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Naked Reader Book Club Discussion: The Power of WOW A Guide to Unleashing the Confident, Sexy You by Lori Bryant-Woolridge (November 8, 8-10 PM EST)

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Contributor: Top Kat Top Kat
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Originally posted by Brendada
What a great question, Top Kat! Helen Mirren rules. In the non real life, I kinda of like Lizbet, the girl who kicked the hornet's nest
Thanks! Lizbet makes me want to put my nose ring back in. Looking forward to seeing the movie!
11/08/2011
Contributor: Discreet Lover Discreet Lover
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Originally posted by Sacchi
A book like this could be good step toward handling things, since you can take it at your own pace and privately. Face-to-face experience is important, too, though.
I agree that face to face therapy really helps. I started therapy a few months ago and I have to say it's done wonders for me.
11/08/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
absoLUTEly. i love my kitties. they're my healing grace!
Best. Companions. Ever.
11/08/2011
Contributor: Willow Wand Willow Wand
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Originally posted by Lori Bryant Woolridge
You absolutely should get tested to make sure that your hormones aren't the culprit, but also understand that your most potent sex organ, your brain, my be caught up in thinking about everything but sex. Your body too is different, and I'm ... more
Honestly, I have tried all that stuff, but yes, I have 6 kids, a full time job, a blog and no time. I don't enjoy sex if I am not in the mood, and I can't get in the mood by going "We're GOING to do it NOW" it doesn't do it for me. I am not sure how to go about doing the sexcation, since we have no family to babysit for us.
11/08/2011
Contributor: removedacnt removedacnt
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Originally posted by winterseve
Just got called into work to help the last 30min of close :-( Thanks for the great discussion everyone!
Thank you for joining us! We would love to have you come back to the next meeting. It will be two weeks from tonight. I will make the official announcement later but you can check it out at the Naked Reader Book Club blog. link
11/08/2011
Contributor: wrmbreze wrmbreze
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Originally posted by wrmbreze
I remember gaining a lot of weight when I went off to college. When I came home for a visit about a year later one of my guy friends said that I was cute before but was really hot not that I was "thick". That made me feel very sexy.
Sorry that should have read now that I was "thick". Sometimes my brain goes too fast for the hands.LOL
11/08/2011
Contributor: Lori Bryant Woolridge Lori Bryant Woolridge
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Originally posted by LoveDove
I don't know that I've ever felt sexy, specifically. There are days when I think I look really pretty/well put together/etc, but even as much as my boyfriend compliments me and says I look sexy, I just don't feel like I am. It's ... more
We often find it hard to believe other people's compliments, but understand they are telling you all the time what is beautiful and special about you, but because we're either too insecure, mistrustful or modest, we don't even hear them and instead only hear the bad stuff buzzing around in our heads.
11/08/2011
Contributor: Lori Bryant Woolridge Lori Bryant Woolridge
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Originally posted by Brusselsbrat
What makes you feel Sexy? I feel sexy when I get on a sexy corset and cute panties!
I love stilettos and beautiful lingerie (but not together!)
11/08/2011
Contributor: Brendada Brendada
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
brendada, what a graciously kind offer. thank you so much. that's really so kind.

i will send my info to liz, since i'm sending her a few other emails tonight as a result of this meeting.

thank you again.
anytime and so happy I happened to come to the book club tonight. It was meant to be!
11/08/2011
Contributor: Front Page Freebies Front Page Freebies
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Originally posted by wrmbreze
My daughter didn't believe me when I told her that Beyonce was technically plus sized. She thought she was skinny.
Beyonce has Curves....which is what makes her sexy
11/08/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by Lori Bryant Woolridge
Take my advice and make your role model Mother Nature! She understands the perfection in imperfection and the role individuality (think snowflakes)plays in true beauty. As I like to say, "Confidence is Mother Nature's push up bra!"
"Confidence is Mother Nature's push up bra!"

