The New Intimacy

Naked Reader Book Club Discussion: The Power of WOW A Guide to Unleashing the Confident, Sexy You by Lori Bryant-Woolridge (November 8, 8-10 PM EST)

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Contributor: Willow Wand Willow Wand
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
sweetheart! were we separated at birth!?

lol.


i only like lesbian porn! if you ask me it has to do with past trauma as well. men are seen as violent, and without a doubt appear to be raping women in porn.

and women are so ... more
haha! Yes, I think a penis is ugly, which is why I am repulsed by toys that resemble them. I love my hitachi though! I have been with two women, and would LOVE to do it again.
11/08/2011
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
(Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Willow Wand
I got the ones from Eden, they were glass with red hearts inside. I have also tried to force myself to masturbate every day. 21 days makes a habit I was told, so I did it for 30 days. Didn't work...I'm not into masturbation. I'm not into ... more
Hmm, you might want to try some that are meant more for pleasure than exercise! I have the Loa (link) but the Eclipse(link) also look good! They're larger so they might not just sit there. That's the only thing that I can think of.
11/08/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by Lori Bryant Woolridge
So what's sexy clothing? If you don't feel comfortable and beautiful in it, then it isn't sexy. See, it's all about your own brand of sexy. Find clothing that helps hid the less than, and accentuates the better than, and start ... more
amen to that. i have to say, till i dated my current boyfriend of 1 year i was only into thin stick people. when he first took his shirt off around me i didnt know what to think. he was so confident in his body and i'd never been with anyone who had MEAT on them before.

now i hold his belly at night and i love his pudge. i love HIM so much his body is perfect to me.
11/08/2011
Contributor: Top Kat Top Kat
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Originally posted by Sacchi
For an expansion on Lori's point about nature, here's what she told me earlier:

Mother Nature is my ultimate inspiration, in fact, I dedicated the book to her, because she understands and proudly touts the perfection of imperfection. ... more
Nicely said.
11/08/2011
Contributor: Front Page Freebies Front Page Freebies
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Originally posted by Willow Wand
I got the ones from Eden, they were glass with red hearts inside. I have also tried to force myself to masturbate every day. 21 days makes a habit I was told, so I did it for 30 days. Didn't work...I'm not into masturbation. I'm not into ... more
Ok yea Ill admit it....I cant stand watching regular man and woman porn. Lesbian sex is the only one that can get me going.
11/08/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
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Originally posted by removedacnt
I never thought of it that way. Both you and Lori make excellent points. I'm notorious for shooting down compliments. I don't mean to, but it's a bad habit. I'm going to have to break that.
That's one of the things I feel worst about! When a stranger comliments me, I at least can muster a smile, polite thank you, and start a conversation (if appropriate), even when the compliment has totally thrown off my balance and made me worried.

But when my boyfriend compliments me? My knee-jerk reaction, because I feel I can be honest with him, is to ask "why would you SAY that?"

And I feel really bad because it obviously makes him sad. It's really haard to overcome that knee-jerk reaction, but I know it's really important so I'm willing to put a lot of effort into it.
11/08/2011
Contributor: Sacchi Sacchi
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
yes! this is a great point.

come to think of it, sacchi, you've made nothing BUT great points all night. how come i've never seen you around EF before? where you been hidin'?

i'ma gonna go follow you just so i can know in the future!
Alice, I've been filling in as moderator here for a couple of months, while Kristina Wright is busy with her new baby. I don't actually know how to participate in other aspects of EF. My real focus is on writing and editing lesbian erotica (five-going-on-six anthologies for Cleis Press) although I do have the occasional straight story in other anthologies. A story's gotta go where it's gotta go.
11/08/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by Willow Wand
haha! Yes, I think a penis is ugly, which is why I am repulsed by toys that resemble them. I love my hitachi though! I have been with two women, and would LOVE to do it again.
definitely talk to your man about it! who knows, he might even be open to watching you be with another girl... my guy and i have talked about it. just havent found the right girl yet. i'm so picky...
11/08/2011
Contributor: Willow Wand Willow Wand
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Originally posted by Lori Bryant Woolridge
So what's sexy clothing? If you don't feel comfortable and beautiful in it, then it isn't sexy. See, it's all about your own brand of sexy. Find clothing that helps hid the less than, and accentuates the better than, and start ... more
Not a Greek God, no, but I find him to be incredibly sexy!~ I'm feeling better about myself though, shedding that 20lbs has helped BIG TIME.
11/08/2011
Contributor: Front Page Freebies Front Page Freebies
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Originally posted by Willow Wand
haha! Yes, I think a penis is ugly, which is why I am repulsed by toys that resemble them. I love my hitachi though! I have been with two women, and would LOVE to do it again.
OMG I just LOLed So Loud!! I have always thought that God created the world's ugliest thing when he created the penis!!!
11/08/2011
Contributor: Lori Bryant Woolridge Lori Bryant Woolridge
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Originally posted by Antipova
Gonna take some practice... but I am trying!
Trying is good. It will become second nature sooner than you think!
11/08/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by Front Page Freebies
Ok yea Ill admit it....I cant stand watching regular man and woman porn. Lesbian sex is the only one that can get me going.
amen to that sister!
11/08/2011
Contributor: Discreet Lover Discreet Lover
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
sweetheart! were we separated at birth!?

lol.


i only like lesbian porn! if you ask me it has to do with past trauma as well. men are seen as violent, and without a doubt appear to be raping women in porn.

