Bingo. It would be the same as the guy saying "I'm fine with you pegging me, but in return, you should let me do the same to you." There shouldn't be any obligations when it comes to sex. If a person isn't ok with a certain sex act, it's pretty cruel to say "Well, I let you do that to me all the time; why can't I do it to you?"

haha - i used to say this to my ex all the time. I do not prefer to get anal. It's just not my thing - and god he used to whine for it all the time. That used to shut the conversation down pretty quick. Now my current boy whines for anal to, but he's catchin' not me. Hee! And he doesn't wanna pitch so it's all good. perfect fit.

I found the point of contention: the question is is it "only fair for him to let the girl peg him" (emphasis mine). If the question was "should she be able to peg him" or something else like that then definitely you're right. I guess it depends on whether "him to let her" means that 'he should be open to the idea' vs "having it" mean 'she should be able to compel him to'.

Compulsion (even emotional compulsion) NO! I don't bug my wife about penetrating her anally - it's not her thing.

Anal play can be enjoyed by both men and women. I think if you're adventurous enough to penetrate your female partner anally, you should be willing to try it yourself.

By experiencing both, each partner learns what to expect and possibly give more pleasure to each other.

Absolutely.

I agree - it's not about should, but both doing it will make both aware of the sensations and subtleties. There's a lot to learn that you'll never figure out if you're only the giver.

I think that it should be a mutual thing. I.E. Me and my partner have an agreement, "He can do me in the ass, and if I ever want to do him in the ass I can". But I'm not sure if I will want to do his ass... lol

exactly. It is not a should or should not. It is a comfort level.

Well said. My only thing is that guys my age tend to immediately associate pegging with being gay.. Even if they want to, people tend to nut up and shut up about it.

I think it's a similar primise, however I think the same sentiments from the first page, with it's all based personal boundries. Personaly, I have no boundries, a list of things I would like a discussion about first, yes, a now way no how, no, but there are lot's of people who do have a no way no how list, and that should be respected without question.

I have to disagree. It depends on the individual and the relationship dynamic. My Man and I never engage in activities which we are not comfortable with. I also don't WANT to peg him. However, we have anal sex all the time. I like it, he has no interest in being pegged or to have any anal stimulation, and I respect his choices. There was never any pressure for ME to accept anal sex from him, we did it because we wanted to.

I also know couples where the man wants and likes to be pegged and the woman simply doesn't want to be the receiver of anal sex. This works for them, so why should every man who gives anal sex "have to try it"? I don't get why this is so important. From where I sit, the only women who would INSIST on this 50/50 division are those who don't seem to want to try anal sex as a receiver in the first place. In that case, she should just say, "I don't want to do this." Not, "you have to let me do it to you first." (Unless the man wants it, then it's fine. But to REQUIRE it from both people in the couple makes no sense to me.)

I don't see this as something "has to" be 50/50. Anal sex is a very intimate and also scary for some behavior. People should have the right to say "I don't want this." Also, some people simply CAN'T have anal sex. Some people have issues with their rectum, bowel etc that prevent receiving anal sex. That doesn't mean they can't be the giver of anal sex, but some people can't receive it for medical reasons (unlike oral sex, which everybody can do, at least medically, unless you have your jaws wired shut or something.)

I feel really strongly that people should have a right to say they don't want something done to them.

I also can't understand "If you want to do this to me, you have to let me do this to you." HOW could that same dynamic work with say penile-vaginal intercourse? Some things only go one way, and in some relationships, some activities only go one way.

People should feel comfortable enough to be able to say, "This isn't something I want." Without pressure.

This is a good point. Pegging IS very different from organic anal sex. The two are not the same thing. Pegging a man is NOT the same thing as a woman receiving penile/anal sex.

Also, in some relationships (and we've talked about this in other threads) in relationships which recognize the Power Dynamic, often only ONE partner is allowed to be the Penetrator.

That, along with other reasons is why My Man and I (and probably a lot of other couples) simply don't equate pegging and M on F Anal sex.

Me too.....100%

turnabout is fair play...

But she's been open enough to consider the possibility.

Another agreed. Heck, my boyfriend and I are backwards from what's being asked here. I peg him, but we're only very slowly working on anything with my own butt.