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Did anyone talk to you/explain anything about sex toys?

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Contributor: Kitten has left the site Kitten has left the site
I picked other, because I learned a lot about sex in general and toys while reading fanfictions on fanfiction.net as a teenager. I didn't even know what a dildo looked like until I was 18 and ran across a sex toy site (not this one, don't remember what it was) Then I realized what they were and became interested, but due to living with my brother and sister who were very much so underage -_- I couldn't get one.

I always knew about lingerie, but not toys. I barely knew enough.
09/27/2012
Contributor: Absinthe Absinthe
Internet taught should be an option lol
09/29/2012
Contributor: Virgingasms Virgingasms
Self-taught, I'm lucky enough to be a child of the computer age so when I got curious about something I could google it.
10/12/2012
Contributor: kadytheredpanda kadytheredpanda
I found out via the Internet. I was so ignorant that when I first heard of a vibrator I thought they looked like curling irons. I got better, of course!
10/13/2012
Contributor: ID42 ID42
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Originally posted by liilii080
I learned a lot about sex (anatomy, diseases, etc.) from my Mom, a nurse; but in all the talks we ever had about sex she never once talked to me about toys and the role they can play in learning your body and what works for you. I plan to change ... more
A little background... No one taught me anything about toys, but a girlfriend and I started experimenting sexually at an extremely young age. Basically what we were doing was role play, but every time I spent the night at her house (for years), from about age 9 to about age 12 (and our birthdays are two months apart and she's still my oldest and best friend) we had sex. I mean real actual sex. One of us would be the boy and the other would be the girl and we would take turns in that role. When I moved away at 12, I was basically on my own until I started dating boys. My mother never so much as had a talk about sex with me. No disease discussions. No protection discussions. Sex was something we were supposed to do when we loved someone and married them and we did not talk about it otherwise. Quiet, cold, and prudish was my upbringing. When I was 15 and moved back home to live with my sister (she's 13 years older than I am), I found her Hitachi Magic Wand. By that time I knew what it was for, but still even when I asked about toys, she had grown up in the same house and we just never talked about it. I was married by the time I had my first toy and the first person to talk to me about one was my husband. I'd of course thought about them, but just never got one. Now, I have plenty and I find it hard to hide from my daughter. I have a black leather lock box in a stand next to my bed, and one day I am going to pull out everything and tell her about toys. Right now she is only a little girl, but we have already started talking about how mine and her bodies work, and what we do, and what we are capable of. I have been very open and honest about things like sex and sexual abuse and how to tell the difference and what to do about something if or when it happens. I feel like, when she reaches a certain age, I might as well tell her everything. She is going to be in charge of what she wants out of her sex life and I want her to be empowered and informed on all of its subjects.
10/14/2012
Contributor: libra777 libra777
Nope just learned about them on my own.
10/14/2012
Contributor: Stagger13 Stagger13
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Originally posted by liilii080
I learned a lot about sex (anatomy, diseases, etc.) from my Mom, a nurse; but in all the talks we ever had about sex she never once talked to me about toys and the role they can play in learning your body and what works for you. I plan to change ... more
Plenty of online research is how we learned.
03/12/2013
Contributor: woodsdragon woodsdragon
Pure Romance party was my introduction to toys...but the consultant gave a lot of really good information...from then on I learned from experience
03/12/2013
Contributor: Isis29 Isis29
Quote:
Originally posted by liilii080
I learned a lot about sex (anatomy, diseases, etc.) from my Mom, a nurse; but in all the talks we ever had about sex she never once talked to me about toys and the role they can play in learning your body and what works for you. I plan to change ... more
I think if I tryed to talk toys with my mom she would die lol.
03/12/2013
Contributor: novanilla novanilla
Definitely not
03/12/2013
Contributor: gloomybear gloomybear
porn taught me (sorry if that was blunt lol)
03/12/2013
Contributor: Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
Nobody told me about toys.
03/15/2013
Contributor: jennifur77 jennifur77
Just that sluts use sex toys.
03/16/2013
Contributor: snowminx snowminx
I learned about them all on my own, I don't think it's anyone's place to talk to a child about sex toys. I think it's just one of those things they need to figure out for themselves later in life. If they ask questions, fine, but not telling them about it before they ever figure out there is such a thing.
03/16/2013
Contributor: ChubbyNerd ChubbyNerd
I never had anyone tell me about them, learned from the internet!
03/16/2013
Contributor: jjdd jjdd
I learned through the internet and trying toys... Then I told my friends haha. I can't imagine talking to my mom about sex toys :/
03/16/2013
Contributor: earthmama earthmama
A friend of mine introduced me to the concept and it's been a lifesaver. I can see myself explaining this to my daughter when she is older. I want her to learn to appreciate and enjoy her body, without necessarily depending on a partner.
03/17/2013
Contributor: SneakersAndPearls SneakersAndPearls
I think I might have heard about the idea of sex toys from my sister, but briefly. As an adult, I'm generally the one educating others about sex toys. Just the other day I was telling a friend, "If the box says this, this, or this, or if has such-and-such or made by so-and-so, run."
03/17/2013
Contributor: Evgeny Kravtsov Evgeny Kravtsov
No, nobody told me anything about toys
03/19/2013
Contributor: doowop doowop
My mom and friends explained, but very minimal info. I learned mostly through the internet.
03/21/2013
Contributor: SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
No, I like to learn on my own.
03/21/2013
Contributor: Allison.Wilder Allison.Wilder
Quote:
Originally posted by liilii080
I learned a lot about sex (anatomy, diseases, etc.) from my Mom, a nurse; but in all the talks we ever had about sex she never once talked to me about toys and the role they can play in learning your body and what works for you. I plan to change ... more
Not specifically, but I learned a lot from friends and partners along the way. Most of my learning was self-taught.
03/24/2013
Contributor: spiced spiced
I received very awkward "sex talks" from both of my parents (separately), but by that time, I had already learned way more from porn, books and friends. I only saw sex toys in ads in porn magazines, or being used in porn, or occasionally for comedic effect in bad movies.

The first time I actually SAW a sex toy in person, I was 23. I went into an adult video store to buy some porn and saw realistic dildos on the shelf. I picked one up that I liked and asked the clerk if it was any good. He said, "Well, we sell a lot of those ones".

I've learned more in the last five years doing my own internet research (a lot of it on Eden) than in previous 20 years. A LOT more.
03/25/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
No one told me anything about masturbation or sex toys. I believe had I had access to reliable info about both, that I would have had a much easier time without being sexually frustrated & I would have learned to appreciate all the wonderful things my body can do & learn to love it more! (I grew up before computers & the Internet didn't come around until after college.)
03/25/2013
Contributor: TheFruitcakes TheFruitcakes
Quote:
Originally posted by liilii080
I learned a lot about sex (anatomy, diseases, etc.) from my Mom, a nurse; but in all the talks we ever had about sex she never once talked to me about toys and the role they can play in learning your body and what works for you. I plan to change ... more
i just always knew
04/17/2013
Contributor: chicmichiw chicmichiw
I didn't know a thing until Eden. Thanks, Eden!
04/17/2013
Contributor: DreezzyyBabyy DreezzyyBabyy
Nope.
04/17/2013
Contributor: evie.amor evie.amor
No, no one ever told me about sex toys I think I learned about them first through watching porn
04/17/2013
Contributor: wicked48 wicked48
No on ever told me about sex toys. I've learn a lot from the Eden website. Thanks Eden Fantasys!
04/17/2013
Contributor: summernights summernights
I found my mom's collection when I was younger and my friends and I figured it out lol! A few years later we talked about it. We are pretty open about things now.
04/18/2013