How is stimulating a natural body part gay? Do what feels good to you.
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06/14/2012
I'm quite squeamish about anal play myself but my husband is into it, I just see it as another form of stimulation, nothing to do with your orientation.
06/14/2012
I don't think anal play equals gay. It all depends on personal preference.
06/14/2012
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You know, it's amazing the ideas people get in their minds.
Originally posted by
MissManners
How is stimulating a natural body part gay? Do what feels good to you.
The Ancient Greeks were all about anal sex. They trained young boys how to be good lovers to their wives and it was just a natural part of it all. Then Christianity took a foothold and kind of derailed all of that and all of a sudden being penetrated meant that you were submissive. If you were male and a submissive (i.e. like anal play) then you obviously weren't very masculine and it was assumed you had an affinity for the mens. In short - it's stupid. That's all there is to it.
06/14/2012
I dont find it gay to play with my p-spot. I have a few toys and enjoy playing. If it feels good why not do it. You are only gay if you like the same sex.
06/14/2012
My theory has always been if it feels good, do it
06/14/2012
I enjoy anal play and my partner is really excited about it. We take things slow and feel like open communication and expression of one's wants and needs (as well as what they might not enjoy so much) is very important in a healthy sexual relationship.
It's sad that people have to feel 'wrong' for liking something that is pleasurable just because of some ingrained societal homophobia. A heterosexual man shouldn't be ashamed of having to ask his partner for anal play without being criticized. Perhaps they'd do well to express in Sex Ed classes that it's a normal and perfectly acceptable urge.
It's sad that people have to feel 'wrong' for liking something that is pleasurable just because of some ingrained societal homophobia. A heterosexual man shouldn't be ashamed of having to ask his partner for anal play without being criticized. Perhaps they'd do well to express in Sex Ed classes that it's a normal and perfectly acceptable urge.
06/14/2012
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It can feel amazing.
Originally posted by
Ansley
Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or ... more
Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or other toys for men - it's an entirely different ballgame.
Homophobia and stigmas about men and anal play are still alive and kicking. The terms and slang have changed, but the judgment remains. If a man likes to be pegged or have his prostate massaged to climax, he's weird, or he might as well be gay, if he likes it in the ass. It can be difficult to bring in to a relationship as part of regular play. Thing about it is, it simply feels good. Nothing more or less to it and sometimes a river is just a river. No hidden agendas or meanings can be found, because there aren't any. (Thanks, EdenLit!)
By now, you should have caught on that we're going to talk about anal toys and masturbators for men, and how the preference for this kind of play has affected relationships on all levels.
Let's help get the word out that anal play for men is not only sexy, but it's healthy and a great way to strengthen the bonds of a relationship. Stigmas and stereotypes stay alive because we let them. If you can educate even one person on the benefits and pleasure one can receive through anal sex, consider it your good deed for the day. So, feel free to answer one, some, or all of the following with your opinion...
- Do you enjoy pegging, anal penetration, (surface) anal play, extreme anal play at all? Where does your comfort level lie with girth and length?
- Who brought up anal sex or incorporating strokers into play? Did you have difficulty in either the idea being accepted by your partner or maybe a bad experience the first couple of tries?
- What kind of advice do you have for those who are just starting out with anal play of any kind? Do you have a favorite lube you like to use? Or perhaps, a favorite position?
- For those who are new to the scene but eager to play, what are your fears concerning the subject?
- Last, but not least; do you know more or less people who think males masturbating with anal stimulation are homosexual or that it makes them homosexual if they like it? What have you done to dispel their belief?
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Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or ... more
Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or other toys for men - it's an entirely different ballgame.
Homophobia and stigmas about men and anal play are still alive and kicking. The terms and slang have changed, but the judgment remains. If a man likes to be pegged or have his prostate massaged to climax, he's weird, or he might as well be gay, if he likes it in the ass. It can be difficult to bring in to a relationship as part of regular play. Thing about it is, it simply feels good. Nothing more or less to it and sometimes a river is just a river. No hidden agendas or meanings can be found, because there aren't any. (Thanks, EdenLit!)
By now, you should have caught on that we're going to talk about anal toys and masturbators for men, and how the preference for this kind of play has affected relationships on all levels.
Let's help get the word out that anal play for men is not only sexy, but it's healthy and a great way to strengthen the bonds of a relationship. Stigmas and stereotypes stay alive because we let them. If you can educate even one person on the benefits and pleasure one can receive through anal sex, consider it your good deed for the day. So, feel free to answer one, some, or all of the following with your opinion...
