One part that impressed me was the emphasis on physical exercise--no, don't worry, folks, I'm talking about the kegel series three times a day and the 20-60 minute walk emphasizing awareness on nature, people, and aspects of yourself. These things alone would help anyone to a better outlook. less

I made a point of copying the passage in the book about erotica:


1. READ. Studies have shown that women who read romantic fiction have better sex lives than those who don’t. My guess is it’s because they’re exercising their most potent sexual organ—their brain! So read on, and keep an open mind about erotica, which is an entirely different animal than pornography. With something available for every personal taste, erotica can be enjoyable and titillating, and will go a long way toward putting you in a sexy state of mind. (Plus you might just pick up a tip or two.)

Professor’s notes
A word about erotica. I do recommend erotica as a teaching tool, because I firmly believe that many women are drawn to erotica not only for the sex, but also for the way the women in these stories have sex. So when you read erotica, think about your own sex life and compare it, not by act but by attitude, to those you read about. The characters in erotic stories approach sex in ways that are experimental, curious, adventurous, spontaneous, empowering, and joyful. They are having the kind of sex life real women would love to have. They are pleasing themselves, and by extension, their lovers, without judgment or guilt. That’s powerful and very sexy!
Check out Can’t Help the Way That I Feel, edited by yours truly, and The I.O.U., The Gift, and The List, by Elle, from the Elle Series, elegant erotica for the grown and sexy. less

I made a point of copying the passage in the book about erotica:


1. READ. Studies have shown that women who read romantic fiction have better sex lives than those who don’t. My guess is it’s because they’re exercising their most potent sexual organ—their brain! So read on, and keep an open mind about erotica, which is an entirely different animal than pornography. With something available for every personal taste, erotica can be enjoyable and titillating, and will go a long way toward putting you in a sexy state of mind. (Plus you might just pick up a tip or two.)

Professor’s notes
A word about erotica. I do recommend erotica as a teaching tool, because I firmly believe that many women are drawn to erotica not only for the sex, but also for the way the women in these stories have sex. So when you read erotica, think about your own sex life and compare it, not by act but by attitude, to those you read about. The characters in erotic stories approach sex in ways that are experimental, curious, adventurous, spontaneous, empowering, and joyful. They are having the kind of sex life real women would love to have. They are pleasing themselves, and by extension, their lovers, without judgment or guilt. That’s powerful and very sexy!
Check out Can’t Help the Way That I Feel, edited by yours truly, and The I.O.U., The Gift, and The List, by Elle, from the Elle Series, elegant erotica for the grown and sexy. less

I have come a long way. Thankfully my husband has in an indirect manner helped me with my development of my sexual and personal confidence. He was previously my boyfriend 15 years ago. I think when I took the idea of sex and sexuality being bad and embraced it instead, I really blossomed as a person. He introduced me to sex and getting in touch with myself (even if he was just a horny teenager back then). less

I like the mention of exercise. Taking a break from reality to just walk and clear your head helps think yourself through. You can take a step back and say "who am I? Did I do something to feel empowered or show confidence today?" If I look at it from an outside point I can review what I did well and what to change to make me feel like a better me. Sure wouldn't hurt to do those exercises with the Teneo Uno or Duo - two birds, one stone(excited they come in the mail tomorrow). less

Honestly, living sensually, which is the bedrock of both the way I live and enjoy life, and my coaching, is all about understanding the power of living in the moment. My lovely editors suggested the title and I loved it immediately because it really did say it all! less