Not having orgasms once in a while doesn't bother me. The last time was because hubby didn't get to have sex with me for over two weeks. He wasn't able to wait for me to come first and he had to ejaculate. I'll usually jokingly tell him he owes me one.
Ladies, what is your reaction if you want to have an orgasm but can't/don't?
08/20/2010
I actually dont even try to have an orgasm during sex. I enjoy penetration enough that it is satisfying on its own. Im fine with just having an orgasm when I am by myself when I can take my time and really enjoy all the sensations. But that is because I have scar tissue from an injury over my clit and often it hurts to have anyone else stimulate me that way.
If I am about to climax though thru sex and it doesnt happen I do get bummed out. But only a little.
If I am about to climax though thru sex and it doesnt happen I do get bummed out. But only a little.
08/20/2010
I only get upset if I'm all revved up and ready to go and I don't get to have sex. That is no good. That ruins my whole day.
08/25/2010
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Me too. I've been all ready, I think he's ready. I go into the bathroom to brush teeth, straighten my stockings, fix myself etc. I get back in the bedroom.......and he's sound asleep, with his dick in his hand. WTF? "You couldn't stay awake for 10 minutes?"
Originally posted by
Persephone's Addiction
I only get upset if I'm all revved up and ready to go and I don't get to have sex. That is no good. That ruins my whole day.
He's impossible to wake up when he first falls asleep, so this is a real issue for us.
08/26/2010
I usually don't really worry about it, I never ever wanted to pressure my partner or make him feel as if he wasn't satisfying me. Now that we have been together longer if I am really in the mood for an orgasm, I need it to be relieved or else I will still be super aroused for the rest of the day. So I get disappointed if I can't orgasm during sex at times, because I feel like I need that release.
08/26/2010
I am frustrated and sometimes keep trying but pressure doesn't always work.
I will grab a vibe but try not to make my b/f feel inadequate.
I will grab a vibe but try not to make my b/f feel inadequate.
08/26/2010
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I promised my wife that I would never so no! It's midnight and I have a 6 AM flight - I suck it up and go for it! And yes I have been awakened from a sound sleep to 'deliver'.
Originally posted by
P'Gell
Me too. I've been all ready, I think he's ready. I go into the bathroom to brush teeth, straighten my stockings, fix myself etc. I get back in the bedroom.......and he's sound asleep, with his dick in his hand. WTF? "You couldn't
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Me too. I've been all ready, I think he's ready. I go into the bathroom to brush teeth, straighten my stockings, fix myself etc. I get back in the bedroom.......and he's sound asleep, with his dick in his hand. WTF? "You couldn't stay awake for 10 minutes?"
He's impossible to wake up when he first falls asleep, so this is a real issue for us. less
He's impossible to wake up when he first falls asleep, so this is a real issue for us. less
On the other hand, if she's not in the mood or asleep - nothings going to happen - except maybe a hand-job - which of course is better than doing it myself!
That's the price you pay when you are the more sexual of the pairing.
08/26/2010
I would only get made if I could have but my partner didn't really care to finish. But that is rarely the case in our relationship, my hubby loves me to cum, so its usually a guarantee that I get off!
08/29/2010
Never give up, I say. Take no prisoners!!
If I was unable to get off with my partner, I usually just have at it while the moment is still there. They usually like watching in the afterglow--I've never been with someone that got upset about it. And dammit, if you get your rocks off, so do I!!
If I was unable to get off with my partner, I usually just have at it while the moment is still there. They usually like watching in the afterglow--I've never been with someone that got upset about it. And dammit, if you get your rocks off, so do I!!
08/29/2010
Hm, when I'm with someone, I don't usually even consider orgasm as a possible factor... just enjoy the sensations and don't get upset over not orgasming.
But every now and then, outside of the bedroom, I'll start to feel flawed because I don't ever orgasm when someone else is present. It's frustrating, because I enjoy everything as it's happening, but somehow I never get there.
However, on my own, I can do just fine! If I don't finish alone, it's usually because I'm too tired or ran out of time (if it's the middle of the day lol). Those moments, I just shrug my shoulders, feel frustrated physically but get over it.
But every now and then, outside of the bedroom, I'll start to feel flawed because I don't ever orgasm when someone else is present. It's frustrating, because I enjoy everything as it's happening, but somehow I never get there.
However, on my own, I can do just fine! If I don't finish alone, it's usually because I'm too tired or ran out of time (if it's the middle of the day lol). Those moments, I just shrug my shoulders, feel frustrated physically but get over it.
09/03/2010
The times it has been difficult or impossible for me to orgasm were when I was extremely depressed or anxious. Those are the only factors I can pin consistently on the problem.
09/03/2010
If I'm not having an orgasm, there's usually some psychological reason-- mostly stress. In those cases, I'm too busy being stressed to really care about the non-orgasm. Very occasionally, it just physically doesn't happen for me, but it's so rare that I usually just shrug it off.
