I'd be really confused since I had that taken care of.
If you found out you were pregnant today...
09/01/2012
i'd have mixed emotions. but i'd be more confused than anything since i'm a lesbian
09/01/2012
I would be surprised and a bit confused. I had a tubal years ago. Most likely it would be an ecoptic pregnancy which would have to be terminated. If by some miracle it was a viable pregnancy, my husband would be giddy with excitement. He always wanted more. After getting over the shock, I'd be happy but probably overwhelmed at the thought of doing it all over again.
09/01/2012
I'd be happy (because we do want more kids down the road), worried/anxious (partly because we are a little strapped for cash at the moment, and because pregnancies have never been particularly kind to me), and confused (Implanon, hello??).
We would also raise the child ourselves, because neither one of us can even comprehend giving it up.
We would also raise the child ourselves, because neither one of us can even comprehend giving it up.
09/01/2012
I am nowhere near ready for a baby. I'd probably abort it, because I can't afford to raise one right now, and I would feel even more guilty putting it up for adoption since there are already so many other children who need homes and are suffering in foster care.
09/02/2012
I would freak out! My husband woud too, he had a vacestomy 8 year ago and it would be totally unexpected! We would have the baby and be happy about it, but it would be a shock for sure!
09/05/2012
Totally hypothetical situation for me because I haven't had sex with a man in a few years..but if I happened to be pregnant, for whatever reason, I would seek an abortion. I don't really get along with little babies. I'd much prefer to foster or adopt a 5+ year old.
09/05/2012
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In my current situation I'd have an abortion because I would be angry, upset, anxious, and totally overwhelmed.
Originally posted by
Lildrummrgurl7
If you or your partner found out you were pregnant today, with your current life situation, how would you feel and what would you choose to do?
09/05/2012
Well, considering that my period came yesterday and I immediately felt disappointed, I'm thinking I would be happy but also overwhelmed. Every month I psych myself out confusing my PMS symptoms for pregnancy symptoms, but then Aunt Flow comes and I'm just disappointed.
09/15/2012
I don't know what I'd do! I'm not ready to parent
09/15/2012
Cat E.
I voted that I'd get an abortion. No kids for me now or ever.
09/16/2012
There is a saying I once heard "you never regret the children you have, only those you did not."
09/16/2012
Honestly, I'd be absolutely thrilled. I dream of becoming a mother, of creating life. I look forward to the experience, both the good and the bad parts of it.
At the same time, I'd be anxious and stressed/overwhelmed, because we aren't planning on having kids for another 2 or 3 years, so finding out I'm pregnant now would throw things off a bit... But we'd take it in stride.
I (we) would definitely keep the baby and raise it ourselves.
At the same time, I'd be anxious and stressed/overwhelmed, because we aren't planning on having kids for another 2 or 3 years, so finding out I'm pregnant now would throw things off a bit... But we'd take it in stride.
I (we) would definitely keep the baby and raise it ourselves.
09/16/2012
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Are you me? LOL that's me EVERY month.
Originally posted by
KittenPrincess
Well, considering that my period came yesterday and I immediately felt disappointed, I'm thinking I would be happy but also overwhelmed. Every month I psych myself out confusing my PMS symptoms for pregnancy symptoms, but then Aunt Flow comes and
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Well, considering that my period came yesterday and I immediately felt disappointed, I'm thinking I would be happy but also overwhelmed. Every month I psych myself out confusing my PMS symptoms for pregnancy symptoms, but then Aunt Flow comes and I'm just disappointed.
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09/17/2012
Been trying to conceive for 16months now with no success. In the mean time I have watched 3 friends and 2 sister-in-laws get pregnant.
09/17/2012
I would freak. We aren't in a place to do it. I would also be pissed that my birth control failed. I would keep it because we are right there on being in a secure place to do it and we are stable emotionally enough.
09/17/2012
Overwhelmed
09/17/2012
I'm sure I would be shocked but I would be able to deal with it and parent the child.
09/17/2012
Since I'm single, I'm not having sex. So I'd be very confused as to how I got pregnant, but I'd parent the child regardless.
