012
Contributor: table38792 table38792
Thinking about it, it is about 50/50.
11/25/2012
Contributor: Cat E. Cat E.
I'm totally vanilla.
11/25/2012
Contributor: Supervixen Supervixen
We're rarely vanilla...unless it's morning sex, we've got places to be, we're still groggy, but damn it, sex has to happen before we say goodbye! No time for spankings and handcuffs...just a good, fun roll in the hay.
11/25/2012
Contributor: Molly Carter Molly Carter
It depends on how you look at it. Our D/s dynamic is out of the bedroom, so anytime we ARE in the bedroom, you can bet your bottom that there is a power exchange going on. And even when our sex doesn't involve toys or props (prob about 50% of the time) it's still somewhat rough. There may be a little bit of hair pulling, butt smacking, or his hand around my throat...
11/25/2012
Contributor: EverlastingPandora EverlastingPandora
Quote:
Originally posted by carenautilus
Do you always break out the flogger and ropes (or whatever accoutrement and/or mindset applicable to you) when having sex? Or is it something you just break out occasionally? Something in between?
Most of the sex I've had was vanilla, but I really do enjoy adding the kinky elements. It just doesn't suit every occasion or partner.
11/28/2012
Contributor: Robespierrethecat Robespierrethecat
It really depends on how much time we have and how tired or not we are.

Whenever we have time and are up for it, we have really fun, kinky sex. But, when we have less time or are just sleepy and horny, we have quick mostly vanilla sex. We still have some kinky elements though, just because we like them, and they're easy even when we're having quick sex.

Gosh. I wish it was easier to do all the kinky stuff quickly and clean up quickly too.
11/28/2012
Contributor: MK434 MK434
Kinky allmost all the time! I love it that way!
11/28/2012
Contributor: Red Vinyl Kitty Red Vinyl Kitty
I can't get off if there's no pain involved (for me), so we always have kinky sex.
11/28/2012
Contributor: kdlt kdlt
I prefer every type of sexual encounter to involve at least a kink or two. Vanilla just isn't as hot, imo.
11/28/2012
Contributor: bog bog
Quote:
Originally posted by carenautilus
Do you always break out the flogger and ropes (or whatever accoutrement and/or mindset applicable to you) when having sex? Or is it something you just break out occasionally? Something in between?
i think of myself as kinky and so i think of whatever sex i have as kinky, whether it involves or doesn't involve whatever thing. where's the line, anyhow? one man's kinky is another man's normal.
11/28/2012
Contributor: True Pleasures True Pleasures
Our sex life, and relationship in general, has been rather awkward. So, kink is a tricky subject. Sometimes it's okay. Sometimes it's not.
11/28/2012
Contributor: DrowsRose DrowsRose
we add some spice from time to time!
11/28/2012
Contributor: tortilla tortilla
mostly vanilla
11/28/2012
Contributor: nosrslylol nosrslylol
... I'm not getting laid, so it's zero-zero for me. *pouty face*
11/29/2012
Contributor: ASpiritedSlut ASpiritedSlut
I like to play kinky, but my sex is often vanilla.
12/04/2012
Contributor: tunacan75 tunacan75
Since day 1 its been kinky, its just our thing I guess. We'd probably feel like something was missing if restraints weren't implemented somehow.
12/08/2012
Contributor: brevado brevado
Plenty of spice in there
02/15/2013
Contributor: SecondStory SecondStory
I don't really have sex but I do scenes? The point isn't the sex, it's just the kink/pain.
02/16/2013
Contributor: Ayogirl230 Ayogirl230
Quote:
Originally posted by carenautilus
Do you always break out the flogger and ropes (or whatever accoutrement and/or mindset applicable to you) when having sex? Or is it something you just break out occasionally? Something in between?
love it
02/16/2013