Hi you guys! It's time for another EdenKink meeting! This month, based on your vote, we're going to discuss fetish ettiquette in and out of the home. This ranges from kink events and munches to rules and rituals within your own relationship. Before we start I want to make perfectly clear that I am not the authority on this subject. I've never been to a munch, kink club or event. I have, however, done a lot of research and have a good idea of the guidelines people follow. And I would love to hear about guidelines you've encountered that I don't mention. And please feel free to ask any questions you have. Also, not too long ago, Smokedawg reminded us on EdenCafe that "kink" doesn't just encompass BDSM. There are other fetishes and types of "kinky" relationships than those with some form of BDSM-related dynamics. For example, swingers and furries have parties too! If any of you have anything to say about etiquette at these types of events, please tell us about it! I'll admit I have no idea about either, really, besides what they've shown on television. And we all know how accurate television is. /sarcasmIn any case... Without further ado, let's start with etiquette at munches. Have any of you ever been to a munch? Were there any rules you were expected to follow? less

Hi you guys! It's time for another EdenKink meeting! This month, based on your vote, we're going to discuss fetish ettiquette in and out of the home. This ranges from kink events and munches to rules and rituals within your own relationship. Before we start I want to make perfectly clear that I am not the authority on this subject. I've never been to a munch, kink club or event. I have, however, done a lot of research and have a good idea of the guidelines people follow. And I would love to hear about guidelines you've encountered that I don't mention. And please feel free to ask any questions you have. Also, not too long ago, Smokedawg reminded us on EdenCafe that "kink" doesn't just encompass BDSM. There are other fetishes and types of "kinky" relationships than those with some form of BDSM-related dynamics. For example, swingers and furries have parties too! If any of you have anything to say about etiquette at these types of events, please tell us about it! I'll admit I have no idea about either, really, besides what they've shown on television. And we all know how accurate television is. /sarcasmIn any case... Without further ado, let's start with etiquette at munches. Have any of you ever been to a munch? Were there any rules you were expected to follow? less

Back when I was an OP in Submission on dalnet (IRC), some kinksters told me there were often probationary periods for new members and sometimes even extensive joining protocols. Some said you had to know at least five people, or something. Have you guys ever encountered anything like that? less

I've not personally been to a munch. But from what I've observed from others organizing them:

-Be pretty darn vanilla since it is a vanilla setting that most will organize at. (this includes dress!)

-If that's not yours, don't touch it

-Common respect! Use what I like to call 'Whatever floats your canoe! Just don't sink mine!' Not everyone is going to like your kinks, and you're probably not going to like someone else's

-Pay for what you consume less

I've not personally been to a munch. But from what I've observed from others organizing them:

-Be pretty darn vanilla since it is a vanilla setting that most will organize at. (this includes dress!)

-If that's not yours, don't touch it

-Common respect! Use what I like to call 'Whatever floats your canoe! Just don't sink mine!' Not everyone is going to like your kinks, and you're probably not going to like someone else's

-Pay for what you consume less

Back when I was an OP in Submission on dalnet (IRC), some kinksters told me there were often probationary periods for new members and sometimes even extensive joining protocols. Some said you had to know at least five people, or something. Have you guys ever encountered anything like that? less

We have one munch that is alcohol-free - the other 2 (?) are both held in settings where alcohol is sold & consumption is not encouraged nor discouraged. I'd add in those situations, don't get shitfaced.

As for the issue of a fit for a munch or group, I've found that of the three groups I've been to one is aight but I wouldn't go out of my way to attend, one is a great fit, and one is in-between. Also, what you're looking for from a munch or other event/group isn't going to be the same as what Sally or Jim is looking for, so take criticism with a grain of salt.

Oh yeah, and use scene names. less

Back when I was an OP in Submission on dalnet (IRC), some kinksters told me there were often probationary periods for new members and sometimes even extensive joining protocols. Some said you had to know at least five people, or something. Have you guys ever encountered anything like that? less

Back when I was an OP in Submission on dalnet (IRC), some kinksters told me there were often probationary periods for new members and sometimes even extensive joining protocols. Some said you had to know at least five people, or something. Have you guys ever encountered anything like that? less