i think i'm a ways off! i'm only 25.. i think of cougars at around 45. do i have to wait 20 years to get horny again? last time i was horny i was... 21.

That's terrible!!! Was that sanctioned by VS?

Yep. The image that is portayed nowadays with celebrities is horrible. My daughter is 120lbs and thinks she is fat. Luckily, she doesnt so anything harmful, but still

I would be very happy to send our book "Healing Sex" which is for recovering from rape and sexual abuse. Staci Haines is a survivor of this and has devoted her life to helping others reclaim their sexuality. If you want to give Liz your info and address or you can email me at bknight@cleispress.com .

What a healing move that you can discuss it with others-well on your way!

HAHA, I'm 27, and that was my EXACT thought!

No, but I'm not surprised.

My daughter weighs that as well. She is beautiful but thinks she's so fat.

/HUG

thanks for the kind words, ryuson.

and ps. i fucking love your avatar. i want to keees it.

Um, 120 lbs is so NOT fat. I was probably that weight in 7th grade (I'm pretty tall, though.) I've tried, but I can't get myself below 140. It's like my body says, "I like where we're at, thanks," and I've accepted that.

I am with you all the way on that-bk

My daughter didn't believe me when I told her that Beyonce was technically plus sized. She thought she was skinny.

You absolutely should get tested to make sure that your hormones aren't the culprit, but also understand that your most potent sex organ, your brain, my be caught up in thinking about everything but sex. Your body too is different, and I'm sure with six kids, you're tired as hell!

One thing I tell my clients in your situation is first, Keep the power over your sex life. That often means redefining what sex means in your relationship. Keeping the intimacy alive through kissing, cuddling and mutual masturbation can be just enough when you're just not physically or mentally capable.

Plan a sexcation (a weekend dedicated to sex) and consider creating your own Lust For Me holiday that celebrates your desire for each other. Pick any nondescript holiday or make your own date and build your sexy traditions around it. I have one couple who exchange adult toys on their lust for me day!

In the Power of WOW I also have some simple seduction tips to keep the sexy alive that don't take a lot of effort but have maximum effect.

Don't beat yourself up, find ways to change your sexitude. It will change your sex life!

I think that because of what is portrayed as "normal" for girls now-a-days really does harm almost every adolescent out there. Girls are either underweight and starving themselves, normal weight and wishing they were skinnier or over weight and severely depressed because they want to be pencil thin.

yes- so that is the image put out to everyone about what beauty looks like -egg powder and no solids

Nigella cooks. I fell in love with her watching her cooking show. She is quite charming!

A book like this could be good step toward handling things, since you can take it at your own pace and privately. Face-to-face experience is important, too, though.

brendada, what a graciously kind offer. thank you so much. that's really so kind.

i will send my info to liz, since i'm sending her a few other emails tonight as a result of this meeting.

thank you again.

Take my advice and make your role model Mother Nature! She understands the perfection in imperfection and the role individuality (think snowflakes)plays in true beauty. As I like to say, "Confidence is Mother Nature's push up bra!"

absoLUTEly. i love my kitties. they're my healing grace!

I remember gaining a lot of weight when I went off to college. When I came home for a visit about a year later one of my guy friends said that I was cute before but was really hot not that I was "thick". That made me feel very sexy.

I've read that book, I actually reviewed it. I had a sexual aggression on the border of being a rape, and I had been curious about the book and requested it. The book helps you start from scratch, but a lot of things might feel useless depending on where you are in your healing process.

The most useful thing the book did for me... was to realize that no matter what decisions I took at the time, it wasn't my fault. And it's surprisingly hard not to feel responsible in some ways.

Well, yes, mine too. But I didn't want to oversell the experience, just in case.