I'm concerned that my boyfriend might not like the stigma of anal play or thinking the toys are "too big".

I'm comfortable with anal, and I think I would be comfortable exploring anal with a guy but it hasn't ever come up.

My boyfriend is heterosexual and still enjoys some anal play. He likes very shallow penetration, like with a fingertip, and stroking in/around that area. I was never concerned that this meant he was gay. If he were gay he would be messing around with another man, not with me! My only concern was that I was going to hurt him. I haven't had any good experiences with anal penetration of me, so I worried it would be the same way for him.

People, especially Americans, are way too up tight when it comes sex. This is doubly true when it could possibly involve homosexuals. It doesn't surprise me that people commonly have misconceptions about straight men who like anal play. Just because gay guys may like anal adventuring, doesn't mean everyone who likes that is automatically gay. That's just silly.

He's just not that interested in it and i doubt he ever will be. maybe if the mood was right...

Ever since the first time we got physical, she tried to get a finger in there. I was too self-conscious and shy and would stop her. I don't think I ever associated it with being gay - it was fear of potential messiness, grossing her out, and worry that it would hurt. About 20 years later she finally broke down my barriers and I couldn't believe what I'd been missing! That eventually led to buying a Feeldoe and a whole new intimacy I never even knew was possible. Strengthening relationship bonds? Absolutely!!!

Advice for beginners, hmmm. It is not supposed to hurt. If it does, you need more lube, you're rushing too much, you're at the wrong angle... pain means you're doing something wrong. Take a break, try again, and be patient. Laugh at yourself, and have fun with it. And when you think you're using enough lube, double it and you'll almost have enough.

My husband and I are both open to anal play. We'd been having anal sex for a few months when he sent me a porn clip showing a woman giving a man a hand job while inserting her finger into his anus. That's all it took. The next time we had sex, I tried it on him and he loved it. I'm very interested in purchasing toys specifically aimed at stimulating his prostate.

I haven't done it, just haven't found the right partner.

I have zero experience on the subject and my boyfriend wouldn't have any interest in the matter :/. I personally don't see anything wrong with it though. I'm sure it could be fun though. Cleanliness would definitely be a concern for me.

My partner and I both enjoy anal play very much! He enjoys being pegged and yes he is Bi as am I. But I have known plenty of men who are straight and also enjoy anal play too!

Me and my partner enjoy some anal play, but only with him penetrating or using toys on me. He will not let me near his backdoor and has showed zero interest in exploring that boundary. I say do what ever feels good for you and drop all the labels.

I enjoy pegging. To be clear, as a biological female, I am the “pegger”. I have been fortunate enough to find several partners who also enjoy it, or were curious to try it and ended up liking it. As for myself, I am new to accepting any type of anal play, and mostly do it alone. I have a few toys I like to use for this purpose. I like the Tantus Acute dildo for first timers, and for myself as well. The only thing larger than the Acute that I have found enjoyable was one time with a lover I am extremely comfortable with. The rest of the times with humans (including that lover) have been... acceptable. I like the feeling of having something in me, but guys usually want to do all this thrusting that I often find a little uncomfortable, no matter how much lube we use or how gentle he wants to be.

I have brought up pegging specifically to various people and gotten a varied response. I usually bring it up as something I'm willing to do but let them know it's something they will need to specifically ask for. You'd be surprised how many guys have brought it back up at a later date. Some people just aren't interested in any anal play at all, and that's ok with me too.
 
I like the Intimate Organics Soothe lube or Slippery Stuff Gel. My favorite position when I'm pegging is with him on his back with his butt on a pillow. When I'm receiving, I like the ever popular “face down, ass up” if we're talking about anything other than a finger or two. When I'm alone, usually I'm on my side or on my back.
 
I'm pretty new at receiving anal attention, and my two biggest fears are likely pretty common: poop and pain.

This may be an odd answer, but I know quite a few guys who think that people will think they are gay or bi for liking anal pleasure, but don't consider themselves gay or bi at all, nor do they think that other people who share their enjoyment of such things necessarily have any homosexual leanings. Maybe there are those out there who think along those lines, but If I've met them, we haven't discussed it. To dispell their notions of what enyone else might think, I remind them that there's a biological reason why it feels good, and that at the end of the day, it doesn't really matter what anyone thinks about it aside from them and their partners. It doesn't hurt to tell them that as a woman who is into this type of thing, my guess based on experience is that there are far more men enjoy it than that talk about enjoying it when they're talking to their buddies.

Guys, seriously, whatever you like in bed as far as sexual acts has nothing to do with your sexual orientation! Only /you/ can define that for yourself not anybody else based off how you act or what you like!

i can understand not wishing to be labelled but finding a label you identify with can help you find more people like you and better understand you experience and talk about it

Anal stimulation for my husband was sort of brought up by him. I say "sort of" because I'm not really sure if he was sleeping or faking it. It was early morning, and I had crawled under the covers to suck him off, when he guided my fingers to his anus. We've been dabbling it in ever since. Sometimes it seems like he enjoys it a bit more than usual, but he's often pretty ambivalent about it. So, I'm left rather confused on how he feels about it.

I like giving anal play and interested in trying receiving but the wife has pretty serious "cleanliness" issues. I respect and love her, so I won't push her to do something she's not comfortable with. I guess it'll be while (maybe never) for us to enjoy it.

I've been wanting my husband to get into anal play, but he's very reluctant...

Liking anal play does not equal being gay: a male being sexually attracted to other males equals being gay!

I don't like anal play on myself. I've tried it, but it just doesn't excite me. My boyfriend is a totally different story! I'm pretty sure I'm the first girl he's tried it with and he was very shy about it at first, but he's gotten over that. He likes external pressure, my fingers, and a thin vibrator. I'd like to try pegging, but he's a bit too nervous about it, and I don't want to push him too far out of his comfort zone. If he wants to try it someday, I'll be willing, but I won't push him into it.

There's nothing gay about anal play

My hubby has been really slow to warm up to this idea. However, he has started with me on the receiving end (no pun intended) and has just recently (like in the past month) starting letting me play around with him. Not sure if it is the comfort thing or the society thing..he says neither but I think it is one or the other...hopefully things will continue to get better in that area!
I don't think it is about being gay. I agree with the other posts who say being gay is when the man isn't interested in women for sexual enjoyment..there is a difference between being gay and enjoying anal sex.

My husband hasn't tried it on himself, but we've tried to do anal with me on a couple occassions. He's not taking it slow enough to make it comfortable for me so we never get fully inserted.

My ex enjoyed anal play, it was never thought of as gay with us. *shrug*

My husband and I have recently been enjoying pegging. Its something we started talking about a long time before actually doing it. I expressed interest in it at first because I knew he enjoyed it the few times we'd experimented with toys. It took him a little while to warm completely up to the idea, but we took our time with it.
I think that's the best advice for anyone. Take your time with it. push those comfort levels a little but though because that's where you can discover something new.

i had a bad experience with anal and i dont think ill ever do it again. idk maybe i just was not comfortable. but as far as men doing it i dont think there is anything wrong

I think anal play is disgusting. I won't even give a guy a blow job. Stuff comes out of it that I definitely don't want in my mouth.

I'm always surprised at the vehemence, bordering on fear, that some guys display when approached with the idea of anal sex. It's like even thinking about it will make them gay, which is a shame because were they to feel otherwise, toys would probably be an enjoyable and exciting part of their lives.