- Do you enjoy pegging, anal penetration, (surface) anal play, extreme anal play at all? Where does your comfort level lie with girth and length?
- Who brought up anal sex or incorporating strokers into play? Did you have difficulty in either the idea being accepted by your partner or maybe a bad experience the first couple of tries?
- What kind of advice do you have for those who are just starting out with anal play of any kind? Do you have a favorite lube you like to use? Or perhaps, a favorite position?
- For those who are new to the scene but eager to play, what are your fears concerning the subject?
- Last, but not least; do you know more or less people who think males masturbating with anal stimulation are homosexual or that it makes them homosexual if they like it? What have you done to dispel their belief?
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06/14/2012
I think this is a very interesting topic and has a lot of talking points. I think anal stimulation for men as an indicator that a man is gay is a very androcentric idea. It glorifies men as penetrators and demeans being penetrated, because that is considered by some to be a "feminine" trait. As a lesbian, I experience androcentrism in a similar way when men make comments about how I must be straight, bi, or have penis envy if I use a strap-on with my girlfriend. I think both of these ideas unnecessarily glorify traditional masculinity, reducing sex to "male acts" and "female acts", ignoring that getting pleasure as a woman with a strap-on or as a man enjoying anal sex has nothing inherently to do with a substitute penis.
06/14/2012
I would love to try anal play on my boyfriend, but he is really squicky about even doing anal on me, so it's a long way off, if at all...
06/14/2012
I love anal play, but I don't consider myself gay. It just feels good, so why not!
06/14/2012
I don't think a guy wanting some anal play is necessarily gay. Joining the eden community has shown me that many straight men enjoy it. I am a girl and I have never encountered a partner who would willing tell me they wanted it incorporated into sex, so I never really thought of it as something straight men do. But here on the forums and reviews on Eden there seems to be a healthy number of men who like it. So why not? I have no problem with it no matter what sexual preferences you hold, do what feels good!
06/14/2012
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My boyfriend first brought up anal play. I had never heard the term "pegging" but when he asked me if I would do it, my first thought was "YES!!!" I had always wanted to be the pentrator, not just the penetrated in sex. Pegging was new for both of us; our harness and favorite dildo were one of our first sex toy purchases together. Since then, we've expanded to prostate massagers and using my fingers. Kinda funny, fingers is the LAST thing we tried! For size, we've worked up to 6x1.75 size dildos -- he's ready for something wider!
Originally posted by
Ansley
Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or ... more
Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or other toys for men - it's an entirely different ballgame.
Homophobia and stigmas about men and anal play are still alive and kicking. The terms and slang have changed, but the judgment remains. If a man likes to be pegged or have his prostate massaged to climax, he's weird, or he might as well be gay, if he likes it in the ass. It can be difficult to bring in to a relationship as part of regular play. Thing about it is, it simply feels good. Nothing more or less to it and sometimes a river is just a river. No hidden agendas or meanings can be found, because there aren't any. (Thanks, EdenLit!)
By now, you should have caught on that we're going to talk about anal toys and masturbators for men, and how the preference for this kind of play has affected relationships on all levels.
Let's help get the word out that anal play for men is not only sexy, but it's healthy and a great way to strengthen the bonds of a relationship. Stigmas and stereotypes stay alive because we let them. If you can educate even one person on the benefits and pleasure one can receive through anal sex, consider it your good deed for the day. So, feel free to answer one, some, or all of the following with your opinion...
- Do you enjoy pegging, anal penetration, (surface) anal play, extreme anal play at all? Where does your comfort level lie with girth and length?
- Who brought up anal sex or incorporating strokers into play? Did you have difficulty in either the idea being accepted by your partner or maybe a bad experience the first couple of tries?
- What kind of advice do you have for those who are just starting out with anal play of any kind? Do you have a favorite lube you like to use? Or perhaps, a favorite position?
- For those who are new to the scene but eager to play, what are your fears concerning the subject?
- Last, but not least; do you know more or less people who think males masturbating with anal stimulation are homosexual or that it makes them homosexual if they like it? What have you done to dispel their belief?
To help get the party started, we're offering 25% off men's toys and a Summer Clearance on a whole lotta toys! Happy shopping! less
Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or ... more
Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or other toys for men - it's an entirely different ballgame.
