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Would you buy your mother a sex toy?

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Contributor: Polyserena Polyserena
Sooo... I don't know what time mother's day is for most of you, but here in Australia it is coming up pretty quickly. I don't really know what my mum wants for mothers day, but I seem to get her something similar every year.

I've been thinking that if there was ever a gift she might actually have a great time with, it would be a great vibrator. As far as I know she doesn't use one. She's not internet savvy and I can't see her venturing into a sex shop. I can imagine mothers buying their teen daughters a vibe. But in general I've never had a relationship like that with my mum. I'm not meant to imagine my parents as sexual beings, am I? I don't even know if my dad would be happy about my mum getting a vibe, and he'd probably wonder where she'd got it, lol! Could open a whole tin of worms!

Still I can't help but think it is an awesome concept. A gift of a good vibe seems to be something just so much more, for so many reasons. I'm guessing whatever I get for her would have to be non-intimidating, luxury, pretty and discreet.

I hope I haven't made you all scream internally with the concept. This is a pretty fresh thought right now and I'm pretty happy making my own decision. But I thought I'd open your minds and get your thoughts on whether you'd buy a sex toy for your own mum.

Private voting, but feel free to post your comments.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes, I think that is a great idea!
60
No way, that would be too strange.
160
She doesn't need MY help picking out sex toys!
27
I've bought my mum a sex toy(s) before.
13
I don't know. Maybe one day.
32
I don't think it would be appreciated.
85
Total votes: 377 (288 voters)
Poll is closed
04/22/2010
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Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
Hell to the yes. She doesn't get laid enough. I think she'd be more pleasant if she had one. It's more for humanity's sake than her own pleasure.
04/22/2010
Contributor: GNGenie GNGenie
Ditto VieuxCarre. My mother is driving me up the wall and I plan to get her a high quality vibe for her birthday so she can stop being such a bitch.
04/22/2010
Contributor: Elodie Elodie
I think it's a great idea, especially because my mom's been under a lot of pressure lately. But I'm afraid she might take it as an insult to her husband, because he and I don't get along. I'd be more likely to get her a gift card, though.
04/22/2010
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
Quote:
Originally posted by Elodie
I think it's a great idea, especially because my mom's been under a lot of pressure lately. But I'm afraid she might take it as an insult to her husband, because he and I don't get along. I'd be more likely to get her a gift card, though.
I don't get along with my mom's husband either. The problem is that I don't mind insulting him. I hope she uses the gift card!
04/22/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
A gift card and you at her elbow to help the process along might be less threatening.
04/22/2010
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
I honestly hadn't considered this at all before but...it's not a bad idea! My mom is actually having some hormonal issues from her hysterectomy a couple of years ago and I think introducing a toy and/or a great lubricant would be a great thing for her (and her boyfriend) right now.
04/22/2010
Contributor: Hannah Savage Hannah Savage
For me, I think it's just too weird. My mother is quite open and I'm sure she wouldn't mind receiving a nice, high-quality vibe... but I'm not so sure that I don't mind sending her one. I know she uses/has some toys... Who knows, maybe one day.
04/22/2010
Contributor: Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
I've often been tempted, but then reality gets in the way. My mother is very shy, easily embarrassed, and isn't exactly what you would call "sex positive". She owns a freaking back massager that looks like a drugstore Hitachi knockoff and I am 99.8% sure that she uses it AS A BACK MASSAGER. If I got her something really nice and vibratey and told her what it was actually for? She'd probably tell me that I've been tainted by society and blah blah blah... more trouble than it's worth.
04/22/2010
Contributor: Elodie Elodie
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
A gift card and you at her elbow to help the process along might be less threatening.
I just sent her an e-mail linking to EF to see what her reaction was: she replied "cute". But of course she insists that she doesn't want me spending money on her . If nothing else, I have a feeling she'll be getting something for herself and/or from her husband from here in the future.
04/22/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
If I didn't get her a toy I would definitely get her a gift card. But we have a weird relationship and buying sex toys just isn't that weird, lol
04/22/2010
Contributor: Luscious Lily Luscious Lily
If I thought she would actually use it, I'd go buy my mom a really good, high-quality vibrator right now. Unfortunately, she's one of those people who is convinced to her core that sex toys are bad/evil/disgusting/pe rverted, and just plain icky. Right now, she'd freak and never use it. Hopefully someday this will change... she seriously needs more orgasms.
04/22/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
I think its a great idea BUT I still think it would be weird. My mom probably hasn't had sex with my dad in...oh idk...10 years? I should get them both sex toys so they aren't so grumpy all the time lol.
04/22/2010
Contributor: Sir Sir
I would, but I do not think that it would be appreciated. I would, if it would make her and my father work out. Other than that, no, I wouldn't.
04/22/2010
Contributor: Hannah Savage Hannah Savage
Quote:
Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
I think its a great idea BUT I still think it would be weird. My mom probably hasn't had sex with my dad in...oh idk...10 years? I should get them both sex toys so they aren't so grumpy all the time lol.
Really 10 years? Or is that just what you would LIKE to think??

