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Is all your sex kinky?

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Contributor: biancajames biancajames
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Originally posted by carenautilus
Do you always break out the flogger and ropes (or whatever accoutrement and/or mindset applicable to you) when having sex? Or is it something you just break out occasionally? Something in between?
Definitely prefer kink but depends on my mood and partner!
12/10/2011
Contributor: bratofthekitties bratofthekitties
We don't always use toys, but there's definitely usually some kind of physical domination
12/11/2011
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
We add kink here and there, but there's nothing wrong with vanilla!
12/11/2011
Contributor: ss143 ss143
We do what we want when we feel like it so I chose other option
12/11/2011
Contributor: SweetieLuv SweetieLuv
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Originally posted by married with children
Its nice to throw in some kink every now and then
agreed
12/17/2011
Contributor: SweetieLuv SweetieLuv
maybe 60/40 lol
12/17/2011
Contributor: (Re)tired Stripper (Re)tired Stripper
I can't get turned on by vanilla sex one bit. A lot of my play has been takedown/pursuit type stuff without much equipment involved (maybe zipties). I like paddles, floggers, cuffs, and other gear but am more turned on by a strong guy with some zipties and perhaps a knife.

I do own a helluva a lot of bondage gear and painful implements and impact toys. A lot was for my work. In real life I'm a total sub with men though.

I'm in a conundrum lately because it's been under two months since I've been in a physically/emotionally abusive D/s relationship (which was basically not talked about, it just evolved that way, no bells and whistles or negotiation). Any rough stuff triggers me.

So since I can't get even mildly turned on by vanilla activities and kink is triggering, I'm in a frustrating place! I guess I'll continue celibacy for awhile. Not easy for me.
12/20/2011
Contributor: LoveDove LoveDove
I definitely prefer Kinky sex. If it's leaning towards vanilla, I still need a few kinky elements. I'm a sub, and I need the element of submission in a relationship & in the bedroom.
12/20/2011
Contributor: shcoo shcoo
I always bite and always like to be bitten, but we only add more/go "hardcore" about 25% of the time.
12/25/2011
Contributor: Entropy Entropy
Quote:
Originally posted by carenautilus
Do you always break out the flogger and ropes (or whatever accoutrement and/or mindset applicable to you) when having sex? Or is it something you just break out occasionally? Something in between?
We're probably half and half. Sometimes she wants to feel feminine, and sometimes I want to feel masculine and during those times I top. The rest of the time she's the boss and I'm her man-bitch. That's one of the reasons we work so well together; we're often both on the same frequency.
12/25/2011
Contributor: Willow Wand Willow Wand
I am not quite sure. You see, I am His slave 100% of the time, in and out of the bedroom, so our life is complete kink....but, we do have our vanilla sex once in a while, they are mainly quickies though. Are quickies vanilla?
12/27/2011
Contributor: The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
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Originally posted by carenautilus
Do you always break out the flogger and ropes (or whatever accoutrement and/or mindset applicable to you) when having sex? Or is it something you just break out occasionally? Something in between?
Gotta say though with our involvement with eden lately it had gotten alot more kinky.
12/30/2011
Contributor: k3 k3
It's always varying with us, but probably about 50/50 :]
12/31/2011
Contributor: Doah Doah
do handcuffs count >_< i feel so lame
01/01/2012
Contributor: Collogue Collogue
Quote:
Originally posted by carenautilus
Do you always break out the flogger and ropes (or whatever accoutrement and/or mindset applicable to you) when having sex? Or is it something you just break out occasionally? Something in between?
We prefer it with, but sometimes it's inconvenient or we're too damn horny/want it too badly to get out the toy box. we don't do kink in the shower
01/09/2012
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
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Originally posted by carenautilus
Do you always break out the flogger and ropes (or whatever accoutrement and/or mindset applicable to you) when having sex? Or is it something you just break out occasionally? Something in between?
The craziest I get is maybe a vibe or c-ring. That other stuff just makes me uncomfortable to think of doing. But to each their own.
01/09/2012
Contributor: Midway through Midway through
Depends on my mood. I definitely would say it's a healthy half and half. I'm not interested in doing BDSM 24/7, but I have a healthy appetite for it.
01/09/2012
Contributor: Katelyn Katelyn
great poll! I think most of the time my sex is fairly vanilla but with some kink added in, I love kinky sex though!!
01/11/2012
Contributor: AHubbyof2SexualMinds AHubbyof2SexualMinds
Quote:
Originally posted by carenautilus
Do you always break out the flogger and ropes (or whatever accoutrement and/or mindset applicable to you) when having sex? Or is it something you just break out occasionally? Something in between?
We're just starting to introduce some kink into our play, so vanilla mostly with a little spice here and there. More as we go on I think.
01/12/2012
Contributor: panthers panthers
I wish all of it was, but it is about 50/50.
01/17/2012
Contributor: idunshire idunshire
We love our rough sex with punching and choking like, 80% of the time.
01/21/2012
Contributor: dks210 dks210
Depends on my mood.
01/23/2012
Contributor: Anjulie Anjulie
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Originally posted by Kkay
About half and half. Vanilla is more likely when we're both tired, kinky when we're well-rested and have a good chunk of time.
Same here
01/24/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
I'd like to move it more towards 50/50 though.
01/24/2012
Contributor: In Between Soliloquies In Between Soliloquies
Most of the time we don't use BDSM elements, but occasionally we do. Sometimes I think we want to but it just interrupts the mood to have to gather our tools and such. However, we have the under-the-bed restraint system in place to make tying each other up a breeze.
01/29/2012
Contributor: LittleBird LittleBird
Sex is pretty vanilla. I need to change that.
01/30/2012
Contributor: TheSinDoll TheSinDoll
If it's not kinky, then I'm not having it.
02/08/2012
Contributor: Amelia Stone Amelia Stone
There is always something a little kinky in my play time but that doesn't mean there is always BDSM content in my opinion.
02/09/2012
Contributor: Swish Swish
usually normal, but every once in a while it gets kinky
02/10/2012
Contributor: spineyogurt spineyogurt
Dirtier the better!
02/10/2012