Homophobia and stigmas about men and anal play are still alive and kicking. The terms and slang have changed, but the judgment remains. If a man likes to be pegged or have his prostate massaged to climax, he's weird, or he might as well be gay, if he likes it in the ass. It can be difficult to bring in to a relationship as part of regular play. Thing about it is, it simply feels good. Nothing more or less to it and sometimes a river is just a river. No hidden agendas or meanings can be found, because there aren't any. (Thanks, EdenLit!)
By now, you should have caught on that we're going to talk about anal toys and masturbators for men, and how the preference for this kind of play has affected relationships on all levels.
Let's help get the word out that anal play for men is not only sexy, but it's healthy and a great way to strengthen the bonds of a relationship. Stigmas and stereotypes stay alive because we let them. If you can educate even one person on the benefits and pleasure one can receive through anal sex, consider it your good deed for the day. So, feel free to answer one, some, or all of the following with your opinion...
- Do you enjoy pegging, anal penetration, (surface) anal play, extreme anal play at all? Where does your comfort level lie with girth and length?
- Who brought up anal sex or incorporating strokers into play? Did you have difficulty in either the idea being accepted by your partner or maybe a bad experience the first couple of tries?
- What kind of advice do you have for those who are just starting out with anal play of any kind? Do you have a favorite lube you like to use? Or perhaps, a favorite position?
- For those who are new to the scene but eager to play, what are your fears concerning the subject?
- Last, but not least; do you know more or less people who think males masturbating with anal stimulation are homosexual or that it makes them homosexual if they like it? What have you done to dispel their belief?
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Of course I also tried anal sex on me for the first time and found that I do enjoy it, although not nearly to the extend he does.
Our first pegging experience was a little awkward. I wasn't used to the motion, I wasn't sure where to put the dildo or how to slide it in. There was a lot of talking and trial and error!
I would recommend a few things: Start small with a dildo, talk a lot, buy lots of thicker water-based lube like Sliquid Booty, and be ready to fail. Failure is OK, it just means you need to try again or find another way. We've found it's best if he's on his back and I kneel in front of him. That way I can watch his face and see everything to make sure we're in sync.
06/14/2012
I think my boyfriend would weird out on me. Such a stigma on it, damn shame.
06/14/2012
I have known a few men who have enjoyed prostate play. It has nothing to do with being attracted to the same sex. For someone just starting make sure you trust your partner completely. You want the confidence that they will stop right away if you're uncomfortable.
06/14/2012
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wow these look super rad. I'd love to try out exercising my muscles.
Originally posted by
Ansley
Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or ... more
Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or other toys for men - it's an entirely different ballgame.
Homophobia and stigmas about men and anal play are still alive and kicking. The terms and slang have changed, but the judgment remains. If a man likes to be pegged or have his prostate massaged to climax, he's weird, or he might as well be gay, if he likes it in the ass. It can be difficult to bring in to a relationship as part of regular play. Thing about it is, it simply feels good. Nothing more or less to it and sometimes a river is just a river. No hidden agendas or meanings can be found, because there aren't any. (Thanks, EdenLit!)
By now, you should have caught on that we're going to talk about anal toys and masturbators for men, and how the preference for this kind of play has affected relationships on all levels.
Let's help get the word out that anal play for men is not only sexy, but it's healthy and a great way to strengthen the bonds of a relationship. Stigmas and stereotypes stay alive because we let them. If you can educate even one person on the benefits and pleasure one can receive through anal sex, consider it your good deed for the day. So, feel free to answer one, some, or all of the following with your opinion...
- Do you enjoy pegging, anal penetration, (surface) anal play, extreme anal play at all? Where does your comfort level lie with girth and length?
- Who brought up anal sex or incorporating strokers into play? Did you have difficulty in either the idea being accepted by your partner or maybe a bad experience the first couple of tries?
- What kind of advice do you have for those who are just starting out with anal play of any kind? Do you have a favorite lube you like to use? Or perhaps, a favorite position?
- For those who are new to the scene but eager to play, what are your fears concerning the subject?
- Last, but not least; do you know more or less people who think males masturbating with anal stimulation are homosexual or that it makes them homosexual if they like it? What have you done to dispel their belief?
To help get the party started, we're offering 25% off men's toys and a Summer Clearance on a whole lotta toys! Happy shopping! less
Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or ... more
Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or other toys for men - it's an entirely different ballgame.
Homophobia and stigmas about men and anal play are still alive and kicking. The terms and slang have changed, but the judgment remains. If a man likes to be pegged or have his prostate massaged to climax, he's weird, or he might as well be gay, if he likes it in the ass. It can be difficult to bring in to a relationship as part of regular play. Thing about it is, it simply feels good. Nothing more or less to it and sometimes a river is just a river. No hidden agendas or meanings can be found, because there aren't any. (Thanks, EdenLit!)
