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Contributor: Elaira Elaira
give a blowjob?

I mean, to me, it seems like there really is no way to be romantic about it. Sure, the favor can be romantic, but the act doesn't seem as such.

So, what do you think?
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Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
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I feel like the connection is romantic, and if you take it slow can be really sweet, but that it really depends on the couple!
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Contributor: Ava5 Ava5
You should watch the movie Kama Sutra and you might get some ideas about how to be seductive and romantic while leading up to that.


^ exactly what they said. If you just jump right into it, it's not going to be romantic. But you can go slow and tease them and seduce them, plus this will help you feel more connected.
08/21/2011
Contributor: Elaira Elaira
What I was talking about was the act, itself. I mean, to me, it's an unromantic act with all the slurping and such.
08/21/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
Oh I think it can most definitely be romantic. You can try to avoid slurping, if that seems unromantic. Lots of tongue, and going slow, taking breaks to give kisses, looking in his eyes, etc are all romantic things to do, and make the mood more romantic. I've explained to my man what kind of a mood I have to be in to give him a blow job, so it's just kind of understood now that it is a VERY romantic, sensual act between the 2 of us. And afterwards there are lots of "I love yous" and kisses, reinforcing the romantic feel of it.

So yes, to me, it's a very romantic thing to do. The way it's done in most porn is NOT romantic, but in real life it is to me, when done right. But I'm sure it's different for everyone.
08/21/2011
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Yup, when you take your time with it. Kissing on the thighs, near the penis, just making it sweet and gentle
08/21/2011
Contributor: Sunshineamine Sunshineamine
Yeah if you just make love to him with your mouth then it can be.
08/21/2011
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
The connection between the two people is what makes it romantic.

If there's any level of disrespect then it's completely ruined, I have been forced into giving blow jobs and then left as if it was the only thing I was good for, so it's very very very hard for me to say that it's romantic, but I know that with my current love it is.
08/21/2011
Contributor: Paladin Fantasys Paladin Fantasys
Technique makes all the difference between merely "sucking a dick" and sensual, romantic, oral pleasuring.

Ironically, slow, lingering, firm suction on the glans is the most pleasing part of sensual oral play.

Something similar can be said about "eating pussy" vs slow, sensual, oral, clitoral stimulation.
08/21/2011
Contributor: Linga Linga
I giess for me when I want it to be more romantic it's just slower, more sensual, more about prolonging the sensations than making him cum. I like to tease and lap and go from his mouth to down there several times, eye contact, use my hands on his thighs , belly and chest. I make sure to tell him I love him during and his member too.
08/21/2011
Contributor: Avant-garde Avant-garde
Yes, watch videos from "the art of blowjob" its done with camille crimson and her partner mike. She does an awesome BJ.
08/21/2011
Contributor: The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
As a few people have already said, a romantic blowjob isn't about getting off, it's about the connection between the giver and the receiver.
08/21/2011
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
Quote:
Originally posted by Linga
I giess for me when I want it to be more romantic it's just slower, more sensual, more about prolonging the sensations than making him cum. I like to tease and lap and go from his mouth to down there several times, eye contact, use my hands on ... more
Same for us,

If I want it to be romantic (and I try...it just doesn't cut it for him,lol) I go slow, I lick up and down, breathe on him hot and cold, kiss his balls, inner thighs, the head, etc.

But most of the time it is passionate, more than romantic. He likes it when I work it like I am trying to create a sculpture with every inch of my mouth. Slow and romantic makes him impatient, which is fine. I love being passionate with his cock, me and his cock have a great relationship
08/22/2011
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
I think it can be romantic. I love to look into Bayo's eyes while I'm doing it, go slow, work my tongue....you know, things I like him to do to me.
08/22/2011
Contributor: Elaira Elaira
Apparently I'm the only one who finds it to be different. Haha!

My roommate and I just had this discussion, actually. We both agreed that there's a romantic side to it, and then there's actually trying to get the person off. Those two things don't really seem to go together.

Interestingly enough, it's not something I've done too often until recently.
08/22/2011
Contributor: Linga Linga
Quote:
Originally posted by Naughty Student
Same for us,

If I want it to be romantic (and I try...it just doesn't cut it for him,lol) I go slow, I lick up and down, breathe on him hot and cold, kiss his balls, inner thighs, the head, etc.

But most of the time it is ... more
" me and his cock have a great relationship " Haha! I LOVE that. I know what you mean, eventually we both get to to the point where I can't take it any longer and want my liquid prize or he just "needs" to pump my mouth full and that takes over, every time... but we like to see how long it takes sometimes.
08/22/2011
Contributor: cheetahpita cheetahpita
apparently I haven't met the right guy yet? lol. It's never been very romantic to me - then again, I wouldn't consider him going down on me romantic either. It's messy and sometimes there's a lot of effort required to get a guy off. There's always the sense of satisfaction when you've done it, but romantic? Give me a candlelit dinner instead.
08/22/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by cheetahpita
apparently I haven't met the right guy yet? lol. It's never been very romantic to me - then again, I wouldn't consider him going down on me romantic either. It's messy and sometimes there's a lot of effort required to get a guy ... more
For My Man and I, every act that pleases either one (ie both) of us is unquestionably romantic. Pleasing him pleases ME, so it is "romantic." Of course, I'm a realist. I don't expect a Kathryn Heigel laced Pretty Woman type scenario from real life, so I am rarely disappointed in the "romance" department.