09/17/2012
scary. I would probably seek an abortion.
09/18/2012
I'd be both overjoyed and worried because while I really, really want children of my own, my current living situation could become unstable at any moment and I wouldn't want to bring a child into this world that I would be unlikely to be able to provide for.
Maybe once things get less unpredictable though.
Maybe once things get less unpredictable though.
09/19/2012
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I would be absolutely thrilled!! We've been trying for 17 years and without insurance can't afford even the basic tests to start treatment.
Originally posted by
Lildrummrgurl7
If you or your partner found out you were pregnant today, with your current life situation, how would you feel and what would you choose to do?
09/19/2012
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I'd wonder how the fuck that happened because I only sleep with women. xD But I would abort. I'm not mentally/financially stable to raise children. I have zero maternal instincts so I'd be like those animals that abandon their babies really....sad...but true.
Originally posted by
Lildrummrgurl7
If you or your partner found out you were pregnant today, with your current life situation, how would you feel and what would you choose to do?
09/19/2012
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I'd be confused how it happened... lol
Originally posted by
Lildrummrgurl7
If you or your partner found out you were pregnant today, with your current life situation, how would you feel and what would you choose to do?
09/19/2012
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im not to happy with my current situation but i would still be happy to be pregnant before my situation got this bad i was trying to have a baby for a year and nothing so i just decided to focus on the baby i have now so just turned 5 recently lol
Originally posted by
Lildrummrgurl7
If you or your partner found out you were pregnant today, with your current life situation, how would you feel and what would you choose to do?
09/20/2012
i may not be ready but id never give them up\get rid of it
09/20/2012
I would be seriously confused because I haven't had sex with anyone who produces semen in over two years :|
09/25/2012
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And yet the pool of adopted children as opposed to the pool of children raised by their bio families is much smaller so the results are going to be skewed. Not all adopted kids feel blessed, not all of them do better than children left in their bio-parents homes on ANY test.
Originally posted by
hyacinthgirl
Yeah, those kids who are almost all there because one or another of their bio parents (usually drug-addicted, in jail, or some other reason a court has judged them unfit to keep the child in their home) has been too selfish and unconcerned for their
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Yeah, those kids who are almost all there because one or another of their bio parents (usually drug-addicted, in jail, or some other reason a court has judged them unfit to keep the child in their home) has been too selfish and unconcerned for their child's welfare to give up their parental rights. those are the kids who get ripped out of loving, wanting home if their sperm donor or incubator suddenly decides that they want their kid back, because we still have this asinine idea that blood bonds are more important than bonds of love and caring.
You hear horror stories about adoption because 'Adoptive parents love their child and raise a perfectly normal child' is not news. Scare-mongering and hate is news. I've known so many families who have tried every available recourse to adopt, including fostering older children, and watching the devastation they go through as these children are ripped from their happy, stable home lives and given back to people they don't even know. There's a reason so many Americans are going to China and Russia to get children - Chinese and Russian bio parents usually don't pop back up, demanding the loved child back. We need to get the Oliver Twist mythos out of our heads. Adoption is not cruelty or abandonment, it's not heartless, it's not unnatural, and it's not something anyone should be against. less
You hear horror stories about adoption because 'Adoptive parents love their child and raise a perfectly normal child' is not news. Scare-mongering and hate is news. I've known so many families who have tried every available recourse to adopt, including fostering older children, and watching the devastation they go through as these children are ripped from their happy, stable home lives and given back to people they don't even know. There's a reason so many Americans are going to China and Russia to get children - Chinese and Russian bio parents usually don't pop back up, demanding the loved child back. We need to get the Oliver Twist mythos out of our heads. Adoption is not cruelty or abandonment, it's not heartless, it's not unnatural, and it's not something anyone should be against. less
There are a ton of issues with adoption that aren't being brought up here and this isn't the place to discuss them. The only thing that can be said is if you don't agree with abortion DON'T HAVE ONE. Freedom of choice is our right as humans and until that fetus is an infant the body it is growing in belongs to the woman. It is HER choice and SHE will face the consequences. Unless you are willing to adopt and care for EVERY child of every woman denied the right to choose you have no right to call the women names or shame them. Unless YOU are willing to be the adopted mama of every unwanted child you don't have the right to scream you are the better person! Sure there are parents out there looking to adopt that cute little bundles of joy but are they FIT parents? You can't know and since you don't have the time to check up on EVERY SINGLE ONE of them then the point is moot.
