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Contributor: AU AU
I sort of learned about toys on my own, fashioning things as a toy from every day things. I am almost completely self-taught when it comes to sex, something I am kind of proud of. I know that this isn't good in a lot of households. But for me it was. My mom left school to teach me, but their approach was boring. I read a lot. My mom knew that, too. I read Clan of the Cave Bear
in elementary school. She was shocked at first, but got over it. I read a lot of her magazines, my siblings'. Sex toys, masturbation were frequent topics in them.

Somewhere along the way, I learned about phallic-shaped buzzing devices. But it was a vague sort of knowledge.

In 5th grade, I was telling a friend what my sister got our mom got for Christmas. It was some kind of innocent (or maybe she thought it was) massager--mom had a lot of tense muscles from the work she did at that time. But I described this device as a vibrator. I had heard the term before, but I didn't know what to connect it to. When I used the term, my friend's face reddened. She explained what she knew about vibrators and then I was embarrassed! Not because of what vibrators do, but because of the mistake...
01/11/2011
Contributor: Kitt Katt Kitt Katt
My husband taught me...I was such a virgin until he corrupted me
02/13/2011
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
I learned fro mmy mom. She gave me a vibrator when I was 16ish. I didn't like it, I never used it but just the fact that she gave it to me made me realize that things existed out there fore sexual pleasure but I wasn't interested in them as much at that time.
02/13/2011
Contributor: BeautiFullFigured BeautiFullFigured
I learned from Sue Johanson's sex show on tv...that and a dirty mag I found laying around the house. I was probably about seven years old at the time, but it didn't phase me a bit. It wasn't until I was about 12 that I began attempting to fashion my own dildos out of household items.
02/14/2011
Contributor: RedGoddess RedGoddess
I was never educated abnout them- that's forsure. I stumbled upon my sisters when i was younger and had the courage to buy my own when I was 18, I went into a local sex shop. Talk abnout being nervewracking!

I do alot of reading about sexual topics, and being in Nursing.
I have since then learned so much from here on eden, they have everything I needed to know.
02/18/2011
Contributor: idunshire idunshire
...I didn't even get a sex talk as a child, I got a book.

I think porn introduced me to sex toys. Though, I DID go to a porn shop for my 18th birthday with my best friends.
02/18/2011
Contributor: StephieBoo02 StephieBoo02
Nope! I learned on my own through my own curiosity, thank you Eden Fantasys
02/20/2011
Contributor: HoneyHoney HoneyHoney
My sister and I had 'the talk' which was of NO HELP. Typical sex-shame-slamming talk that doesn't really explain anything. But I got a job at Planned Parenthood and now am a sex-pert to say the least. lol
02/25/2011
Contributor: Lady Venus Lady Venus
I'm self-taught.
02/26/2011
Contributor: lkb lkb
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Originally posted by liilii080
I learned a lot about sex (anatomy, diseases, etc.) from my Mom, a nurse; but in all the talks we ever had about sex she never once talked to me about toys and the role they can play in learning your body and what works for you. I plan to change ... more
The internet and my best friend (these two are sometimes interchangeable) both taught me about sex toys and broadened my idea of sexuality.
02/26/2011
Contributor: MeliPixie MeliPixie
The only sex talk I ever actually received was in fifth grade, everyone is made to watch what we all fondly refer to as "The Video." It's a factual video about adolescence and how sexual reproduction works, and they followed it with "The Miracle Of Life," a documentary about giving birth. My school basically preached, "If you have sex you will get pregnant and die." My best girl friend had a vibrator when we were younger but because of all the scary things they taught us, it was just scary and disgusting to me, so I didn't learn until much later on while exploring with my boyfriend here at Eden
02/26/2011
Contributor: nicky51679 nicky51679
I didn't know anything about sex toys until I was 18 and my best friend showed me her vibe and took me to the toy shop and I got one for myself.
02/27/2011
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
I was on my own
02/28/2011
Contributor: countrygirl18 countrygirl18
My older sister got me into them. She taught me alot about them hahahha
03/06/2011
Contributor: Sweet-Justice Sweet-Justice
The internet taught me as well as fanfictoin.
03/29/2011
Contributor: purplekidney purplekidney
Nobody taught me about toys when I was young, but my mom told me recently that she and my dad had some paints and paintbrushes that they liked to have fun with and suggested that we get some too. Other than that, he and I have been figuring it out together.
04/04/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I never had any kind of sex talk, let alone toy talk. lol But I managed pretty well on my own, I suppose.
04/04/2011
Contributor: PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
I was given a sex book that included toys and my mom told me I should get one, but that was about all the instruction I got. Mostly I learned on my own over the years.
04/04/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
I learned most of it on my own right here. When I first started learning about toys, I didn't know anything about anything, and now I get asked questions from my friends all the time, lol.
04/04/2011
Contributor: BadgersRose BadgersRose
My mum gave me the sex toys talk.. I have been very lucky to have been raised in a pretty open house and there has never been anything shameful or dirty placed on sex or masturbation.
04/06/2011
Contributor: REDRUM REDRUM
The internet teaches me everything.
04/06/2011
Contributor: leatherjacket leatherjacket
No one told me about sex toys when I was young. I think I first learned from friends but that was much later compared to first learning and menstrual periods, sexually transmitted infections, contraception, and sexual intercourse.
04/13/2011
Contributor: Dusk Dusk
I actually learned from presentation by Good Vibes and our Sexual Health Education Program in college. They always come out and do really fun sex toy workshops in the residence halls!
04/13/2011
Contributor: Willis2011 Willis2011
I never learned from family or anything. Just figured it out myself
04/14/2011
Contributor: w-o-name w-o-name
Nobody ever taught me about it. Thats what tv and internet are for!!!
04/14/2011
Contributor: (Re)tired Stripper (Re)tired Stripper
Quote:
Originally posted by AU
I sort of learned about toys on my own, fashioning things as a toy from every day things. I am almost completely self-taught when it comes to sex, something I am kind of proud of. I know that this isn't good in a lot of households. But for me ... more
Sounds similar to my story. Clan of the Cave Bear, haha! Takes me back... I made many an object into a makeshift dildo as a young kid, and until embarrassingly recent times I was a pillow-humper. I remember my mom and dad peering into my room when I was two years old. I was humping my teddy bear, quite innocently, and recall them laughing in a particular way that made me super embarrassed.

After the teddy bear incident, I took great pains to hide my masturbation. I was super paranoid about it all of the time. Which made me want to do it even more, of course, because forbidden fruit is sweetest and all that.

I was raised Catholic and was in a Catholic school until 9th grade, when I refused to attend traditional school and decided to do "unschooling," which was basically me teaching myself what I needed to know for the ACT. I also happened to be able to take about three college courses per semester, so I did that as soon as I could. I attended a large party university, so I believe it didn't take too long before I had someone purchase me a proper sex toy, which I promptly hid in a leopard-print box I got from Target (to which I had taped "PRIVATE" and shoved under my bed; what a mom-magnet that must have been!!).
04/17/2011
Contributor: xKrystalx xKrystalx
Nope, I learned myself
04/22/2011
Contributor: socceras socceras
Quote:
Originally posted by Shellz31
The internet taught me...hehehe.
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04/25/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
i learned via the internet. i wished i learned about appropriate materials to put into the body because i think safety is obviously a priority.
09/04/2011
Contributor: ThoughtsAblaze ThoughtsAblaze
I didn't know anything about sex toys until I received one as a Secret Santa gag gift. From there, I began exploring more information about toys via the Internet, so most of my knowledge has come from the Internet.
09/04/2011