By now, you should have caught on that we're going to talk about anal toys and masturbators for men, and how the preference for this kind of play has affected relationships on all levels.
Let's help get the word out that anal play for men is not only sexy, but it's healthy and a great way to strengthen the bonds of a relationship. Stigmas and stereotypes stay alive because we let them. If you can educate even one person on the benefits and pleasure one can receive through anal sex, consider it your good deed for the day. So, feel free to answer one, some, or all of the following with your opinion...
- Do you enjoy pegging, anal penetration, (surface) anal play, extreme anal play at all? Where does your comfort level lie with girth and length?
- Who brought up anal sex or incorporating strokers into play? Did you have difficulty in either the idea being accepted by your partner or maybe a bad experience the first couple of tries?
- What kind of advice do you have for those who are just starting out with anal play of any kind? Do you have a favorite lube you like to use? Or perhaps, a favorite position?
- For those who are new to the scene but eager to play, what are your fears concerning the subject?
- Last, but not least; do you know more or less people who think males masturbating with anal stimulation are homosexual or that it makes them homosexual if they like it? What have you done to dispel their belief?
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06/14/2012
I've been curious about anal recently because I'd like my boyfriend to experience a P-spot orgasm, but he's not keen in the slightest so I won't push the issue. I'd like to think that he knows if he was interested, or if he starts to grow fonder of the idea, that he can be open with me about it though. He wasn't much interested in masturbation sleeves until I introduced him to them, then he slowly started to use them on his own without me.
06/14/2012
I really never understood how gay=anal sex. I know a lot of gay guys who dont even like anal play!
06/15/2012
- Do you enjoy pegging, anal penetration, (surface) anal play, extreme anal play at all?
I do enjoy some anal play, but I have to be in the mood for it, honestly.
- Who brought up anal sex or incorporating strokers into play? Did you have difficulty in either the idea being accepted by your partner or maybe a bad experience the first couple of tries?
I definitely had a bad experience starting off with anal sex. The first time I ever tried it, my partner at the time penetrated me without letting me know or asking. Needless to say, I was not amused.
- What kind of advice do you have for those who are just starting out with anal play of any kind?
Use lube and when it doubt, start small!
- Last, but not least; do you know more or less people who think males masturbating with anal stimulation are homosexual or that it makes them homosexual if they like it? What have you done to dispel their belief?
It definitely does not make you homosexual unless you are having sex with people of the same sex and you identify as homosexual. Nothing you can do to yourself is "gay" and nothing a female does to a male is "gay."
I do enjoy some anal play, but I have to be in the mood for it, honestly.
- Who brought up anal sex or incorporating strokers into play? Did you have difficulty in either the idea being accepted by your partner or maybe a bad experience the first couple of tries?
I definitely had a bad experience starting off with anal sex. The first time I ever tried it, my partner at the time penetrated me without letting me know or asking. Needless to say, I was not amused.
- What kind of advice do you have for those who are just starting out with anal play of any kind?
Use lube and when it doubt, start small!
- Last, but not least; do you know more or less people who think males masturbating with anal stimulation are homosexual or that it makes them homosexual if they like it? What have you done to dispel their belief?
It definitely does not make you homosexual unless you are having sex with people of the same sex and you identify as homosexual. Nothing you can do to yourself is "gay" and nothing a female does to a male is "gay."
06/15/2012
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I wouldn't mind giving it to him if my S/O was interested.
Originally posted by
Ansley
Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or ... more
Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or other toys for men - it's an entirely different ballgame.
Homophobia and stigmas about men and anal play are still alive and kicking. The terms and slang have changed, but the judgment remains. If a man likes to be pegged or have his prostate massaged to climax, he's weird, or he might as well be gay, if he likes it in the ass. It can be difficult to bring in to a relationship as part of regular play. Thing about it is, it simply feels good. Nothing more or less to it and sometimes a river is just a river. No hidden agendas or meanings can be found, because there aren't any. (Thanks, EdenLit!)
By now, you should have caught on that we're going to talk about anal toys and masturbators for men, and how the preference for this kind of play has affected relationships on all levels.
Let's help get the word out that anal play for men is not only sexy, but it's healthy and a great way to strengthen the bonds of a relationship. Stigmas and stereotypes stay alive because we let them. If you can educate even one person on the benefits and pleasure one can receive through anal sex, consider it your good deed for the day. So, feel free to answer one, some, or all of the following with your opinion...
