I voted it's only fair, but that's just my excuse because I want to peg him so badly. It really depends on the couple, and no one should have to do something their uncomfortable with. Sex is supposed to be fun, after all.

I would tell him that just to see the reaction on his face....even though I know I could eventually convince him

I think it's only fair.

Maybe not pegging, but certainly he should at least have some experience with anal play, even if it is just solo masturbation, so he has a better 'lay of the land', so to say.

I know I've said it before, but true, honest sexual relationships have NOTHING to do with "even-ness." What a couple does depends on what they like and what their dynamic is.

May I ask, to those who call for "fairness" (by insisting on "pegging" a guy who wants to try anal sex on his female partner) HOW do you make PIV intercourse "fair?" In a hetero relationship, what a man does during PIV is totally different than what the woman does, and their experiences are quite different. How do you make PIV sex "fair?" Let's say fellatio? Should your man be required to deep throat a dildo before you ever consider giving him head? Why not? (Because it's silly to consider the two things the same, and requiring certain actions "to make it fair" really erodes the give and take that good, mature sexual play requires.) What about cunnilingus? Should a girl be "required" to lick and eat a masturbator tube "to make it fair and see what it feels like" before her man give her head? (No, of course not, unless the couple WANTS to incorporate this into their sexual play.)

Sex isn't about "equal." "Fairness" isn't about one member of the couple performing the same exact action, "to see what it feels like" Good MATURE sexual relations are made by doing what feels good and making sure both members are satisfied in the end.

Not to mention that being pegged is really not much like receiving penile-anal sex. Two COMPLETELY different things. I seem to be hearing a lot of almost "revenge" from some of the people who think "he has to let me "do anal" on him with a dildo so he knows what it feels like" crowd.

Sex is about enjoyment. Not "getting even."

If you don't want to have anal sex, for heavens's sake, don't have it. If BOTH of you wan to peg, have a great time with it. But some of these attempts to "even things up" with the "lets see how HE likes it!" stuff just reeks of something other than loving relationships to me.

And, now, I'm going to shut up.

The only girls I've heard say this if the topic comes up are ones who are very against anal sex to begin with, and try to make it sound like everyone else should hate it just as much as they do. And it makes sense I guess if they don't or can't possibly see how some of us love anal, then for them it isn't about passion or desire or fullness or buttgasms, it is just their perception of if they themselves were to do it, and they'd hate it since they've already made their mind up to hate it and then want to "get back" at guys I guess since in their mind it is something that only guys are supposed to want.

Fair is fair, teehee. ;P

No one should owe their partner sexual favors! If both parties agree on something, its all good, but don't force something you they don't want.

i love it first of all. but i would never ever want to do that to my man. and he wouldnt want it. im happy letting him do it all to me.

Yeah why not. It's a totally valid question

I wouldn't allow my beloved to penetrate me. Our relationship dynamic doesn't work that way.

I will also agree that it depends entirely on comfort zones and the intricacies of the relationship at hand, genders irrelevant.

I personally love anal, but I don't expect my man to feel the same about receiving it. He is hesitant to try it on himself even though he would probably love it. I won't let him do anything that I don't want to do, and I wouldn't expect him to do anything that he is uncomfortable with either.

if thats what the relationship calls for, go for it

i think if hes the one who brought up the idea then yes sure he best be ready for at least a finger. but if she came up with the idea then thats what she wanted and no reason he should have to.

I am lucky enough to have a guy who will let me peg him. We haven't yet but in the near future ^^

No, what are we? In pre-k?

The first time I wanted to do anal with my girlfriend I was a young teen, she said she would let me if she got to fuck me with a comb handle, I thought it was really weird at first.
Seemed only fair though.
Square comb handles hurt a lot at first.

My personal philosophy:

"No guy is doing me in the ass if I can't do the same to him."

I think it all depends on the comfort level of your relationship. Nothing should be expected... if both parties are comfortable with exploring anal sex go for it

Only if the guy is pressuring and won't let up about it. My ex used to pressure me for anal and I wasn't really interested because he had a really big penis but thought it would be no big deal to just put it there (and vaginal sex was already a STRETCH that required tons of lube and warming up, so anal at that time was a no go for me). I finally said, if you let me put something that big up your butt, I'll be fine with you trying the same to me. He then shut up until we worked up to it naturally.

no one should have to do anything