lmao. so true!
11/08/2011
Contributor: removedacnt removedacnt
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Originally posted by Antipova
Delicious and fully sensually appreciated, that's my cooking all over! (Well, it sure is experimental, anyway. It's not always delicious on the first try )
Congratulations Antipova! You won the third $25 Edenfantasys gift card of the night. Please email me at Liz @ Edenfantasys so I can get that off to you. And please include your Ef name so I know who it is.
11/08/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by Ryuson
Aww thank you so much! I LOVE octopuses, they're so smart and awesome and make me smile! I love your username!
thank you! alice in wonderland was always my obsession. my first tattoo, and the story of my life.
11/08/2011
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
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Originally posted by Front Page Freebies
Beyonce has Curves....which is what makes her sexy
I think another one is Queen Latifah. She's beautiful and confident, and incredibly sexy.
11/08/2011
Contributor: Brendada Brendada
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
i think i'm a ways off! i'm only 25.. i think of cougars at around 45. do i have to wait 20 years to get horny again? last time i was horny i was... 21.
maybe you could have a really hot "lioness" phase between cub and cougar!
11/08/2011
Contributor: Lori Bryant Woolridge Lori Bryant Woolridge
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Originally posted by Sacchi
I imagine performers, especially actors, learn to project confidence, whether they have it or not. Politicians, too.
I think you said it all when you said they learn to project confidence. They are never being themselves, always playing roles, and I suspect that's why their real lives are such a mess (right Kim?) That's why I say don't look for them to be your role models. They are a manmade facade.
11/08/2011
Contributor: Brendada Brendada
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Originally posted by removedacnt
That's terrible!!! Was that sanctioned by VS?
I think they don't mind since it is all over media. it is accompanies by beauty shots of the very tan and very hungry model.
11/08/2011
Contributor: Discreet Lover Discreet Lover
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Originally posted by Sammi
I think another one is Queen Latifah. She's beautiful and confident, and incredibly sexy.
I LOVE Queen Latifah! She's my role model
11/08/2011
Contributor: wrmbreze wrmbreze
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Originally posted by Front Page Freebies
Beyonce has Curves....which is what makes her sexy
I agree and its so nice to see someone who embraces their curves. I wish people wouldn't lie about how big they are. It only makes it worse for girls. I saw a star recently say they wore a size 4 but you could look at her an know that this was impossible. She was bigger than I am an I haven't seen size for since 22 and I am 36 now. I am trying to be happy with my 160. I want to get down to 145 and I will be so happy.
11/08/2011
Contributor: Front Page Freebies Front Page Freebies
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Originally posted by Sammi
I think another one is Queen Latifah. She's beautiful and confident, and incredibly sexy.
So is Monique
11/08/2011
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
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Originally posted by Willow Wand
Honestly, I have tried all that stuff, but yes, I have 6 kids, a full time job, a blog and no time. I don't enjoy sex if I am not in the mood, and I can't get in the mood by going "We're GOING to do it NOW" it doesn't do it ... more
Do you masturbate on your own? I find that that really helped my sex drive! Also, keeping kegel balls in during the day kept me sexually conscious. I really hope that things get better and your libido can increase
11/08/2011
Contributor: Sacchi Sacchi
For an expansion on Lori's point about nature, here's what she told me earlier:

Mother Nature is my ultimate inspiration, in fact, I dedicated the book to her, because she understands and proudly touts the perfection of imperfection. Nothing in nature is perfect, and yet it is just because it exists. My students also inspire me because they are some brave women who are willing to face themselves in the mirror (literally and metaphorically) in order to become the amazing women they are meant to be.
11/08/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by Brendada
anytime and so happy I happened to come to the book club tonight. It was meant to be!
11/08/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
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Originally posted by removedacnt
Congratulations Antipova! You won the third $25 Edenfantasys gift card of the night. Please email me at Liz @ Edenfantasys so I can get that off to you. And please include your Ef name so I know who it is.
Aww, Thank you so much!

Probably going to spend it on some Signature Skivvies, as recommended by Power of Wow! Because I'm desperately trying to learn how to dress myself right now, anyway.
11/08/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by Brendada
maybe you could have a really hot "lioness" phase between cub and cougar!
ooh i like that!
11/08/2011
Contributor: Sacchi Sacchi
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Originally posted by Brendada
maybe you could have a really hot "lioness" phase between cub and cougar!
And then there's what I like to call the "silver vixen" stage, but you youngsters aren't ready to hear about that yet.
11/08/2011
Contributor: Willow Wand Willow Wand
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Originally posted by Ryuson
Do you masturbate on your own? I find that that really helped my sex drive! Also, keeping kegel balls in during the day kept me sexually conscious. I really hope that things get better and your libido can increase
Nope, no "want" to masturbate. I do it to get me going if hubby is DYING, but other than that, meh. I've tried the Ben Wa balls, they did NOTHING. They kinda got sucked up to the back of my vaginal cavity and didn't move.....I dunno
11/08/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by Ryuson
Do you masturbate on your own? I find that that really helped my sex drive! Also, keeping kegel balls in during the day kept me sexually conscious. I really hope that things get better and your libido can increase
speaking of staying sexually conscious... may be it's extreme but a clitoral hood piercing did that for me!

esp. when you're wearing pants with no panties...
11/08/2011
Contributor: Discreet Lover Discreet Lover
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Originally posted by Sacchi
And then there's what I like to call the "silver vixen" stage, but you youngsters aren't ready to hear about that yet.
Lol! Tell me! Tell me! I wanna know!
11/08/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by Antipova
Aww, Thank you so much!

Probably going to spend it on some Signature Skivvies, as recommended by Power of Wow! Because I'm desperately trying to learn how to dress myself right now, anyway.
let me very seductively mention that i could come help you learn how...

11/08/2011