- Do you enjoy pegging, anal penetration, (surface) anal play, extreme anal play at all? Where does your comfort level lie with girth and length?
- Who brought up anal sex or incorporating strokers into play? Did you have difficulty in either the idea being accepted by your partner or maybe a bad experience the first couple of tries?
- What kind of advice do you have for those who are just starting out with anal play of any kind? Do you have a favorite lube you like to use? Or perhaps, a favorite position?
- For those who are new to the scene but eager to play, what are your fears concerning the subject?
- Last, but not least; do you know more or less people who think males masturbating with anal stimulation are homosexual or that it makes them homosexual if they like it? What have you done to dispel their belief?
To help get the party started, we're offering 25% off men's toys and a Summer Clearance on a whole lotta toys! Happy shopping! less
Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or ... more
Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or other toys for men - it's an entirely different ballgame.
Homophobia and stigmas about men and anal play are still alive and kicking. The terms and slang have changed, but the judgment remains. If a man likes to be pegged or have his prostate massaged to climax, he's weird, or he might as well be gay, if he likes it in the ass. It can be difficult to bring in to a relationship as part of regular play. Thing about it is, it simply feels good. Nothing more or less to it and sometimes a river is just a river. No hidden agendas or meanings can be found, because there aren't any. (Thanks, EdenLit!)
By now, you should have caught on that we're going to talk about anal toys and masturbators for men, and how the preference for this kind of play has affected relationships on all levels.
Let's help get the word out that anal play for men is not only sexy, but it's healthy and a great way to strengthen the bonds of a relationship. Stigmas and stereotypes stay alive because we let them. If you can educate even one person on the benefits and pleasure one can receive through anal sex, consider it your good deed for the day. So, feel free to answer one, some, or all of the following with your opinion...
- Do you enjoy pegging, anal penetration, (surface) anal play, extreme anal play at all? Where does your comfort level lie with girth and length?
- Who brought up anal sex or incorporating strokers into play? Did you have difficulty in either the idea being accepted by your partner or maybe a bad experience the first couple of tries?
- What kind of advice do you have for those who are just starting out with anal play of any kind? Do you have a favorite lube you like to use? Or perhaps, a favorite position?
- For those who are new to the scene but eager to play, what are your fears concerning the subject?
- Last, but not least; do you know more or less people who think males masturbating with anal stimulation are homosexual or that it makes them homosexual if they like it? What have you done to dispel their belief?
To help get the party started, we're offering 25% off men's toys and a Summer Clearance on a whole lotta toys! Happy shopping! less
06/15/2012
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Excellent advice! Thank you for posting!
Originally posted by
BiLikesSciFi42
My boyfriend first brought up anal play. I had never heard the term "pegging" but when he asked me if I would do it, my first thought was "YES!!!" I had always wanted to be the pentrator, not just the penetrated in sex. Pegging
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My boyfriend first brought up anal play. I had never heard the term "pegging" but when he asked me if I would do it, my first thought was "YES!!!" I had always wanted to be the pentrator, not just the penetrated in sex. Pegging was new for both of us; our harness and favorite dildo were one of our first sex toy purchases together. Since then, we've expanded to prostate massagers and using my fingers. Kinda funny, fingers is the LAST thing we tried! For size, we've worked up to 6x1.75 size dildos -- he's ready for something wider!
Of course I also tried anal sex on me for the first time and found that I do enjoy it, although not nearly to the extend he does.
Our first pegging experience was a little awkward. I wasn't used to the motion, I wasn't sure where to put the dildo or how to slide it in. There was a lot of talking and trial and error!
I would recommend a few things: Start small with a dildo, talk a lot, buy lots of thicker water-based lube like Sliquid Booty, and be ready to fail. Failure is OK, it just means you need to try again or find another way. We've found it's best if he's on his back and I kneel in front of him. That way I can watch his face and see everything to make sure we're in sync. less
Of course I also tried anal sex on me for the first time and found that I do enjoy it, although not nearly to the extend he does.
Our first pegging experience was a little awkward. I wasn't used to the motion, I wasn't sure where to put the dildo or how to slide it in. There was a lot of talking and trial and error!