Want to make a difference in a baby's life? Find a scared woman and pay her way until the child is born and then raise it as your own...THEN you have walked your talk. It's easy to judge...not so easy to be judged.
For the record I was told I was unfit to be an adoptive parent because I was Wiccan and we are middle income...so NO not every family who wants a baby is deemed WORTHY to have one "GIFTED" to them. Stormy is right there are children who wait for their entire childhoods for someone to be deemed worthy to parent them...ask any gay couple what I mean.
Walk a mile, people, walk a mile...
09/25/2012
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I've already voiced my opinion on the topic at hand, but they discriminated against you because of your religion? That's terrible, I can't believe that's legal.
Originally posted by
Airen Wolf
And yet the pool of adopted children as opposed to the pool of children raised by their bio families is much smaller so the results are going to be skewed. Not all adopted kids feel blessed, not all of them do better than children left in their
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And yet the pool of adopted children as opposed to the pool of children raised by their bio families is much smaller so the results are going to be skewed. Not all adopted kids feel blessed, not all of them do better than children left in their bio-parents homes on ANY test.
There are a ton of issues with adoption that aren't being brought up here and this isn't the place to discuss them. The only thing that can be said is if you don't agree with abortion DON'T HAVE ONE. Freedom of choice is our right as humans and until that fetus is an infant the body it is growing in belongs to the woman. It is HER choice and SHE will face the consequences. Unless you are willing to adopt and care for EVERY child of every woman denied the right to choose you have no right to call the women names or shame them. Unless YOU are willing to be the adopted mama of every unwanted child you don't have the right to scream you are the better person! Sure there are parents out there looking to adopt that cute little bundles of joy but are they FIT parents? You can't know and since you don't have the time to check up on EVERY SINGLE ONE of them then the point is moot.
Want to make a difference in a baby's life? Find a scared woman and pay her way until the child is born and then raise it as your own...THEN you have walked your talk. It's easy to judge...not so easy to be judged.
For the record I was told I was unfit to be an adoptive parent because I was Wiccan and we are middle income...so NO not every family who wants a baby is deemed WORTHY to have one "GIFTED" to them. Stormy is right there are children who wait for their entire childhoods for someone to be deemed worthy to parent them...ask any gay couple what I mean.
Walk a mile, people, walk a mile... less
There are a ton of issues with adoption that aren't being brought up here and this isn't the place to discuss them. The only thing that can be said is if you don't agree with abortion DON'T HAVE ONE. Freedom of choice is our right as humans and until that fetus is an infant the body it is growing in belongs to the woman. It is HER choice and SHE will face the consequences. Unless you are willing to adopt and care for EVERY child of every woman denied the right to choose you have no right to call the women names or shame them. Unless YOU are willing to be the adopted mama of every unwanted child you don't have the right to scream you are the better person! Sure there are parents out there looking to adopt that cute little bundles of joy but are they FIT parents? You can't know and since you don't have the time to check up on EVERY SINGLE ONE of them then the point is moot.
Want to make a difference in a baby's life? Find a scared woman and pay her way until the child is born and then raise it as your own...THEN you have walked your talk. It's easy to judge...not so easy to be judged.
For the record I was told I was unfit to be an adoptive parent because I was Wiccan and we are middle income...so NO not every family who wants a baby is deemed WORTHY to have one "GIFTED" to them. Stormy is right there are children who wait for their entire childhoods for someone to be deemed worthy to parent them...ask any gay couple what I mean.
Walk a mile, people, walk a mile... less
09/26/2012
Abortion. No question. I don't want to have biological children anyway, and at this point in my life it would ruin everything else.
09/27/2012