Yeah I think I am tainted by hearing my mom and step-dad through the heating vents, so my answer is a bit biased I'm sure. I think we all want our mom's to feel pretty and good about themselves, and a good vibrator can help along the way, but I'll stick to flowers and cards for now.
04/22/2010
Contributor: KBToys24 KBToys24
I probably should. Poor woman hasn't gotten any in.. err... 15.. 20 years???? That's INSANE to think of. I'd die if I went that long without it.
04/22/2010
Contributor: Luscious Lily Luscious Lily
I guess my mom's lucky, then... while it may not be often, she and my other parent (transitioning MTF, makes figuring what noun to use frustratingly difficult) DO still get it on sometimes.
04/22/2010
Contributor: Robin Goodfellow Robin Goodfellow
Though my Mom has never mentioned it to me.. During a woman talk she had with my girlfriend about Vag health, UTI's and such in relation to.. well.. she told her she has sex everyday and has for 25 years. So hooray for Vag health. lol, I can't imagine why she didn't tell me that. Anyways I don't think she needs a sex toy from me, sounds like she's got it covered. After all it is Mothers Day, not Spinster Day.. I think shes got it pretty well figured out.
04/22/2010
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
Nope. I can't even imagine it. She didn't have one for 56 years of marriage, and it'd just be too weird to even suggest such a thing to her now. I think it's great that some of you can consider it, though
04/22/2010
Contributor: GNGenie GNGenie
Quote:
Originally posted by Hannah Savage
Really 10 years? Or is that just what you would LIKE to think??

Yeah I think I am tainted by hearing my mom and step-dad through the heating vents, so my answer is a bit biased I'm sure. I think we all want our mom's to feel pretty ... more
Mine flat out told me the other day it'd been 8 years. Part of me was mortified that she shared, but another part thought "No wonder you're such a pain!"
04/23/2010
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
I would love to get a toy for my mother but I think it would make her feel uncomfortable. I know she has seen some of my toys, she moved some around, but she never mentioned it, perhaps she was uncomfortable or waiting for me to say something.
Next time I see her, I think I wiil bring toys up. In my teen years she was very open about sex and when she cought me masturbating....she said to take it easy and not hurt myself. (I was banging against the wall in my bedroom)
04/23/2010
Contributor: Jenn (aka kissmykitty) Jenn (aka kissmykitty)
(EdenFantasys)
It's funny that I should come across this poll tonight, because my mom's birthday is in two days and I've been thinking about giving her a $50 Eden Fantasys gift card. She has been divorced & single for 9+ years, so yeah... she could use something fun haha.

Plus she has hinted to me about being curious, and has also mentioned the fact that she has never owned much less tried a sex toy, so yeah... I think I'll be giving her a gift card!
04/24/2010
Contributor: Evoluchun Evoluchun
Quote:
Originally posted by Polyserena
Sooo... I don't know what time mother's day is for most of you, but here in Australia it is coming up pretty quickly. I don't really know what my mum wants for mothers day, but I seem to get her something similar every year. ... more
i think it would be a great idea my problem is finding something basic for my mom because she has seen some of what I like and says its way too over the top for her even though she has never used one before.
04/26/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by Jenn (aka kissmykitty)
It's funny that I should come across this poll tonight, because my mom's birthday is in two days and I've been thinking about giving her a $50 Eden Fantasys gift card. She has been divorced & single for 9+ years, so yeah... she could ... more
What a lovely birthday present!
04/27/2010
Contributor: Polyserena Polyserena
Quote:
Originally posted by Evoluchun
i think it would be a great idea my problem is finding something basic for my mom because she has seen some of what I like and says its way too over the top for her even though she has never used one before.
I feel the same way, I don't want to scare my mum with something huge or fluorescent, but I want her to think it's lovely too. I've been thinking about buying my mum a jimmyjane little chroma, but I want mine first! They're beautiful. Maybe something like that would work for your mum because the style does not seem intimidating at all.

I think some of the cheaper traditional vibes I've had my eye on would be suitable too: the jimmyjane iconic smoothie still looks good quality and non-intimidating and doesn't seem to have a hugely distracting noise level. Simialrly the doc johnson little pearls looks about the similar comes in lots of colours. The doc johnson velvet touch might be good too, and from the reviews the texture sounds nice. The waterproof tubo glider blueberry is a similar size and has been praised a lot in reviews but seems a lot more 'out there' in terms of noise level and colour and quietness is high on my list of priorities. I think the traditional shape is great because it can easily be used internally or externally, but these are just thoughts. I'm sure there are way more out there that would be great.

I also like the gift card idea! I'm now considering that too!
04/27/2010
Contributor: clp clp
I voted no, but now that gift card idea seems completely feasible...

I found my mom's vibrator when I was little (don't ask; long story short, it ended up in a Barbie dress) so I know there must be something going on there... but the idea of having a conversation with my prim and proper mom about this makes me lock doors and hide under covers. I always tell myself, 'they are humans, they have the same needs as everyone else,' but once they start talking sex I immediately, almost uncontrollably dart out of the room.

Sorry, mom and dad--I could give you a wealth of information, too, if you just weren't you!
04/27/2010
Contributor: Gary Gary
I have a very uncomfortable and conservative personal view on this topic, but I do really like the gift card idea. The gift card is like a built in safety zone.
04/27/2010
Contributor: Elodie Elodie
Quote:
Originally posted by Gary
I have a very uncomfortable and conservative personal view on this topic, but I do really like the gift card idea. The gift card is like a built in safety zone.
You could tell yourself she's just getting bubble bath! Maybe a little massage oil.
04/27/2010
Contributor: Gary Gary
Quote:
Originally posted by Elodie
You could tell yourself she's just getting bubble bath! Maybe a little massage oil.
Exactly!
04/28/2010
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
If I thought she wouldn't be offended? Totally. I think it could go one of two ways. First scenario: she thinks it's awesome and even kind of funny and loves it. Second scenario: she goes ACK SEX TOYS, WEIRD ALIEN OBJECTS STAY AWAY FROM MY BODY!

But now you've got me seriously considering getting her some kind of gift. What could I even get her? Some kind of vibrator?

This post is making all kinds of mischief!
04/28/2010