#SummerPleasure - Fire Him Up!

Contributor: a.mclove a.mclove
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Originally posted by Ansley


Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or ... more
I have tried Anal sex a couple times. but for me it has been hit or miss. it is either extremely pleasuring or uncomfortable. I dont see anything wrong with someone who wants to try it. It took my husband a while to convince me to try it because it just didn't seem all that fun to me. But when you are married for 8 year it is time to find new things to try in the bedroom. I more enjoy surface anal play than penetration. I feel there is no reason to feel uncomfortable doing something that is pleasurable. and if it adds a little spark to your sex life that's even better.
06/16/2012
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by Ansley


Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or ... more
i've known about the same amount of partners to be into anal as are completely opposed period. for advice... here you go!

I recommend first starting out with fingers. It's very important to use ALOT of lube, reapply it often, and go very slow. The receiver needs to be already very turned on and relaxed. Cleaning up before hand is a good idea, to ensure confidence in both parties.

Use a silicone lube for slicker, longer-lasting lubrication. Coat the fingers and apply some directly to the bumhole. Go slow, slow and slower! Go as slow as you can stand, and make small circles around the outside of the bum for a while, relaxing the sphincter in preparation for penetration. A small vibrator on the hole can help relax it too. Some people really enjoy vibrators back there too! My boy does, for sure.

A vibrating cock ring can provide nearly the same effect as a bullet vibe applied to the anus. If the cock ring is stretched to encircle the balls as well, it will send vibrations near the bum, helping your boy to relax.

Never get impatient and always check in with your partner. Watch their face for signs of pain - they may have a hard time telling you to stop, even if you are actually hurting them. Anal play can certainly be painful when first starting out, and it's best to communicate as much as possible.

Have fun!
06/17/2012
Contributor: KRD KRD
Do whatever makes you happy and feels good! Who cares what others think. Just take care of yourself and your partner
06/19/2012
Contributor: jryder3891 jryder3891
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Originally posted by Ansley


Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or ... more
I like to try new things alot
06/22/2012
Contributor: jryder3891 jryder3891
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Originally posted by Heatherbipoly
personally i don't think if u a guy and love anal play don't make u gay. ^_^ only if more belived the same.
For men, its just not somthing you want others to know except the girl your with
06/22/2012
Contributor: jryder3891 jryder3891
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Originally posted by Shiromisa
I'm excited to try anal stuff with my guy! I'm a bit of a newbie, so I'm a little nervous I'll, um, do it wrong at first, but I'm sure we can figure it out.
Have to start somewhere lolol
06/22/2012
Contributor: jryder3891 jryder3891
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Originally posted by digit88
anal play doesn't make him gay
agreed
06/22/2012
Contributor: jryder3891 jryder3891
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Originally posted by All His
So tired of homophobia and all the labels it puts on people. Anal play does not make you gay, just means you enjoy another aspect of sexual play
Said very well
06/22/2012
Contributor: marrythenight marrythenight
I'm perpetually single so I've never had an anal play experience. I'd be worried about hygiene and pain more than anything, but that's nothing a little research and some communication and lube can't take care of.
06/22/2012