I would recommend a few things: Start small with a dildo, talk a lot, buy lots of thicker water-based lube like Sliquid Booty, and be ready to fail. Failure is OK, it just means you need to try again or find another way. We've found it's best if he's on his back and I kneel in front of him. That way I can watch his face and see everything to make sure we're in sync. less
06/15/2012
I have been interested in the past, but my wife is not interested at all. We've discussed it several times, but it's a no-go for her. It makes her uncomfortable to think about, and sex should be fun, so why pressure her to do something that is clearly not her tastes?
06/15/2012
I don't understand why people would always jump to the conclusion that enjoying anal play would somehow turn into having an attraction towards other men. If someone has a body part that feels good when played with, they should try it out imo.
06/15/2012
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First off a message to the guys... if you aren't letting your lady play with your ass you are totally missing out. There is no way to even describe the intensity of the orgasms you can get if you let her stimulate your prostate through anal play. Even if you are up for trying a toy let her use her finger. Just make sure you are clean back there before you ask her to do anything for you! Be a gentleman!
Originally posted by
Ansley
Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or ... more
Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or other toys for men - it's an entirely different ballgame.
Homophobia and stigmas about men and anal play are still alive and kicking. The terms and slang have changed, but the judgment remains. If a man likes to be pegged or have his prostate massaged to climax, he's weird, or he might as well be gay, if he likes it in the ass. It can be difficult to bring in to a relationship as part of regular play. Thing about it is, it simply feels good. Nothing more or less to it and sometimes a river is just a river. No hidden agendas or meanings can be found, because there aren't any. (Thanks, EdenLit!)
By now, you should have caught on that we're going to talk about anal toys and masturbators for men, and how the preference for this kind of play has affected relationships on all levels.
Let's help get the word out that anal play for men is not only sexy, but it's healthy and a great way to strengthen the bonds of a relationship. Stigmas and stereotypes stay alive because we let them. If you can educate even one person on the benefits and pleasure one can receive through anal sex, consider it your good deed for the day. So, feel free to answer one, some, or all of the following with your opinion...
- Do you enjoy pegging, anal penetration, (surface) anal play, extreme anal play at all? Where does your comfort level lie with girth and length?
- Who brought up anal sex or incorporating strokers into play? Did you have difficulty in either the idea being accepted by your partner or maybe a bad experience the first couple of tries?
- What kind of advice do you have for those who are just starting out with anal play of any kind? Do you have a favorite lube you like to use? Or perhaps, a favorite position?
- For those who are new to the scene but eager to play, what are your fears concerning the subject?
- Last, but not least; do you know more or less people who think males masturbating with anal stimulation are homosexual or that it makes them homosexual if they like it? What have you done to dispel their belief?
To help get the party started, we're offering 25% off men's toys and a Summer Clearance on a whole lotta toys! Happy shopping! less
Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or ... more
Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or other toys for men - it's an entirely different ballgame.
Homophobia and stigmas about men and anal play are still alive and kicking. The terms and slang have changed, but the judgment remains. If a man likes to be pegged or have his prostate massaged to climax, he's weird, or he might as well be gay, if he likes it in the ass. It can be difficult to bring in to a relationship as part of regular play. Thing about it is, it simply feels good. Nothing more or less to it and sometimes a river is just a river. No hidden agendas or meanings can be found, because there aren't any. (Thanks, EdenLit!)
By now, you should have caught on that we're going to talk about anal toys and masturbators for men, and how the preference for this kind of play has affected relationships on all levels.
Let's help get the word out that anal play for men is not only sexy, but it's healthy and a great way to strengthen the bonds of a relationship. Stigmas and stereotypes stay alive because we let them. If you can educate even one person on the benefits and pleasure one can receive through anal sex, consider it your good deed for the day. So, feel free to answer one, some, or all of the following with your opinion...
- Do you enjoy pegging, anal penetration, (surface) anal play, extreme anal play at all? Where does your comfort level lie with girth and length?
- Who brought up anal sex or incorporating strokers into play? Did you have difficulty in either the idea being accepted by your partner or maybe a bad experience the first couple of tries?
- What kind of advice do you have for those who are just starting out with anal play of any kind? Do you have a favorite lube you like to use? Or perhaps, a favorite position?
- For those who are new to the scene but eager to play, what are your fears concerning the subject?
- Last, but not least; do you know more or less people who think males masturbating with anal stimulation are homosexual or that it makes them homosexual if they like it? What have you done to dispel their belief?
To help get the party started, we're offering 25% off men's toys and a Summer Clearance on a whole lotta toys! Happy shopping! less
Now for the ladies, if you haven't suggested this to your man shame on you! First off there are medical benefits to it in that messaging of the prostate has been proven to help prevent cancer and keep the prostate healthy. Second it feels damn good! You need to bring this up and make sure he knows you don't think it is weird if he likes it.
