Um, it think it is a little more complicated than that. It is not like when the female is done receiving, the guy should be obligated to turn over and be, "OK, your turn to do me, it is only fair." If the female doesn't feel comfortable pegging and if the guy doesn't want to be pegged, it should not happen. I enjoy anal activity now, but I admit, it started more as a do it for him thing, but now I REALLY enjoy it. My husband on the other hand would never want to be pegged and therefore, I would never tell him, "Well, you did me, my turn to do you."

I've always prescribed to this way of thinking. If my wife is willing to do something I want, I should be willing to do it in return.

Depends...but he enjoys me pegging him.

Definitely...prob is most women won't want to do that or it won't convince them otherwise.

maybe he'll like it

Depends, if they both want to sure. But it shouldn't be an obligation.

I was very young and very foolish once. The thought of inserting my rigid manhood into a woman's tight anus and plumbing the depths of her rectal cavern was overwhelmingly enticing. I tried it with a condom on & there was very limited sensation. My previously rock hard sazeech went limp and when, I pulled out of her wondrous vestibule, I was barely able to extricate my condom. I thought to myself, "fuck it, don't be just a hygienic impotent pussy-boy, fuck that ass bareback!" I worked up my hard-on back to rigidity and entered the woman's KY-smeared anal Adventureland. It was heaven! I felt her anal sphincter offer resistance and then yield to my firm pressure. The tightness of her butthole served to stimulate my cock to a state of rigidity I had previously never experienced. When I came, it was with such gusto that it felt as if my brains had become liquid and shot out of my body through my pee-hole. I actually felt as if I had accomplished something worth accomplishing. Then, I pulled my proud phallus out of the young lady's commodious rectum and, lo and behold, it had a big glob of shit attached to my glans. I was a romantic at heart and, for some crazy reason, had entertained the notion that a good-looking woman's shit doesn't stink like a man's. Well, I lost THAT misapprehension right there and then. I ran to the young lady's bathroom and wiped my stinking cock off with toilet paper and stood over the bowl praying that I would be able to piss out any shit that had penetrated into my urethra. I felt blessed, when almost instantly, I took a good hearty piss. I was shocked when initially my piss came out brown. "Oh, sweet Jesus", I thought, "there's shit in my cock. Will I be able to piss it all out? My brown piss turned light brown and then assumed it's regular yellow coloration. I washed my shitty penis thoroughly in her sink. The young lady was sniffing amyl-nitrate when I exited her bathroom and she ran in to take a shower without even a word of apology for having had shit up her ass and ruining my lovely experience. For days I drank prodigious amounts of water and pissed prodigious amounts of nice bright yellow piss. I think the pleasure of pissing normally exceeded the pleasure I had felt stretching that young lady's willing sphincter. I felt like I had avoided some dire misfortune and grew a little smug, almost like I just might want to perform another rectal reconnaissance. Suddenly, after a number of days, I awakened and went to my bathroom to take my customary wake-up piss. My urethra burned like the fires of hell as I emptied my burgeoning bladder. My genital region burned all day at work as I strove to perform my job responsibilities. And it burned the next day and the next. I prayed morning and night promising God and Jesus, Mary and Joseph, with all sincerity that, if I got over this curse, I would never, never, NEVER seek to penetrate another woman's anus. I went to the first urolgist with whom I could get an appointment. He listened to my tale of woe and then stuck his finger up my ass and palpated my prostate until he forced me to ejaculate. Quick as a bunny, he got a smear of my afflicted cum on a glass specimen slide and observed it with a microscope. His diagnosis was that I was suffering from a urinary tract infection. He advised that these infections are extremely difficult to cure. He prescribed peridium which soothed the urinary tract but did not cure the infection. He prescribed the first of a series of antibiotics that didn't accomplish anything and told me to take "hot sits-baths". Every day, after returning to my apartment from a day of suffering at work, I would get my ass into a bathtub of steaming water. I had pleny of time, while sitting in the tub, to reflect on whether my anal excursion was worth the price I was paying. Eventually, over a period of several months, the burning pain subsided in intensity and then finally disappeared. I have kept my promise to God, Jesus, Mary and Joseph and, in all the years since this experience, I haven't succumbed to anal lust again. There are times when I almost fell off of the anal sex wagon but the memory of that experience has served to keep me from succumbing. I hope this narrative will help others avoid the pain I endured.

no one should ever be forced into doing anything they're uncomfortable with. male or female.

I agree with all who have said that nothing in a relationship should be forced, by spoken or unspoken obligation. I told my husband the very first time we tried anal how uncomfortable it could be and he listened. It still hurts a bit, but he has learned to go slower and let me adjust. He always asks my permission before attempting it. As far as pegging, he recognized that it was one of my fantasies and volunteered.

If hubby ever tried to force me to do something, we would have a serious issue. I would, at the very least, consider couples therapy. I expect he would have the same reaction if I tried to force him into anything. It isn't respectful to your partner. It's demeaning, cruel, and just the opposite of love in a lot of ways.

There's no one answer for every relationship. If the girl says that she will allow him to have anal sex with her but only if he allows her to perform it on him then that's her choice. If that's the only way she feels comfortable with doing it, I don't think that it is unreasonable to set as a condition.

I prescribe to this reasoning actually. I know for a fact that I am not a fan of anal. I'll put up with it if it's something my partner REALLY wants, but not before they find out what it feels like first. I also happen to like pegging.

I don't get offended if he wants anal from me; I'm happy to oblige!

If my wife wants me to do anal to her, I think it would only be fair if she does anal to me, that is if she's comfortable with it and she choose's to do so.

I don't think a guy necessarily has to allow a girl to peg him just because he wants to have anal sex with her. In the end it's all about what the parties involved are comfortable with.

The Dan Savage rule - if a guy wants to put his penis in a girl's ass, then he needs to be willing to let her put something of equal size in his so he can know what it feels like.

That said, not every couple who's into male-on-female anal is into pegging, and it's something every couple has to navigate for themselves.

obviously there shouldn't be any obligations to reciprocate things in relationships, it should be more comfortable and natural than that. BUT, there's a big issue with the male-female power dynamic that causes men to feel entitled to male-on-female anal sex.
it's reflected in mainstream porn, where male on female anal is completely normalized while pegging is still considered "kinky".

that being said, i think men who have a society bred sense of dominance over women during sex and men who are opposed to pegging while feeling entitled to topping are in the same group. I think that's an attitude that needs to be examined.

During discussion couples need to throw away their preconceptions and focus only on their unique needs, and never feel obligated to do anything they don't want to do...but i feel the "obligation" is disproportionately on the woman's side.

I don't think there's a one size fits all answer; it's going to be different for every person. In general, I don't think anyone should be forced to do something that they're not comfortable with. Everyone has different comfort levels and different limits. I do think that a man who constantly demands that a woman have anal sex with him when she's not comfortable with it needs to take a step back and think about whether he himself would be comfortable being pegged by that a woman. Both partners need to do what's best for their needs and their comfort and neither should force the other into an act that they don't want.

I think it's only fair! I agree.

I'm sort of surprised at the disparity between how many votes say yes of course he should be open to penetration but all the comments that seem to understand that sex isn't a tit-for-tat situation.

I don't think anyone "should" do something if they don't actually want to.

Definitely not unreasonable!