and women are so ... more
I have to agree! Women are a lot gentler to each other and are so much more fun to look at. Penises are not cute.
11/08/2011
Contributor: Discreet Lover Discreet Lover
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Originally posted by Front Page Freebies
Ok yea Ill admit it....I cant stand watching regular man and woman porn. Lesbian sex is the only one that can get me going.
Same were! I don't like reading man and woman erotica all that much either.
11/08/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by Front Page Freebies
OMG I just LOLed So Loud!! I have always thought that God created the world's ugliest thing when he created the penis!!!
haha. no joke. i remember thinking one of my first male partners looked like god took a big wad of red clay, squished it between his fingers and HURLED it with all his might at his crotch area. and it stuck there.
11/08/2011
Contributor: Willow Wand Willow Wand
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
also, you should def. talk to him about it. maybe it doesn't hurt his feelings?

my boy got into this 3some fantasy, and he'll have me tell him about my adventures with women to get off. most men like the idea of girls with other ... more
Oh no, we talk about EVERYTHING, and he knows about my <3 for women and lesbian porn, but some remarks he makes during sex if porn is on, makes me think he is hurt by it, so I don't do it often.
11/08/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by Willow Wand
Oh no, we talk about EVERYTHING, and he knows about my <3 for women and lesbian porn, but some remarks he makes during sex if porn is on, makes me think he is hurt by it, so I don't do it often.
ah, gotcha. well, a fantasy can always stay fantastical (and/or private) in your head!
11/08/2011
Contributor: Top Kat Top Kat
Hey everyone, I have a commitment so I have to go. Everyone have a lovely evening and hope to see you on 11/22! Cheers!
11/08/2011
Contributor: Sacchi Sacchi
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Originally posted by Willow Wand
I got the ones from Eden, they were glass with red hearts inside. I have also tried to force myself to masturbate every day. 21 days makes a habit I was told, so I did it for 30 days. Didn't work...I'm not into masturbation. I'm not into ... more
Go with what works, though! Lesbian erotica can be a great tool for discovering what works for your own body. After all, with _two_ (or more) female bodies to enjoy, you get twice the information. Really. (Yes, I write lesbian erotica, and edit it.)
11/08/2011
Contributor: Willow Wand Willow Wand
Quote:
Originally posted by Ryuson
Hmm, you might want to try some that are meant more for pleasure than exercise! I have the Loa (link) but the Eclipse(link) also look good! They're larger so they might not just sit there. That's the only thing that I can think of. ... more
Cool, I'll try something like that. Thanks!
11/08/2011
Contributor: Front Page Freebies Front Page Freebies
Quote:
Originally posted by aliceinthehole
haha. no joke. i remember thinking one of my first male partners looked like god took a big wad of red clay, squished it between his fingers and HURLED it with all his might at his crotch area. and it stuck there.
LOL Nice description!
11/08/2011
Contributor: removedacnt removedacnt
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Originally posted by Top Kat
Hey everyone, I have a commitment so I have to go. Everyone have a lovely evening and hope to see you on 11/22! Cheers!
Thanks for joining us Top Kat! Looking forward to next time!
11/08/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
So weird to hear everyone saying penises aren't pretty! I would seriously frame pictures of my partner's, if he would let me, and I keep the VIP (sculpted cock of perfection) on my headboard. I think they're one of the most wonderful things ever, in feel and in looks (and smell and taste).
11/08/2011
Contributor: Discreet Lover Discreet Lover
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Originally posted by Sacchi
Go with what works, though! Lesbian erotica can be a great tool for discovering what works for your own body. After all, with _two_ (or more) female bodies to enjoy, you get twice the information. Really. (Yes, I write lesbian erotica, and edit it.)
You do? I do too Well I write more then I edit lol
11/08/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
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Originally posted by Top Kat
Hey everyone, I have a commitment so I have to go. Everyone have a lovely evening and hope to see you on 11/22! Cheers!
Thnks for coming, TopKat!
11/08/2011
Contributor: wrmbreze wrmbreze
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Originally posted by Antipova
So weird to hear everyone saying penises aren't pretty! I would seriously frame pictures of my partner's, if he would let me, and I keep the VIP (sculpted cock of perfection) on my headboard. I think they're one of the most wonderful ... more
ITA, I love penises..Don't get me wrong there are some UGLY ones but for the most part I love them.
11/08/2011
Contributor: Willow Wand Willow Wand
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Originally posted by Antipova
So weird to hear everyone saying penises aren't pretty! I would seriously frame pictures of my partner's, if he would let me, and I keep the VIP (sculpted cock of perfection) on my headboard. I think they're one of the most wonderful ... more
elink EEWW!
11/08/2011
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
(Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Willow Wand
Cool, I'll try something like that. Thanks!
Glad I could help!
11/08/2011
Contributor: Willow Wand Willow Wand
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Originally posted by Willow Wand
elink EEWW!
not sure why that says link??? lol
11/08/2011
Contributor: Lori Bryant Woolridge Lori Bryant Woolridge
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Originally posted by Antipova
That's one of the things I feel worst about! When a stranger comliments me, I at least can muster a smile, polite thank you, and start a conversation (if appropriate), even when the compliment has totally thrown off my balance and made me ... more
Think about what I said about a compliment being a gift. The reason people like giving gifts is because they love the feeling they get when they see they've made you happy and brought you pleasure. When they don't get pleasure from complimenting your because your response isn't positive, they eventually stop giving. And what's worse, they start believing your version...now you have become too fat or too skinny; your boobs are too big or too small; you're right, you have no ass and your nose is too big. Now your fears have become your reality, and you get mad at him, but you've created the monster.

Listen and learn. Enjoy and exchange compliments.
11/08/2011