Use lube, lots of it... start small... and just relax and have fun with it.
My wife brought this up several years ago and am I glad she did. We yes some toys, her fingers, and her tongue. I am working her her using a strap on on me but we haven't quite got there yet. Some day though...
06/15/2012
I don't enjoy any type of anal play, but my husband and I have done a little bit with him on the receiving end. He enjoyed it and it's something that we'll probably be exploring more in the future.
06/16/2012
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I think anal stimulation is great for males as long as both couples are into it.
Originally posted by
Ansley
Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or ... more
Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or other toys for men - it's an entirely different ballgame.
Homophobia and stigmas about men and anal play are still alive and kicking. The terms and slang have changed, but the judgment remains. If a man likes to be pegged or have his prostate massaged to climax, he's weird, or he might as well be gay, if he likes it in the ass. It can be difficult to bring in to a relationship as part of regular play. Thing about it is, it simply feels good. Nothing more or less to it and sometimes a river is just a river. No hidden agendas or meanings can be found, because there aren't any. (Thanks, EdenLit!)
By now, you should have caught on that we're going to talk about anal toys and masturbators for men, and how the preference for this kind of play has affected relationships on all levels.
Let's help get the word out that anal play for men is not only sexy, but it's healthy and a great way to strengthen the bonds of a relationship. Stigmas and stereotypes stay alive because we let them. If you can educate even one person on the benefits and pleasure one can receive through anal sex, consider it your good deed for the day. So, feel free to answer one, some, or all of the following with your opinion...
- Do you enjoy pegging, anal penetration, (surface) anal play, extreme anal play at all? Where does your comfort level lie with girth and length?
- Who brought up anal sex or incorporating strokers into play? Did you have difficulty in either the idea being accepted by your partner or maybe a bad experience the first couple of tries?
- What kind of advice do you have for those who are just starting out with anal play of any kind? Do you have a favorite lube you like to use? Or perhaps, a favorite position?
- For those who are new to the scene but eager to play, what are your fears concerning the subject?
- Last, but not least; do you know more or less people who think males masturbating with anal stimulation are homosexual or that it makes them homosexual if they like it? What have you done to dispel their belief?
To help get the party started, we're offering 25% off men's toys and a Summer Clearance on a whole lotta toys! Happy shopping! less
Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or ... more
Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or other toys for men - it's an entirely different ballgame.
Homophobia and stigmas about men and anal play are still alive and kicking. The terms and slang have changed, but the judgment remains. If a man likes to be pegged or have his prostate massaged to climax, he's weird, or he might as well be gay, if he likes it in the ass. It can be difficult to bring in to a relationship as part of regular play. Thing about it is, it simply feels good. Nothing more or less to it and sometimes a river is just a river. No hidden agendas or meanings can be found, because there aren't any. (Thanks, EdenLit!)
By now, you should have caught on that we're going to talk about anal toys and masturbators for men, and how the preference for this kind of play has affected relationships on all levels.
Let's help get the word out that anal play for men is not only sexy, but it's healthy and a great way to strengthen the bonds of a relationship. Stigmas and stereotypes stay alive because we let them. If you can educate even one person on the benefits and pleasure one can receive through anal sex, consider it your good deed for the day. So, feel free to answer one, some, or all of the following with your opinion...
- Do you enjoy pegging, anal penetration, (surface) anal play, extreme anal play at all? Where does your comfort level lie with girth and length?
- Who brought up anal sex or incorporating strokers into play? Did you have difficulty in either the idea being accepted by your partner or maybe a bad experience the first couple of tries?
- What kind of advice do you have for those who are just starting out with anal play of any kind? Do you have a favorite lube you like to use? Or perhaps, a favorite position?
- For those who are new to the scene but eager to play, what are your fears concerning the subject?
- Last, but not least; do you know more or less people who think males masturbating with anal stimulation are homosexual or that it makes them homosexual if they like it? What have you done to dispel their belief?
To help get the party started, we're offering 25% off men's toys and a Summer Clearance on a whole lotta toys! Happy shopping! less
06/16/2012
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We have just started delving into the world of anal, so girth and length are pretty small in comparison to others probably. I've just started using my anal starter kit and have yet to take anything near the size of an average penis.
Originally posted by
Ansley
Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or ... more
Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or other toys for men - it's an entirely different ballgame.