I am not a "romantic" person, instead preferring to be realistic and often raw. But, yes, the act of orally pleasuring a man can and is very "romantic." Also, any form of cunnilingus is romantic.

It's how you look at it, now what you do.

A "candle light dinner" can be far from romantic, if the sentiment isn't there. A all out no holds barred, nasty, slippery, growl filled oral sex session can often if not always be romantic.

People who expect the unrealistic are often disappointed. Put love in what you do and the "romance" will be there.

My suggestion: STOP watching "Romantic Comedies" they give people (actually usually women) a false sense of what to expect from heterosexual relationships. Expect men to act like.. men. When one stop expecting life to be like a movie or a reality TV show, life flows more smoothly. If LOVE is there, romance is also there.
08/22/2011
Contributor: js250 js250
Quote:
Originally posted by Elaira
give a blowjob?

I mean, to me, it seems like there really is no way to be romantic about it. Sure, the favor can be romantic, but the act doesn't seem as such.

So, what do you think?
Eye contact and occasionally slow sexy winks while you slowly run your tongue around the head its underside is an amazing start for me. Use your breasts, also. Slide one or both of them along the shaft, licking his tip when it pops through on top. Lick your lips slowly and nibble on the shaft. Show lots of tongue, eye contact, breasts and give a few light moans. Gets mine off after a couple of reps!!
08/22/2011
Contributor: Elaira Elaira
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
Eye contact and occasionally slow sexy winks while you slowly run your tongue around the head its underside is an amazing start for me. Use your breasts, also. Slide one or both of them along the shaft, licking his tip when it pops through on top. ... more
Haha. I wish my boobs were big enough to be able to pull that off.
08/22/2011
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
I think generally, no, it isn't very romantic. However, it can be with some work!
08/23/2011
Contributor: guard083 guard083
It could be
08/23/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
I feel like it depends on your definition of romantic. For some folks maybe a blowjob prefaced by wine and steak and a candlelit dinner is romantic? Or one with poetic words, or where you ggaze into his eyes romantically?
But then personally I'm not big into the whole "romance" thing, and for me a fast-and-furious wet, almost-no£oom-to-breat he blowjob is just as intimate as a slow and sensual one would be for someone else.
08/23/2011
Contributor: MeliPixie MeliPixie
Sure it can be! ^_^
08/23/2011
Contributor: jg19 jg19
Quote:
Originally posted by Ryuson
I feel like the connection is romantic, and if you take it slow can be really sweet, but that it really depends on the couple!
I think so as well i mean its a womens mouth on a mans penis. Sounds romantic to me any type of sex can be done romantically. Sometimes you just need to slow down and use all your senses when having sex. Every touch, smell, and taste can all enhance the mood imo.
08/23/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Elaira
give a blowjob?

I mean, to me, it seems like there really is no way to be romantic about it. Sure, the favor can be romantic, but the act doesn't seem as such.

So, what do you think?
As we both sit here, my hubby is stammering for words trying to answer this...since he says specifically, and HAS said way before this, "you give the most SENSUAL and ROMANTIC oral loving I could ever imagine".

I LOOK UP and LOOK HIM IN THE EYE when doing oral on him. I START at his lips and work my way down...sometimes over the course of almost an hour, with licks and kisses. NO RUSH...lots of SENSUAL ROMANCE.

I may comment on how I LOVE the feel of his nipples between my lips, and then will tell him how I long to taste his cum on my tongue after I have given him some long, slow loving.

Oh my....yes indeed, oral can be INCREDIBLY sensual and INCREDIBLY romantic.

A BLOW JOB, is a "JOB". Giving your man some serious ORAL LOVE is another thing altogether.

TRY IT, you'll like it.

ENJOY!!!!
08/23/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Naughty Student
Same for us,

If I want it to be romantic (and I try...it just doesn't cut it for him,lol) I go slow, I lick up and down, breathe on him hot and cold, kiss his balls, inner thighs, the head, etc.

But most of the time it is ... more
WOW...thank you. LOVE the imagery of the "sculpturing with my mouth" part. I am going to try that one on him TONIGHT. I feel the same about my hubby's parts as you do your guys. Let me add that when you treat them that way, you KNOW they are coming home to YOU...always.
08/23/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
Yup, when you take your time with it. Kissing on the thighs, near the penis, just making it sweet and gentle
You can do it to the point of driving them wild with anticipation actually.
08/23/2011
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
Quote:
Originally posted by Elaira
What I was talking about was the act, itself. I mean, to me, it's an unromantic act with all the slurping and such.
I totally agree with you!
08/23/2011