09/11/2010
I don't have a partner, so unfortunately the only one left to get angry at is my self. So I do, liberally.
09/12/2010
I find that just clearing my mind of everything and focusing on the sensations that I am feeling, every last nerve in my mind, I can usually have a really good one 99.9% of the time. I imagine as I age this will change, but for now it works wonders!
09/23/2010
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I think I should start actively trying this. Hopefully it'll work for me.
Originally posted by
Kim!
I find that just clearing my mind of everything and focusing on the sensations that I am feeling, every last nerve in my mind, I can usually have a really good one 99.9% of the time. I imagine as I age this will change, but for now it works wonders!
09/23/2010
I personally will try until I get off, conveniently it's not difficult considering I own a hitachi, 30 seconds with that power tool and done.
09/23/2010
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That's how I am most of the time, but there's one person that I've been able to cum with, and it's AMAZING. Everyone else, I sort of just expect that they won't be able to so I'm not disappointed when it doesn't happen. And hey, I enjoy sex and the moments during anyway.. so what if I'm not exactly seeing stars? I'm still having fun fucking important and interesting people from around the world.
Originally posted by
aleong
Well this is embarrassing, but I can only orgasm when I'm using my vibrator and watching porn at the same time. I just can't orgasm when I'm having sex. There are times where I'm really close, and I can feel it, but it just disappears.
09/24/2010
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If I don't get to cum, I don't see a reason to get all upset I know I will end up having sex pretty soon so I will always have another chance to cum!
Originally posted by
P'Gell
As women, some of us don't have orgasms every time we have sex, or every time we want to. What is your reaction to NOT being able to come?
It never used to bother me, as I knew it would happen next time. Now, it's more difficult and I ... more
It never used to bother me, as I knew it would happen next time. Now, it's more difficult and I ... more
As women, some of us don't have orgasms every time we have sex, or every time we want to. What is your reaction to NOT being able to come?
It never used to bother me, as I knew it would happen next time. Now, it's more difficult and I cry, like a baby, sometimes or worry my ass off until the next time it happens. less
It never used to bother me, as I knew it would happen next time. Now, it's more difficult and I cry, like a baby, sometimes or worry my ass off until the next time it happens. less
09/24/2010
It's a pretty rare occasion where I'm not able to finish. So I don't really get too upset when it does happen. Unless of course I was on the brink and just for whatever reason cannot get that final push....then I get mildly upset..
10/12/2010
its a little upsetting but theres always a next time
10/12/2010
Its hard for me. So when my man is working really hard and I know I won't orgasm I am satisfied with leaving it at that. I have so much pleasure from sex with my partner, especially if he makes me squirt like crazy. Orgasm isnt always neccessary but when I have one its awesome.
10/20/2010
Get out the vibrator and force him to do it!!!! I gtet moody if I don't get mine. He actually enjoys me getting rough with him. LOL
10/23/2010
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It happens to me too. I once went over a year being unable to climax. No matter how long I went or how much effort went into it I would get tantalizingly close but would never get there. I hated sex that year. It made me sad and angry every time.
Originally posted by
P'Gell
Yeah, I guess I have issues.
Fortunately, whatever was going on with me has rectified itself and I am good to go now.
10/24/2010
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yeah, if it ever comes down to i want an orgasm and it's not happening any other way, the hitachi comes out and i'm happy in short order.
Originally posted by
Madeira
I personally will try until I get off, conveniently it's not difficult considering I own a hitachi, 30 seconds with that power tool and done.
10/24/2010
ehhh i get it on till i cant move no more, orgasm or no orgasm
11/05/2010
I really sort of hate losing my O, but usually I just shake it off and go on about my day... and try again later
11/05/2010
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Just relax its not the right time and it will happen again
Originally posted by
P'Gell
As women, some of us don't have orgasms every time we have sex, or every time we want to. What is your reaction to NOT being able to come?
It never used to bother me, as I knew it would happen next time. Now, it's more difficult and I ... more
It never used to bother me, as I knew it would happen next time. Now, it's more difficult and I ... more
As women, some of us don't have orgasms every time we have sex, or every time we want to. What is your reaction to NOT being able to come?
It never used to bother me, as I knew it would happen next time. Now, it's more difficult and I cry, like a baby, sometimes or worry my ass off until the next time it happens. less
It never used to bother me, as I knew it would happen next time. Now, it's more difficult and I cry, like a baby, sometimes or worry my ass off until the next time it happens. less
11/11/2010
i have never orgasamed during sex. it makes me really upset
11/14/2010
My poor husband gets upset it kills him but it's not him. Sometimes I do get so frustrated I cry...
11/17/2010
I'm like The Little Engine that Could.
11/17/2010