Homophobia and stigmas about men and anal play are still alive and kicking. The terms and slang have changed, but the judgment remains. If a man likes to be pegged or have his prostate massaged to climax, he's weird, or he might as well be gay, if he likes it in the ass. It can be difficult to bring in to a relationship as part of regular play. Thing about it is, it simply feels good. Nothing more or less to it and sometimes a river is just a river. No hidden agendas or meanings can be found, because there aren't any. (Thanks, EdenLit!)
By now, you should have caught on that we're going to talk about anal toys and masturbators for men, and how the preference for this kind of play has affected relationships on all levels.
Let's help get the word out that anal play for men is not only sexy, but it's healthy and a great way to strengthen the bonds of a relationship. Stigmas and stereotypes stay alive because we let them. If you can educate even one person on the benefits and pleasure one can receive through anal sex, consider it your good deed for the day. So, feel free to answer one, some, or all of the following with your opinion...
- Do you enjoy pegging, anal penetration, (surface) anal play, extreme anal play at all? Where does your comfort level lie with girth and length?
- Who brought up anal sex or incorporating strokers into play? Did you have difficulty in either the idea being accepted by your partner or maybe a bad experience the first couple of tries?
- What kind of advice do you have for those who are just starting out with anal play of any kind? Do you have a favorite lube you like to use? Or perhaps, a favorite position?
- For those who are new to the scene but eager to play, what are your fears concerning the subject?
- Last, but not least; do you know more or less people who think males masturbating with anal stimulation are homosexual or that it makes them homosexual if they like it? What have you done to dispel their belief?
To help get the party started, we're offering 25% off men's toys and a Summer Clearance on a whole lotta toys! Happy shopping! less
Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or ... more
Sex, Stigmas, and Stereotypes. For women, if you tell guys you like to make out with women, someone in the group can usually be heard to shout a perpetual fantasy or a taunt to perform on the spot. For men who like to play with anal toys or other toys for men - it's an entirely different ballgame.
Homophobia and stigmas about men and anal play are still alive and kicking. The terms and slang have changed, but the judgment remains. If a man likes to be pegged or have his prostate massaged to climax, he's weird, or he might as well be gay, if he likes it in the ass. It can be difficult to bring in to a relationship as part of regular play. Thing about it is, it simply feels good. Nothing more or less to it and sometimes a river is just a river. No hidden agendas or meanings can be found, because there aren't any. (Thanks, EdenLit!)
By now, you should have caught on that we're going to talk about anal toys and masturbators for men, and how the preference for this kind of play has affected relationships on all levels.
Let's help get the word out that anal play for men is not only sexy, but it's healthy and a great way to strengthen the bonds of a relationship. Stigmas and stereotypes stay alive because we let them. If you can educate even one person on the benefits and pleasure one can receive through anal sex, consider it your good deed for the day. So, feel free to answer one, some, or all of the following with your opinion...
- Do you enjoy pegging, anal penetration, (surface) anal play, extreme anal play at all? Where does your comfort level lie with girth and length?
- Who brought up anal sex or incorporating strokers into play? Did you have difficulty in either the idea being accepted by your partner or maybe a bad experience the first couple of tries?
- What kind of advice do you have for those who are just starting out with anal play of any kind? Do you have a favorite lube you like to use? Or perhaps, a favorite position?
- For those who are new to the scene but eager to play, what are your fears concerning the subject?
- Last, but not least; do you know more or less people who think males masturbating with anal stimulation are homosexual or that it makes them homosexual if they like it? What have you done to dispel their belief?
To help get the party started, we're offering 25% off men's toys and a Summer Clearance on a whole lotta toys! Happy shopping! less
My partner isn't prejudice against pegging, but we haven't yet tried that either.
I think that anyone who judges or labels a person based on their preferences needs to stop and think about what they're doing, and what that says about them.
06/16/2012
I am slowly easing into anal play done on me (female), my male partners and I have discussed it for them receiving, but it just isn't for them. They have tried it in the past. It's not a homophobic issue in our house at all.
06/16/2012
I have never engaged in anal play. I'm not at all interested -- it's just not one of my pleasure zones. Thankfully my boyfriend feels the same way.
However, I hope people are comfortable doing whatever makes them happy, regardless of silly stigmas.
However, I hope people are comfortable doing whatever makes them happy, regardless of silly stigmas.
06/16/2012
Anal play is not gay. We enjoy it and neither of us are. It brings trust and intimacy to a new level.
06/16/2012