There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be said with both male or female. less

There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be said with both male or female. less

I don't really agree with this. This question implies that women reluctantly let men have anal sex with them when in reality a lot of women like having anal sex and don't care to do it back to their male partner. On EF I've seen a lot of women talk about loving anal sex with their male partners and not necessarily having pegged them. There's no problem with that going one way as long as both partners are truly 100% satisfied with that. less

This. The only thing I think that should be expected of both partners is to reciprocate pleasure and satisfaction, and to an extent, if you accept oral sex or request it, but refuse to go down on your partner, and your partner really wants it, then you need to get over yourself and go down on your partner or find someone who doesn't want oral sex. If a woman really wants to peg a guy, and her partner refuses, then I could see it being a deal breaker, just like any sexual desire or need that we want to have fulfilled. That's legitimate.

But this isn't what the question is. It seems to imply that women engage in anal sex reluctantly and just to please men, not for their own pleasure, (like novanilla is saying, here). So that means that she should be able to "show him what it's like," the implication being that it's unpleasant and he probably won't enjoy it, or it will have to be rewarded to him after he's been "put through it." That's just not right.

As a woman, I love anal sex. The very first time I did it, I requested it. I had no experience with any anal play at all; I was simply turned on by the idea of it and intrigued over what it might feel like. And I loved it. With my current guy, it took several months before we got to anal, and he never pushed it; I did. I kept asking, "so, when are you going to fuck me in the ass?" And he'd get kind of shy about it, but it was clear that he wanted to do it, but was a little nervous because of lack of experience. And when we did do it, he loved it. Now I'm using beads and plugs, and that too was my idea (well, the beads were his--and what a good idea it was!)

But I have interest in pegging him. Now, if he asked me to do it to him, I'd do it with big, horny grin on my face for him. But that's because he's my partner and I care about him and care about his pleasure. I love doing things with him in the bedroom because it gives him pleasure, which gives me pleasure. That's how sex should work. It shouldn't be a reward for doing something you don't want to do for them, and then in exchange, you get the thing that you want. That's just...not a healthy way to work. less